Episode spoiler - 5 July 2021 - Page 12

Also credit given to Sandeep sir for allowing pallavi to wear those gym clothes , that was shivangis choice of outifit i guess .

I am so glad they didn't expect her to do yoga in kurta like other itv 😂

I see many writing that Raghav being selfish by not telling the truth to Pallavi. In his defense, I think its more difficult for him to keep the truth in his chest and living with it than letting it known to Pallavi.

By telling the truth, the worst can happen is his family and happiness will be gone, but by burying it inside him, he will die of guilt everyday. He will never be able to move on with Pallavi or be happy with her whole heartedly. There will always be a wall between them, blood on his hands.

So somewhere to protect her, to keep her happy, he is gulping the poison himself.

If he tells the truth to Pallavi, maybe she will hate him, divorce him, move out of his house etc, in short, will leave Raghav and blame him for the death of Mandar, but at least he will be clean, no secret in his chest and maybe start fresh with Pallavi. But by not telling her, he dies slowly, Pallavi will be happy, but he will never let her close to him, which will disturb her even more.

There’s a part of me that wants them to show flashback scenes of Pallavi + Mandar. Because from what they’ve shown so far, I don’t know why she’s beating herself up so much about missing his birthday. Even if it’s guilt towards Aayi, is it not excessive for someone who was only married to a man for less than 24 hours? I’m not sure that they ever mentioned that their marriage was a love marriage. Pallavi always talks about him as if he was a good man, but I never got the vibe that she had romantic feelings for him. So if she wasn’t in love with him (she was probably more in love with their possible future) why feel this distraught over missing a birthday.

I get that while living with D fam she would participate every year, but she’s moved on? Why did Aayi call her to come? She’s living a new life, and although she considers Pallavi a daughter, she’s also still her son’s widow who has married and moved on with her life. It’s insensitive of Aayi to keep reminding Pallavi of the actual connection she has with the D fam.

I guess I need to see more of a connection between Pallavi & Mandar to truly understand why Pallavi feels so much guilt towards him & D fam for moving on. A part of me feels like her dead best friend also has something to do with all this. IDK but her reactions to Mandar and his passing specifically is excessive IMO until they show more of how well they knew each other & if she was actually ever in love with him.

Originally posted by: drnidsur

Also credit given to Sandeep sir for allowing pallavi to wear those gym clothes , that was shivangis choice of outifit i guess .

I am so glad they didn't expect her to do yoga in kurta like other itv 😂

@BOLD She looked so young in that outfit .I Hope they do gym&yoga sessions quite often .

Originally posted by: fria319

There’s a part of me that wants them to show flashback scenes of Pallavi + Mandar. Because from what they’ve shown so far, I don’t know why she’s beating herself up so much about missing his birthday. Even if it’s guilt towards Aayi, is it not excessive for someone who was only married to a man for less than 24 hours? I’m not sure that they ever mentioned that their marriage was a love marriage. Pallavi always talks about him as if he was a good man, but I never got the vibe that she had romantic feelings for him. So if she wasn’t in love with him (she was probably more in love with their possible future) why feel this distraught over missing a birthday.

I get that while living with D fam she would participate every year, but she’s moved on? Why did Aayi call her to come? She’s living a new life, and although she considers Pallavi a daughter, she’s also still her son’s widow who has married and moved on with her life. It’s insensitive of Aayi to keep reminding Pallavi of the actual connection she has with the D fam.

I guess I need to see more of a connection between Pallavi & Mandar to truly understand why Pallavi feels so much guilt towards him & D fam for moving on. A part of me feels like her dead best friend also has something to do with all this. IDK but her reactions to Mandar and his passing specifically is excessive IMO until they show more of how well they knew each other & if she was actually ever in love with him.

I fully agree with you!

I don't understand why Aai would call her, it's not justified at all. If anything, she could've phrased it as "we're doing a pooja for Mandaar; you, Raghav, and Amma are welcome to join if you like". That way it would come across as a typical invitation for a generic prayer meet as opposed to "Pallu tu aa rahi hai na?".

I think Pallavi's guilt is based off of the hole she lived in while with the D-fam. Now that she's out from that cave, she has no reason to fret nor feel guilty. I sincerely hope Sanki Buddha doesn't make her do some insane widow-related ritual at the pooja. I'm also hoping this pooja gives way for Pallavi to speak up to D-fam and make it clear that she's no longer emotionally obligated to Mandaar. There is no reason for her to participate in a pooja for her ex-husband, with her husband - especially when the majority of her ex-husband's family dislikes her and her husband!

Originally posted by: inlieu

+1 to Jaya being the best MIL. She takes life really simply and this is also quite visible in Raghav's attitude to life, i.e. I don't care what people think. He's probably gone a step further.

On other ITV shows, the new MIL would probably have been unhappy or even objected to Pallavi going to her ex-sasural for events related to her late husband. Again, I feel they are showing these moments between Jaya and Pallavi and contrasting it with her gradually changing dynamics with Ayi. It's all fine for Sharda to be her mother but when Mandaar returns, there's no way she can be 100% a mother. The MIL part of her is naturally bound to wake up. There will be conflicts of interest then and while Sharda is a good person, she's only human. This is when Jaya's practical approach will help Ayi, Pallavi, and Raghav make sense of the mess, especially in Pallavi's case where she might feel she's been betrayed by both her husbands

Not sure about the comparison part.. why can't Ayi and Amma co-exist in Pallavi's life as her mother and mother in-law..? If we can be happy about Amma breaking the typical ITV MIL and being the all supportive saas who is more like a friend to Pallavi then why can't we expect the same thing from Ayi? What has she done so wrong that has earned her this unfair criticism? Amma and Ayi are very different people from very different backgrounds.. Amma has been lucky to have had a supportive husband like Ajith for whatever time they spent as husband wife.. compare that to Sharda who has to deal with a man like Vijay in her life, day and day out...she still goes out of her way to stand with Pallavi even if that means putting strain on her personal life..and for what? Pallavi is now technically a Rao..the ma beti realtionship is something Sharda and Pallavi are ''choosing'' to live for each other.. Honestly, at this point it wouldn't be wrong to say that Ayi has sacrificed her personal life and her married life, for Pallavi..there is nothing left in Vijay and Sharda's marriage, no mutual trust and no respect.. Amma,on the otehr hand is not answerable to anyone.. she is free to take her own decisions and do whatever she wants.. She is lucky to have had a loving and supportive husband like Ajith and a son who literally worships at her altar... yes she suffered huge personal loss and whatever happened after that was mostly her own doing which she realized later which is great..I know I maybe digressing at this point..but really comparing Ayi and Amma is unfair according to me.. If after Mandhar returns Ayi's character takes a 360 degree turn then I will be really upset but I will be the first one to criticize her.. but for now I want to believe that Ayi will be a positive character throughout..

Originally posted by: fria319

There’s a part of me that wants them to show flashback scenes of Pallavi + Mandar. Because from what they’ve shown so far, I don’t know why she’s beating herself up so much about missing his birthday. Even if it’s guilt towards Aayi, is it not excessive for someone who was only married to a man for less than 24 hours? I’m not sure that they ever mentioned that their marriage was a love marriage. Pallavi always talks about him as if he was a good man, but I never got the vibe that she had romantic feelings for him. So if she wasn’t in love with him (she was probably more in love with their possible future) why feel this distraught over missing a birthday.

I get that while living with D fam she would participate every year, but she’s moved on? Why did Aayi call her to come? She’s living a new life, and although she considers Pallavi a daughter, she’s also still her son’s widow who has married and moved on with her life. It’s insensitive of Aayi to keep reminding Pallavi of the actual connection she has with the D fam.

I guess I need to see more of a connection between Pallavi & Mandar to truly understand why Pallavi feels so much guilt towards him & D fam for moving on. A part of me feels like her dead best friend also has something to do with all this. IDK but her reactions to Mandar and his passing specifically is excessive IMO until they show more of how well they knew each other & if she was actually ever in love with him.

@bold - exactly what I felt and wrote in another one of my posts that if aayi truly were a mother to Pallavi she wouldn’t have reminded her about this day especially when she is trying to move on with her husband.

And for the rest of your thoughts Pallavi already told Raghav she didn’t love Mandar and that she never had the chance to love him. It’s only her guilt towards aayi she was upset about forgetting Mandar’s birthday. And even though she doesn’t believe in all the apshakun rubbish she did hear it every day from people and subconsciously sink in hoti hai yeh baate because of which she feels highly indebted and grateful to D fam in an unhealthy way that they didn’t blame her for Mandar’s death.

And she didn’t love Mandar because no matter how hard one tries to forget, birthdays and death anniversaries of the loved ones are the worst and it’s really impossible to forget those and even if someone misses out the on noticing the date, these days have a way of sneaking up on people subconsciously, it’s like the brain knows and without realising one feels depressed and irritable around that time.

Originally posted by: drnidsur

Also credit given to Sandeep sir for allowing pallavi to wear those gym clothes , that was shivangis choice of outifit i guess .

I am so glad they didn't expect her to do yoga in kurta like other itv 😂

Headstand wearing salwar kameez would be so weird.

Originally posted by: fria319

There’s a part of me that wants them to show flashback scenes of Pallavi + Mandar. Because from what they’ve shown so far, I don’t know why she’s beating herself up so much about missing his birthday. Even if it’s guilt towards Aayi, is it not excessive for someone who was only married to a man for less than 24 hours? I’m not sure that they ever mentioned that their marriage was a love marriage. Pallavi always talks about him as if he was a good man, but I never got the vibe that she had romantic feelings for him. So if she wasn’t in love with him (she was probably more in love with their possible future) why feel this distraught over missing a birthday.

I get that while living with D fam she would participate every year, but she’s moved on? Why did Aayi call her to come? She’s living a new life, and although she considers Pallavi a daughter, she’s also still her son’s widow who has married and moved on with her life. It’s insensitive of Aayi to keep reminding Pallavi of the actual connection she has with the D fam.

I guess I need to see more of a connection between Pallavi & Mandar to truly understand why Pallavi feels so much guilt towards him & D fam for moving on. A part of me feels like her dead best friend also has something to do with all this. IDK but her reactions to Mandar and his passing specifically is excessive IMO until they show more of how well they knew each other & if she was actually ever in love with him.

The scene between Krishna and her before the wedding had a lot of context. Mandaar and she had dreamt of a future together, promised to look after each other's families if something happened to the other person. She's the kind of person who takes relationships seriously and while we don't know the full story, from her point of view, Mandaar was a good man who would have given her a good life, but he died tragically on the night of their wedding. She may not be grieving his passing but there's always a sense of melancholy somewhere.

Pallu was continuosly staring at raghav's lips when they fell on the bed She is so so GONE these days . I bet she won't even mind if he kiss her one of these days☺️