Ye didi kaun se himmat ki baat kar rahi hai ? - Page 4

Originally posted by: MSgayatri

Didi Ka logic, Didi hi Jane....

Letterkand kare ki bhi shaan se Omi se samne chalti hai..... Virat and sai ko sacchai Ka gyaan deti hai.... Jhut na bolne ki baat Karti hai....

Sai KO party mein Nahi bulke bhi bhulne Ka natak Karti hai......

Sab ke samne Apne past KO accept Nahi Karti hai.....

Yeh bandi contradiction ki bukaan hi Nahi.... Pura Ka Pura market city hai

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Didi maha DUMB bhi hai, ek din pehle bolti hai main bhul gayi bulana...dusre din saree kaand k samay bolti hai , isiliye main ise nahi bulaya...

Didi comes across DUMB and insanely insensitive most of the times, forget Virat, forget Sai, show some sensitivity towards a woman, who has no husband and just a son who is missing in action for a good while..But nahi Didi se bada dard toh kisi ka hai hi nahi..

I partly agree with you as Virat and Pakhi are wrong as they both ruined Samrat's and Sai's life... For their illogical decision and vada... But you are forgetting the main thing about love and that is if you truly loved someone it's very difficult for you to even think of someone else forget even getting married to another person... You met someone during your 2 days yoga session and you claim to be in love with him and one day you call him and he didn't recognize your voice and you block his number in anger... Ok understood you can get angry on your loved ones technology gives you the facility to block that person... But then immediately after that you get marriage proposal... And that's something very serious thing that need to handle wisely but still you rush to say yes to another man when you are mentally involved with another man... I mean how do you do that in fraction of few days??? I am incapable to understand this... And suddenly on your wedding days you meet that person and get confused to marry the man whom you said yes with all your will and ask your so called lover to help you to break you marriage and when he didn't help you... You then blame him now for not showing any himmat??? Did you said your future husband that you are in love with someone else nope... You believe in so called lover's illogical vada for what intension??? That you will enjoy you married in front of your lover just to make him suffer or to have EMA with him??? And people find such lady to be victim of circumstances??? How???

Originally posted by: swara397

I partly agree with you as Virat and Pakhi are wrong as they both ruined Samrat's and Sai's life... For their illogical decision and vada... But you are forgetting the main thing about love and that is if you truly loved someone it's very difficult for you to even think of someone else forget even getting married to another person... You met someone during your 2 days yoga session and you claim to be in love with him and one day you call him and he didn't recognize your voice and you block his number in anger... Ok understood you can get angry on your loved ones technology gives you the facility to block that person... But then immediately after that you get marriage proposal... And that's something very serious thing that need to handle wisely but still you rush to say yes to another man when you are mentally involved with another man... I mean how do you do that in fraction of few days??? I am incapable to understand this... And suddenly on your wedding days you meet that person and get confused to marry the man whom you said yes with all your will and ask your so called lover to help you to break you marriage and when he didn't help you... You then blame him now for not showing any himmat??? Did you said your future husband that you are in love with someone else nope... You believe in so called lover's illogical vada for what intension??? That you will enjoy you married in front of your lover just to make him suffer or to have EMA with him??? And people find such lady to be victim of circumstances??? How???

Hey

No, I keep her responsible for all of that, just that I didn't type it all. I don't find her a victim either. But the dialogue was impactful for me because Virat did lack courage. For me, if at all there is a victim it's only Sai and Samrat. I will believe the love story however slopy it was because both characters seemed to portray this as some eternal love story. But blocking the no and deciding to get married, repeating that she has no issues with the marriage is all her fault. Samrat and her dada kept asking her if she is happy. She clearly wasn't and was bringing her baggage to Samrat. So I am holding her responsible for all that. I didn't write any of this because that wasn't the topic of this past

But the fact remains that she wanted to break it, she tried persuading Virat but he lacked the courage to do this. She took him by hand and was taking him downstairs when he said he cant and gave that Wada. He had only good intentions- not to break his brother's heart. But he was nobody to take a decision on his behalf. All I want him to do is just accept that mistake and reflect on what he did to Samrat and Pakhi to some extent. Pakhi is selfish and wrong but that doesn't absolve Virat's share in this mess

Rest all her delusion, desire to pursue an emotional EMA, her hiding things from Samrat, and all I am blaming her. Himmat dialogue struck me because he did lack courage and that's true. I am keeping him responsible only for that Wada. Rest all is Pakhis own creations.

Originally posted by: Amor_fati

My question if Virat was leading her on.. what was her moral self doing here? Two wrongs can never make a right. She should have ideally stopped Virat. Wasn’t she married? Shouldn’t she respect sanctity of her marriage?

Again whose fault is that Pakhi is alone here? It was her own, if she didn’t call her lover on her first night.. she wouldn’t be in this situation. Samrat would be here and things could have changed. She has to take accountability for her own actions and her life.

In life breakups do happen... If you have nobody to fallback then it’s a battle you face alone.. and move on.. you do not obsess over and spoil your own life.

I would ideally recommend her to go and see a psychiatrist.

I agree to many comments you have written in this thread. She was wrong in bringing it up like that in front of everyone. I do understand what that statement means though.

@bold I agree that she shouldn’t have called him. Firstly I have a few issues with Pakhi even when Virat was wrong. He didn’t fight for their love and that’s where he went wrong. He had asked her to marry his brother by giving her a waada like that. But keeping all these aside, she chose to get married, the reason behind her getting married is totally unacceptable and she also accepted Virat’s waada. Anyone in love, would never want their loved one to not get their share of happiness and Pakhi failed a big time in it by accepting his waada and by also expecting that he doesn’t move on.

Having said all these, Pakhi was in a kind of trance where she had not fully realised what she was doing from the time she decided to get married until she was in CN and especially in Samrat’s room as his wife. Only after she entered CN, when people kept calling her Samrat’s wife, she realised what she has got herself into. They had asked them to spend the nights separately. She was so carried away with her emotions and in her misery that she called up Virat to grieve about it. She realised what she had done, realised she lost her love and called him up. She was wrong to shout that way and declare her love for Virat but as I have already said, her reasons for getting married was wrong but people do make mistakes. The magnitude of the mistake varies and they get called out or disliked depending on that.

What she could have done was realise it and tried to respect her marriage after that and move on.

But what did Samrat do? He heard it and left her like that which I am not okay with. He could have fought with her or brought this in front of everyone or confronted her alone or anything. I am not saying he is entirely wrong. He has tried to ask her what the problem is prior to this but she never was honest. Even then, I feel Samrat shouldn’t have left the house like that. He could have left so that these two get back together or anything but that wasn’t right.

I might be under minority but I feel even if Pakhi is wrong in many ways, she never got a chance to move on. She might have moved on eventually if Samrat was probably with her. It is not Samrat’s responsibility to help her move on, but they both got married and just like how Pakhi should respect their marriage, so should have Samrat. One can’t abandon their spouse like this. If he wanted, he could have initiated annulment or divorce or anything but not this.

Pakhi kept watching Virat moving towards Sai, falling for Sai, things might have been different if she had someone in her life during those times. I am not saying that if Samrat isn’t around, it is okay for Pakhi to feel for Virat, she ideally shouldn’t be. But did Virat move on immediately? Didn’t he have residual feelings for her for a long time then how can we expect her to move on?

Virat’s feelings for her wasn’t as strong as her feelings for a Virat in a way which even Virat never realised. Her state became pathetic because of this and her feelings for him is something that she could never control, never push them away. It became even more difficult when Sai entered Virat’s life. Virat could move on and when all that was happening right in front of her. when her own marital status was a big question and more importantly, when she had feelings for Virat, she started fo act crazy.

None of her actions are justified but her emotions at one point of time are understandable. Watching Virat move on was a very difficult thing for her when she was alone in her life. I don’t deny she chose to get married to Samrat, but I still feel, that things might have not gone out of control, if probably Samrat was with her.

Virat also kept leading her for sometime as even you and a few others have rightly pointed out which just made things worse. He had shared about his marriage to her, let her know he has feelings only for her at one point of time, tried to show and prove his loyalty to her and her promise. All of these fanned her thoughts and expectations in a way. I can understand that Virat was trying to keep his promise but that whole waada was wrong, for him fo give her, for her to accept it too. He could move on but what about her? Ideally she should respect the institution of marriage but so should he. He did fail in a few ways and we can’t deny that.

Pakhi’s impulsive decision to get married to Virat looks like a well planned one because she told her Dad that she wants to stay close to Virat. Actually, that was an impulsive decision, a decision that she took due to her having no control over her emotions for Virat, it was a stupidity. Even during her marriage, she kept hallucinating Virat, she was completely delusional at that point of time. None of these are to defend her, but I am explaining her state at that point of time.

Hence, when we look at her shouting at her on the first night of her marriage, it looks horrible but actually, she had understood the gravity of the situation while sitting in Samrat’s room. Just like Virat took time to move on, Virat also had someone to be able to do it, might have helped if Pakhi too had Samrat around.

I can’t entirely blame Samrat, he did ask her many times but he still need not have walked out like this and gone missing forever. If he wanted to stay away and then return, it was a different thing because he would have needed time to come in terms with the truth of both his wife and his brother but he decided to not return and go missing like this.

Virat didn’t even know that he had feelings for Sai that he can’t even see her cry. He had some connection with her which came out when she tried to commit suicide. But Pakhi only felt for Virat and so it would have taken a longer time for her to get over her past, to move on compared to Virat.

I am not talking that she can’t or shouldn’t have tried to move on until now, but her moving on and his moving on would have been different. It would have been more difficult for her when she had a very strong feeling for him and also when she doesn’t have a partner or anyone whom she can share or with whose help or support she can get over her grief or heartbreak.

None of these means that I support Pakhi and her actions against anyone including Virat. The only solution is for Virat to take accountability of his actions, to apologise to have even given that waada to her, to tell her that he had indeed been a reason for her to get married to his brother and to have broken her heart. Even if it was Pakhi’s decision to get married, Virat was also at fault.

Yes, she can’t forever hold it against him, can’t expect that he never moves on, can’t keep accusing him of cheating her or anything. She is compromising on many things like her self respect. Many don’t like Sai compromising on her self respect getting defeated due to her emotions for Virat, I could only feel that she chooses or values relationship or people more than that but in Pakhi’s case, that can’t be said. She is compromising a lot of things for a person who has no feelings for her, who has clearly said that he is not interested in her, so much that he had even said that a person’s opinion can change once they get to know them. He had conveyed that they hardly shared anything too which hurt her really bad but even then Pakhi feels for him, wants him and is compromising on her self respect way too much. He was wrong in a few things when she spoke to him after he returned from GC. A few things that he spoke should have knocked some sense into her, but she even then started to make tea for him the next day. I don’t see a Pakhi who is angry with Virat, who wants to fight with him for what he spoke during their confrontation but she instead got hurt and continued to expect him to feel for her, continued to have feelings for him and expected him to accept her feelings. That should stop.

She has even let him go after he hurt her arms like that without him apologising to her. She should stop thinking about him and stop pursuing him. It is high time.

She is hurt and angry that he didn’t fight for his love but that should end some day, can’t keep stretching so much. She should accept the truth, the reality and try to find ways to live her life. She is also a human who deserves to live her life, she shouldn’t move on for the sake of Virat or anyone but for her own sake, for her own sanity.

Yups dear he did wrong when he did that illogical Vada and he is accountable for that no doubt about it but she should have understood that if the guy who claims to love her all his life is not even ready to accept her in that situation for whatever reason then how long will he keep his promise??? Chalo that time you believed him but when he got married and even though he said that it's deal marriage then what she had done??? She went ahead and tortured an innocent orphan teenage girl... Why??? What was her fault??? She should have torture Virat na for getting married she gave her clean chit just taunting him here and there specially when he supported Sai otherwise she never had issues with him... Now she started blaming him for everything just because he said that he loves Sai... it's her ego that was hurt... Like how on the earth he dare to love someone else when he claimed to love me for rest of his life... What if Samrat never went and Virat never married Sai ??? Didi would have enjoyed the attention and affection of both the men... But fate took turn and she is left alone and that Sai... Who is orphan, who is not of her status gets all the attention of the Man who claims to love didi... That must have hurted her...

She very well knew she was going to lose everything by canceling the wedding. 🤣
Kyunki Virat wasn't going to marry her even if asked by Samrat. 🤣

Originally posted by: laksh

I agree to many comments you have written in this thread. She was wrong in bringing it up like that in front of everyone. I do understand what that statement means though.

@bold I agree that she shouldn’t have called him. Firstly I have a few issues with Pakhi even when Virat was wrong. He didn’t fight for their love and that’s where he went wrong. He had asked her to marry his brother by giving her a waada like that. But keeping all these aside, she chose to get married, the reason behind her getting married is totally unacceptable and she also accepted Virat’s waada. Anyone in love, would never want their loved one to not get their share of happiness and Pakhi failed a big time in it by accepting his waada and by also expecting that he doesn’t move on.

Having said all these, Pakhi was in a kind of trance where she had not fully realised what she was doing from the time she decided to get married until she was in CN and especially in Samrat’s room as his wife. Only after she entered CN, when people kept calling her Samrat’s wife, she realised what she has got herself into. They had asked them to spend the nights separately. She was so carried away with her emotions and in her misery that she called up Virat to grieve about it. She realised what she had done, realised she lost her love and called him up. She was wrong to shout that way and declare her love for Virat but as I have already said, her reasons for getting married was wrong but people do make mistakes. The magnitude of the mistake varies and they get called out or disliked depending on that.

What she could have done was realise it and tried to respect her marriage after that and move on.

But what did Samrat do? He heard it and left her like that which I am not okay with. He could have fought with her or brought this in front of everyone or confronted her alone or anything. I am not saying he is entirely wrong. He has tried to ask her what the problem is prior to this but she never was honest. Even then, I feel Samrat shouldn’t have left the house like that. He could have left so that these two get back together or anything but that wasn’t right.

I might be under minority but I feel even if Pakhi is wrong in many ways, she never got a chance to move on. She might have moved on eventually if Samrat was probably with her. It is not Samrat’s responsibility to help her move on, but they both got married and just like how Pakhi should respect their marriage, so should have Samrat. One can’t abandon their spouse like this. If he wanted, he could have initiated annulment or divorce or anything but not this.

Pakhi kept watching Virat moving towards Sai, falling for Sai, things might have been different if she had someone in her life during those times. I am not saying that if Samrat isn’t around, it is okay for Pakhi to feel for Virat, she ideally shouldn’t be. But did Virat move on immediately? Didn’t he have residual feelings for her for a long time then how can we expect her to move on?

Virat’s feelings for her wasn’t as strong as her feelings for a Virat in a way which even Virat never realised. Her state became pathetic because of this and her feelings for him is something that she could never control, never push them away. It became even more difficult when Sai entered Virat’s life. Virat could move on and when all that was happening right in front of her. when her own marital status was a big question and more importantly, when she had feelings for Virat, she started fo act crazy.

None of her actions are justified but her emotions at one point of time are understandable. Watching Virat move on was a very difficult thing for her when she was alone in her life. I don’t deny she chose to get married to Samrat, but I still feel, that things might have not gone out of control, if probably Samrat was with her.

Virat also kept leading her for sometime as even you and a few others have rightly pointed out which just made things worse. He had shared about his marriage to her, let her know he has feelings only for her at one point of time, tried to show and prove his loyalty to her and her promise. All of these fanned her thoughts and expectations in a way. I can understand that Virat was trying to keep his promise but that whole waada was wrong, for him fo give her, for her to accept it too. He could move on but what about her? Ideally she should respect the institution of marriage but so should he. He did fail in a few ways and we can’t deny that.

Pakhi’s impulsive decision to get married to Virat looks like a well planned one because she told her Dad that she wants to stay close to Virat. Actually, that was an impulsive decision, a decision that she took due to her having no control over her emotions for Virat, it was a stupidity. Even during her marriage, she kept hallucinating Virat, she was completely delusional at that point of time. None of these are to defend her, but I am explaining her state at that point of time.

Hence, when we look at her shouting at her on the first night of her marriage, it looks horrible but actually, she had understood the gravity of the situation while sitting in Samrat’s room. Just like Virat took time to move on, Virat also had someone to be able to do it, might have helped if Pakhi too had Samrat around.

I can’t entirely blame Samrat, he did ask her many times but he still need not have walked out like this and gone missing forever. If he wanted to stay away and then return, it was a different thing because he would have needed time to come in terms with the truth of both his wife and his brother but he decided to not return and go missing like this.

Virat didn’t even know that he had feelings for Sai that he can’t even see her cry. He had some connection with her which came out when she tried to commit suicide. But Pakhi only felt for Virat and so it would have taken a longer time for her to get over her past, to move on compared to Virat.

I am not talking that she can’t or shouldn’t have tried to move on until now, but her moving on and his moving on would have been different. It would have been more difficult for her when she had a very strong feeling for him and also when she doesn’t have a partner or anyone whom she can share or with whose help or support she can get over her grief or heartbreak.

None of these means that I support Pakhi and her actions against anyone including Virat. The only solution is for Virat to take accountability of his actions, to apologise to have even given that waada to her, to tell her that he had indeed been a reason for her to get married to his brother and to have broken her heart. Even if it was Pakhi’s decision to get married, Virat was also at fault.

Yes, she can’t forever hold it against him, can’t expect that he never moves on, can’t keep accusing him of cheating her or anything. She is compromising on many things like her self respect. Many don’t like Sai compromising on her self respect getting defeated due to her emotions for Virat, I could only feel that she chooses or values relationship or people more than that but in Pakhi’s case, that can’t be said. She is compromising a lot of things for a person who has no feelings for her, who has clearly said that he is not interested in her, so much that he had even said that a person’s opinion can change once they get to know them. He had conveyed that they hardly shared anything too which hurt her really bad but even then Pakhi feels for him, wants him and is compromising on her self respect way too much. He was wrong in a few things when she spoke to him after he returned from GC. A few things that he spoke should have knocked some sense into her, but she even then started to make tea for him the next day. I don’t see a Pakhi who is angry with Virat, who wants to fight with him for what he spoke during their confrontation but she instead got hurt and continued to expect him to feel for her, continued to have feelings for him and expected him to accept her feelings. That should stop.

She has even let him go after he hurt her arms like that without him apologising to her. She should stop thinking about him and stop pursuing him. It is high time.

She is hurt and angry that he didn’t fight for his love but that should end some day, can’t keep stretching so much. She should accept the truth, the reality and try to find ways to live her life. She is also a human who deserves to live her life, she shouldn’t move on for the sake of Virat or anyone but for her own sake, for her own sanity.

I totally agree.. if you see my earlier post to this, I too mentioned that Samrat’s return can only solve this mess.. The problem is not her calling Virat and pouring her heart out…but, when it comes to blurting one must always remember the place, context and relevance( idam, porul, yaeval).. she didn’t know that and poured her heart out on a wrong day in a wrong place.

Samrat’s leaving- if he had calmly given a day and thought it through and confronted Virat, things would have been different, but he felt betrayed.. couldn’t blame him.

Virat’s waada, itself was senseless.. who in right mind can live chaste becoming Pakhidass his entire life. Pakhi’s friend rightly pointed out that no body can keep such a promise before her marriage, but she was blindly in love to realize what she was getting into. Then marrying Samrat to be closer to Virat.. what was her thought process here? Can anybody see their ex in the form of their devar, day in and day out? I accept there is a plethora of emotions involved, she made a erroneous decision to marry a guy to stay in close proximity to her lover and continued to worship Virat even after he got married. But, the moment Virat said he fell in love with his wife.. she must have come to her senses and at least tried to move away from him.. but her worship continued.

Coming to Virat he should have apologized to her about his waada immediately or within a few days of his return from GC.. but he didn’t and now it’s too late, she is not in a state to listen to apologies.. because her whole world shattered because of that one waada and now she is all alone.. Her love has turned into obsession.. her whole world revolves around him.. her hatred towards Sai stemmed out of Sai’s proximity to Virat and Sai’s rights over him as a wife.. that hatred did not even start as hatred, it was mere jealousy.. to an extent it was Virat who fueled it.. However, her vileness is her own doing.

I feel for her as a woman.. haven’t we all made bad decisions deluded by emotions, the thing is at some point we realized the mistake and rectified it… now she is too stubborn to do it.. you are right, she lost her self respect. The way Virat insults her at times.. any woman with self esteem will not bother to give him a second look, but she gets back to him. Even yesterday I strongly felt that Virat should apologize to her for manhandling.. but she didn’t expect even a sorry.

Even Sunny’s words to move on did not affect her. At this point her redemption is in her own hands… I totally agree she should stop living her life for Virat and start living it for herself..Unlike Sai, she has parents who support her, the entire CN support her.. she should cash in all their support and move on. Her father is a gem of a person, who would help her.. she can get a career, get some friends. Get into therapy… boy she needs psychiatric support, as she is severely distraught and borderline bipolar. I researched bipolar disorder after watching her Ladakh fiasco..

Adding - she is also narcissistic, lacking empathy which was clearly evident in Harinee / Devi Tai incident, how can a woman otherwise support such atrocity in the name of family honor? Mohit incident or latest incident with Sai. These don’t develop suddenly must have innate and now heightened due her plight. I don’t how to justify this?

I can relate to her rage, desolation and dejection. Nonetheless from a moral standpoint her actions are always questionable, including her decision to marry and her obsession with Virat.

PS: the above post does not reflect my fondness towards Pakhi.

Originally posted by: Amor_fati

I totally agree.. if you see my earlier post to this, I too mentioned that Samrat’s return can only solve this mess.. The problem is not her calling Virat and pouring her heart out…but, when it comes to blurting one must always remember the place, context and relevance( idam, porul, yaeval).. she didn’t know that and poured her heart out on a wrong day in a wrong place.

Samrat’s leaving- if he had calmly given a day and thought it through and confronted Virat, things would have been different, but he felt betrayed.. couldn’t blame him.

Virat’s waada, itself was senseless.. who in right mind can live chaste becoming Pakhidass his entire life. Pakhi’s friend rightly pointed out that no body can keep such a promise before her marriage, but she was blindly in love to realize what she was getting into. Then marrying Samrat to be closer to Virat.. what was her thought process here? Can anybody see their ex in the form of their devar, day in and day out? I accept there is a plethora of emotions involved, she made a erroneous decision to marry a guy to stay in close proximity to her lover and continued to worship Virat even after he got married. But, the moment Virat said he fell in love with his wife.. she must have come to her senses and at least tried to move away from him.. but her worship continued.

Coming to Virat he should have apologized to her about his waada immediately or within a few days of his return from GC.. but he didn’t and now it’s too late, she is not in a state to listen to apologies.. because her whole world shattered because of that one waada and now she is all alone.. Her love has turned into obsession.. her whole world revolves around him.. her hatred towards Sai stemmed out of Sai’s proximity to Virat and Sai’s rights over him as a wife.. that hatred did not even start as hatred, it was mere jealousy.. to an extent it was Virat who fueled it.. However, her vileness is her own doing.

I feel for her as a woman.. haven’t we all made bad decisions deluded by emotions, the thing is at some point we realized the mistake and rectified it… now she is too stubborn to do it.. you are right, she lost her self respect. The way Virat insults her at times.. any woman with self esteem will not bother to give him a second look, but she gets back to him. Even yesterday I strongly felt that Virat should apologize to her for manhandling.. but she didn’t expect even a sorry.

Even Sunny’s words to move on did not affect her. At this point her redemption is in her own hands… I totally agree she should stop living her life for Virat and start living it for herself..Unlike Sai, she has parents who support her, the entire CN support her.. she should cash in all their support and move on. Her father is a gem of a person, who would help her.. she can get a career, get some friends. Get into therapy… boy she needs psychiatric support, as she is severely distraught and borderline bipolar. I researched bipolar disorder after watching her Ladakh fiasco..

I recognize her rage, desolation and dejection and feel for her. Nonetheless from a moral standpoint her actions are always questionable, including her decision to marry and her obsession with Virat.

PS: the above post does not reflect my fondness towards Pakhi.

Will reply to you in detail later. Just want to talk about your ps 🤣. I think I should add one too.

I absolutely agree with edam porul eval and I loved how you used that. I use it too and always keep that in mind 😅.

Originally posted by: laksh

Will reply to you in detail later. Just want to talk about your ps 🤣. I think I should add one too.

I absolutely agree with edam porul eval and I loved how you used that. I use it too and always keep that in mind 😅.

😀Actually Pakhi can show a lot of emotions.. but I am unable to interpret even a single appropriate one from the actress.. that is the major drawback🤣🤣

Pakhi is too delusional to be relatable. But as a fictional character, she can be analysed.

At the start of the show, Pakhi is shown to be a care-free girl, travelling and enjoying her life. She is quite polite. The first important information that we gather about her is her unmarried status (at 26 years) - and the reason is she is waiting for destiny to show her THE ONE - who by her definition is someone who will look into her eyes and be lost. I don't know of I'm right, but to me that sounds too much like a fairytale view of love.

She meets Virat and feels an instant connection and she decides that destiny has finally found her the one. Fate separates them even before they can confess their feelings. This brings another important aspect of Pakhi's personality. When Virat fails to recognize her voice, she feels rejected - because according to her if Virat truly loved her, he would know her voice! This assumption is very juvenile and she reacts to this childish belief by switching off her phone. And henceforth, she never even tries to take things into her own hands, to fight for her love. Which makes one wonder about Pakhi's upbringing - has she never faced any disappointment (even small ones) in her life? Perhaps, she was her father's princess - had everything served on a platter; never had to struggle for anything? Had a cocooned life which never gave her a taste of real life? Just as a difficult childhood can blight an individual's life even after they grow up, an upbringing that is too sheltered and never prepares you to face the realities of life is highly dysfunctional one as well.

After the failed phone call, Pakhi has already given up on her love. Dejected and heartbroken, she agrees to an arranged marriage for the sake of her parents. As misfortune would have it, on the day of her wedding, she meets Virat and also learns that he was blameless in their 'relationship'. I don't believe she was planning on an EMA with Virat, I don't think she even knew what she was doing - she was overwhelmed with emotion and her only instinct was to not let go of Virat. This decision was the biggest mistake of her life. When we end our relationship with someone, we move as far away from that person as possible and try to rebuild our life. But Pakhi's situation became exactly opposite to what would have helped her move on - seeing her Ex everyday and that too with a young wife he was quickly getting attached to - she got sucked in a whirlpool.

I don't think she was a manipulative person before, but in her desperation to prevent Virat from slipping away from her life, she developed a lot of negative skills almost instinctively. The more Virat leaned towards Sai, the greater was her desperation. Like Asmi said, hatred for Sai would have been an understandable emotion but alas she went too far in her actions.

I agree with Anamika - I also found Virat - Pakhi's dialogues on 'himmat' powerful. Pakhi who was thus far, always focused on retaining Virat's favour by acting demure (at the cost of her self-respect) but cloaked under the guise of maturity, Samrat, family - finally let her real feelings show. She resents Virat for not standing up for their love - and that anger, she projects on Sai. It is ironic because she herself never found the courage to either fight for her love or to own up to her mistake in the failed 'romance' or hell, even to confront Virat. I liked @cheekukabeej's take on this - she doesn't take responsibilty because she hasn't even realized it - and realization is always the first step towards taking responsibility.

It might seem Virat lacked himmat when he refused to marry Samrat - to me he lacked motivation. For all his 'dard and 'zindagi ujad jaana' feelings - somwhere his heart did not really value that 'love' (unlike Pakhi, he has seen the real world after all). His overwhelming emotions and resulting ridiculous vaada came from a confusion over the idea of love. It is interesting what he tells Pakhi during Samrat's wedding - "Main Samrat ke liye apni jaan dene ko taiyaar hoon, pyaar to choti si cheez hai" 😆. Will he ever say that his love for Sai is "choti si cheez"? Or give up Sai just as easily as he sacrificed Pakhi?

Next point - we keep discussing about Virat and Pakhi's proximity in the scenes. What if they are actually deliberate? Are the writers trying a bad attempt at imagery and symbolism - that Virat and Pakhi are mirror images of each other? Both highly emotional, extreme in their love and crossing boundaries when their love is under question? Difference is that Virat got the love of his life and Pakhi didn't? (I hope that I'm mistaken).

Edit: 'Mirror image' conspiracy theory is probably totally my bakwaas interpretation. 😆