Originally posted by: MistyDawn
Not sure about the comparison part.. why can't Ayi and Amma co-exist in Pallavi's life as her mother and mother in-law..? If we can be happy about Amma breaking the typical ITV MIL and being the all supportive saas who is more like a friend to Pallavi then why can't we expect the same thing from Ayi? What has she done so wrong that has earned her this unfair criticism? Amma and Ayi are very different people from very different backgrounds.. Amma has been lucky to have had a supportive husband like Ajith for whatever time they spent as husband wife.. compare that to Sharda who has to deal with a man like Vijay in her life, day and day out...she still goes out of her way to stand with Pallavi even if that means putting strain on her personal life..and for what? Pallavi is now technically a Rao..the ma beti realtionship is something Sharda and Pallavi are ''choosing'' to live for each other.. Honestly, at this point it wouldn't be wrong to say that Ayi has sacrificed her personal life and her married life, for Pallavi..there is nothing left in Vijay and Sharda's marriage, no mutual trust and no respect.. Amma,on the otehr hand is not answerable to anyone.. she is free to take her own decisions and do whatever she wants.. She is lucky to have had a loving and supportive husband like Ajith and a son who literally worships at her altar... yes she suffered huge personal loss and whatever happened after that was mostly her own doing which she realized later which is great..I know I maybe digressing at this point..but really comparing Ayi and Amma is unfair according to me.. If after Mandhar returns Ayi's character takes a 360 degree turn then I will be really upset but I will be the first one to criticize her.. but for now I want to believe that Ayi will be a positive character throughout..
Of course they can co-exist and it's good for Pallavi if they do.
I am not comparing them but the writers are showing contrasts in their dynamics. Not sure why you felt I was, perhaps my wording wasn't the best.
It may be for a couple of reasons. First of all, with the storm that's coming their way, the Raos and Deshmukhs will have some tough times. Pallavi might end up fighting everything on her own and deal with her own conflicted emotions. Raghav and Ayi may not be able to help her because they themselves will be distraught as will the rest of the Ds. Pallavi is going to need one or two strong and unbiased people to stand by her because this might be one of the most difficult times in her life. I expect Amma to be that person because she will have an objective perspective. Also, she's conscious of having forced her decisions on Pallavi but has learnt (hopefully) from that, especially after Pallavi has openly talked to her about it. I doubt she'll repeat it and she might not force Pallavi to stay with the Raos even if it she knows it'll break Raghav's heart. As I said in another post, Amma's objective approach might even help Ayi figure things out because as a woman who lost her young son she might be able to empathize. I always felt they could be friends at one point, but that's been left unexplored.
Secondly, I refer to Pallavi's statement that Amma is always going to be just her MIL while Sharda will always be her Ayi. This sounded like an absolute to me and since then we've seen the water become murkier. What she shares with Amma is evolving into a friendship, into a different kind of bond that I don't think she was expecting or prepared for. It's organic so she might not see what we're seeing. With Ayi, she treats her like her mother but if she sees her behave as an MIL later, or should I say as Mandaar's mother, how would she feel? Would Pallavi be too conscious of her grief/dilemma and not want to call her out on dragging her back into D-fam issues now? It is fine for her to have healthy conflict with Ayi if things come to that. Clearly, something stops her from having that open communication with her and perhaps that will never change. It's a different relationship to that with Amma and it's fine. We don't always tell our mothers everything but we can often tell our friends. They are not mutually exclusive roles in our lives.
Personally, my hope is that Ayi will face a dilemma and will be overwhelmed with Mandaar's return. In fact, it would be quite weird if that didn't happen. Later on, she would see things clearly and make the wise decision to support Pallavi regardless of her choice of partner/future. I just think it's unrealistic to expect Sharda to be all hunky dory if Mandaar returns and not feel conflicted if Mandaar expects Pallavi to return to him. Perhaps he won't, perhaps there will be other challenges and fights with Sanki which Ayi will get dragged into and Pallavi may not be able to help her. So far, she hasn't had to deal with this because Pallavi became her daughter without Mandaar really being around after the wedding. If Mandaar had still been alive and Pallavi had led a domestic life with him, would her relationship with Sharda be the same? That's what we might find out later when Mandaar returns.
Pallavi has to figure out who she wants to maintain ties with in the long run and if Sharda remains her Ayi and she's happy with it, then why not? As long as it doesn't turn into an obligation (hoping CVs won't go that way), then it's fine.
Ayi calling Pallavi up is completely understandable and in keeping with her character. She's been used to having Pallavi around, it will take her some time to let go. Also, she's lonely these days, none of her kids are around so clearly she reaches out to Pallavi at a time like this.
Edited by inlieu - 4 years ago
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