Originally posted by: Lostin90s
You know that Sai had no choice that's why she begged Virat not to give in to pressure from villagers. Even if we assume that she had alternative, let me ask you a question: did she know before marriage that her husband's ex presence would be looming over their married life 24*7? Did she know that she would be relegated into an other woman in her own marriage, in her own house? If not, how the hell is she not a victim? And I am not talking about all the humiliation she has to endure from her husband's ex and elders just because of his pusillanimity, this is when he claims to love her!
How can we say that? Virat told her that he can't accept her as his wife. Virat told her that he cannot be her husband. Virat told her that he had promised someone else that he cannot give place in his heart to any other woman. Sai heard all these and still agreed to marry him.
How does it matter if Virat fell in love with Sai and is still carrying on his special friendship with Pakhi? Virat had anyway told Pakhi that he has no feelings for her, so how can we blame Virat even if he moves with Pakhi like she is his friend and he is not aware of what her expectations are from him? How is Virat wrong in expecting Sai to reciprocate his feelings after his feelings towards Sai has changed? Whatever he had said was said months back, his feelings and whatever he has been doing is what that matters even if that meand that he doesn't stand up for her in front of his family, even if that means he doesnt stand up for his wife when she gets humiliated by his ex cum friend, even if that means that he will play friendship frienship with a friend who openly keeps showering love on him and also will confess her feelings for him.
Sai knew what she was getting into (though she had no clue that she had to live with such a family and Virat's ex who will roam around him like a madhumakki). Virat took her responsibility, married her after telling all the truth, hence she has no rights to question or fight back even if she is being humiliated or wronged or instigated.
Let me try to understand this.
Even after I write the above, I wonder when a man has been so honest
- to set conditions or clearly stated his situation before marriage to the girl whom he was about to get married to
- told his would be wife and even after she became his wife as what to expect from him and what not to time and again
- had expected that the deal wife adjusts with his family
- expected the deal wife to understand how important his family members were for him, asked his deal wife to not disrespect his family members
- expected the deal wife to understand how important his friend was and not to disrespect or hurt or insult his pyaar oops friend
- expected the deal wife to understand his friendship, be empathetic towards his friend whose husband went MIA and act respectfully towards her
- has even fought/warned/yelled the deal wife to have hurt/insulted his friend
in a marriage which was not supposed to be a real one, which was only a deal marriage.
The same man doesnt think it is necessary
- to be honest with his wife about his past
- to communicate or clarify that his past is past and means nothing else
- to express his changed feelings to his wife whom he considers to be a real wife and no longer a deal wife
- to ask his wife to consider it to be a real marriage
- to ask his family members to behave respectfully with his wife or not to insult her
- to ask his friend only FRIEND to behave respectfully with his wife, not to insult/hurt his wife
- cannot fight/warn/yell the FRIEND to have hurt/insulted his wife (whom he considers to)
- draw clear lines with his friend and also maintain them at all times, not like one day his wife is in his harms, he would himself hold his friend's hand to stop and another day when his wife is upset with him would ask his friend to not even touch him
- cannot inmediately react but instead would stand as a mute spectator when his wife keeps getting humiliated or targeted unlike his instant reaction for his family members/friends
when he no longer thinks that the marriage is a deal one and who wants to make is a real one, who wants his wife to understand his changed feelings, wants his wife to reciprocate his feelings .
Why do we and many of us smell hypocrisy or double standards in him ?
So many high expectations from just a deal wife for whom the family or a friend is no one but his family or friend but was obligated to follow his expectations because he tòok his responsibility and because she was dependent on him or was taking a favour from him because he was getting her educated 🤔?
Very little expectations from friends and family when it comes to how to behave or treat his wife even when she was once dependent on him and even now when she is no longer his responsibility and who is no longer dependent on him, whom he is head over heels in love with, whom he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤔?
Expectations from a girl who was about to be his wife and who had also become his wife, to not think him to be her husband, to not act like a wife (can ask not to interfere in his famiy matters, not to act possessive of him when he moves with his friend or when his friend moves with him, can ask not to question his relationship with his friend)
but zero expectations from a friend cum sister in law to not act like a wife (would not clearly state that it is not her job to feed him food or keep serving him food, can't protest immediately that she shouldn't be packing his clothes along with hers, can't ask not to interfere between husband and wife's matter, can't ask not to act possessive when a husband is feeding his wife, can't ask not to question about their relationship or what he got out of this marriage, can't say it is not her business but his wife's business to take care of him, can't say that he sent her away from the hospital because his wife was with him and she shouldn't have been there in first place).
Whom should we feel sorry for? Can't sorry for a girl because she was informed by him before their marriage that he had committed to someone else? Have to feel sorry for the husband because he had anyway let his situation and truth know to the girl whom he was marrying? Have to feel sorry for him because his friend humiliated his wife yet again and the wife dared to retort or respond or react with a fact she was aware of and the same fact was conveniently forgotten by his friend by trying to act a victim accusing the wife in front of the family that she made her husband sleep on the living room couch only because she found the two friends talking ?
Edited by laksh - 4 years ago
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