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Another great episode!
Shaurya is fighting so hard to do the right thing. Devi has stirred up his insecurities and he is plagued by his fears of being abandoned but he is still trying so hard to do the right and fair thing not because of Anokhi but because he would have done this for anybody. However he is fearful and his fear is going slowly and gradually overshadow their love or atleast that is the everyone's expectation. He could not even participate in his wife's happiness and her romantic date wholeheartedly. This is from a guy who could not keep his hands off his wife. I am however surprised that Anokhi could not sense his conflict or the fact that his smile did not reach his eyes today. Shaurya hesitated making a new promise today that he would have made happily a few days earlier. He needs to understand it is unhappy spouses that walk away from marriage not ones that are happy and feel loved. No one feels loved and happy when they feel like they are being controlled and treated like a puppet.
I think Anokhi had some intuition about his internal conflict. It's probably why she planned the date. She was looking for a quick fix. She's also not privy to the poison that Devi is filling Shaurya up with. Without knowing all the details, Anokhi doesn't have the proper ammunition to defend herself in this war.
Devi is just too cheap. No affluent household asks their new DIL to go and deposit electricity bill these days. Anything to make Anokhi come across as incompetent and incapable. As expected she runs late and suddenly everyone blames Shaurya (even though they voted for her too) and he feels embarrassed. He is insecure, he is frustrated, he is embarrassed and he is getting pulled in all different directions with no clarity hence the outburst. Anokhi does need to get smart and understand that she cannot balance BM's expectations with her dreams not because it cannot be done but because she is being set up for failure purposely. She also does not realize her perceived failure will also impact her marital life drastically. As for Shaurya, I am still surprised that he has that much trust on BM after all she has done. Also he was never shy about sharing his thoughts and feelings with Anokhi but I feel he has not been sharing his inner thoughts with her lately and that is the most scary part in the way their relationship is progressing.
Anokhi is being set up for failure and the fact that she doesn't stand up for herself against Devi is maddening. She is selective about what she fights for, which is really what some viewers were asking for initially - for her not to fight at every turn.
Great point about Shaurya not sharing as much anymore. I think he fears that his inner monologue is still misogynistic. No matter how much he's changed, his expectation of his wife hasn't really changed. He's just added to it. There's no way Anokhi an meet everyone's expectations. Something has to give!
Next up is the issue of name changing. I get Anokhi's discomfort but that is the whole reason that the issue was bought up by Devi. I am also surprised that Anokhi had no problem being called Mrs Anokhi Shaurya Sabherwal until now but suddenly she has huge problem. I also do not agree with Anokhi's argument that name changing is like treating her as property based on precap. Association of names is not a sign of possession but rather can be sign of partnership. In any case this will stir up Shaurya's insecurity even more. I hope Shaurya has a better solution to this and he has given some thought to it. I am hoping he does not go for something as drastic as changing his name but rather shoots for adding Sabherwal at the end of her current name. She gets to retain her identity but gets a boost from Sabherwal name too.
I'll have to hear her argument about the 'property' comment before judging. I disagree that the name change is a sign of partnership. It's really a handover in our customs. From being associated to your father to being associated with your husband, because women aren't identified for themselves. This is culturally very different for me. I know cultures in India that change first and last names and ones that adopt husbands name as middle and last name. I don't come from such a culture so I can't fully identify with this. We carry our mother's first name as our surname from birth to marriage and then take on our husband's first name as our last name after. But we can't deny that patriarchy requires that you have a unified name in the house, which usually means the husband's family name. When children are born, they're assumed to take on their father's family name, even though you carry more of your mother's DNA!
It is odd how love works, in real life I have seen too many married couples struggle with the very traits that attracted them to their spouses to begin with. Anokhi is in an impossible situation. It is not her fault that her husband has insecurities and that he is constantly being put into a position where he feels like he is fighting a war with his family. Though I am unsure if Anokhi has any realization of that or what toll it is taking on Shaurya. Even the most skilled warriors need a break and peace.
Unfortunately Shaurya hasn't worked through his issues with Aastha and now he is married to someone who also brings up the same issues. He's got to introspect!
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