Does a loyal & adhered husband behave like Virat?

Thoughts?

Tagging few the ones whose views I love reading on this forum.

Loyalty has a lot to do with sharing past and other truths of one's life..Virat has kept away Sai from a lot of truths of his life, he has kept her away from establishments the development in his and Patralekha's relationship from his point of view..For Sai he is still standing there and with whatever played at the precap, it will establish her thoughts.. Virat is not loyal emotionally to Sai..

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Loyalty has a lot to do with sharing past and other truths of one's life..Virat has kept away Sai from a lot of truths of his life, he has kept her away from establishments the development in his and Patralekha's relationship from his point of view..For Sai he is still standing there and with whatever played at the precap, it will establish her thoughts.. Virat is not loyal emotionally to Sai..

He wronged both the girls imo.

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

He wronged both the girls imo.

And still is doing... I have to see the confrontation scenes to understand what he says to Patralekha..

If Sai gets to hear, we loved each other, you cheated me, I was to become your wife.. How is she supposed to deal with it? How is she supposed to be at peace and not react?

You know that I give only neutral views. I am not happy with the character Virat in the recent past but I can give my views based on my understanding of the character since the beginning.

As much as I am unhappy with Virat for many things, I don't doubt his loyalty.

I must say that Sai and Virat's marriage is not a regular one. Virat set the conditions during his marriage, his mindset during the marriage is not what it is now or for a long time now. It had changed a long time back. When he wants to make it a normal one, when he wants Sai in his life, first step should be is to let Sai know that he made a mistake by laying conditions during their wedding and that he wants go undo all those, wants to spend the rest of his life with her.

He is not even able to take this most important step even now, what else do I say? Whatever be the conditions in which he grew up in, he really has to grow up in a few things, needs to break away from the chain tied by his family, needs to learn to become self confident, has to build it himself, no one can help him in this, it has to come from within him.

So, given the conditions in which they got married, there are a lot of things that have still not come to light between the couple. This has to be addressed only by him. He wants his wife, then it is simple, share about your past with her and then confess your feelings. I feel many problems will get solved if he does this. He needs to let Sai know about what Pakhi has been telling ever since he returned from GC, that transparency is very much needed. It doesn't matter who Pakhi is, but when it comes to husband and wife and when he thinks it to be a real marriage, he should start fixing things.

I don't doubt his loyalty but it is also true that people won't behave this way. There might be a few who does this but it is very very rare.

Every action will have its own repercussions and so will his. Looks like this guy will only learn when he faces the wrath. No sensible guy would behave this way, holding the hand of a woman to stop her from leaving, doesn't matter whether he was hugging his wife or not, shouldn't have held the hand of the woman who has clearly shared her feelings with him and who has also been expecting him to reciprocate her feelings.

It was not like the chilly grinding scene, even back then, I only felt that he could have taken help from the ladies of the house to help her out but he chose to do it on his own. He can be concerned about her as his friend, as a human too, hw probably doesn't think about gender while acting human. But that was when he had no clue about her feelings and expectations. Now that he knows, he should know how to behave and this is not even a medical emergeny for him to attend.

I was not even happy with him sharing his grief about Devi and Harini to Pakhi. I don't see the necessity. Him telling that he wants his sister to be happy is okay but talking to her or sharing with her that his heart broke and all that as if she is his friend or she thinks him to be her friend is ridicuolous. I too have friends and I too would share many things with my friend, but I wouldn't do that to a friend whom I know harbors feelings for me. It doesn't matter whether I am married or not. It is not just to respect my spouse, it is also to ensure that I don't encourage my friend to have any unwanted thoughts or unethical expectations from me. I would never want to mislead my friend, not at any cost. Any husband/wife would do the same, would always draw clear boundaries with anyone let alone with a friend who has feelings for them.

But I have to tell that I feel that if you are talking only about the hand holdig scene, then it is the fault of the makers and has nothing to do with the character. If they want to show that the character is acting this way, then they have ruined Virat for me even further. I don't doubt his loyalty even now, but it is not his business always to ensure that his friend stays happy. His first priority should be his parents, his spouse and his siblings. She is important as a family, he might be thinking her to be his friend, but she shouldn't always be that important to him that her cries or hurt should bother him and make him run behind her or to console her.

They are not even regular friends, they share a past and he is well aware of her feelings, then there is no point in acting empathetic towards her always and then cry or brood that his wife doesn't reciprocate his feelings.

Ler go of her, there are others for her who can take care of her or if you are concerned, ask your mom to check on her, call up her parents asking them to check on her if really needed, he shouldn't be the one to offer her support all the time.

Husbands might or might not behave like Virat, probably a few do behave the way he does. THEY SHOULD NOT.

Originally posted by: laksh

You know that I give only neutral views. I am not happy with the character Virat in the recent past but I can give my views based on my understanding of the character since the beginning.

As much as I am unhappy with Virat for many things, I don't doubt his loyalty.

I must say that Sai and Virat's marriage is not a regular one. Virat set the conditions during his marriage, his mindset during the marriage is not what it is now or for a long time now. It had changed a long time back. When he wants to make it a normal one, when he wants Sai in his life, first step should be is to let Sai know that he made a mistake by laying conditions during their wedding and that he wants go undo all those, wants to spend the rest of his life with her.

He is not even able to take this most important step even now, what else do I say? Whatever be the conditions in which he grew up in, he really has to grow up in a few things, needs to break away from the chain tied by his family, needs to learn to become self consident, has to build it himself, no one can help him in this, it has to come from within him.

So, given the conditions in which they got married, there are a lot of things that have still not come to light between the couple. This has to be addressed only by him. He wants his wife, then it is simple, share about your past with her and then confess your feelings. I feel many problems will get solved if he does this. He needs to let Sai know about what Pakhi has been telling ever since he returned from GC, that transparency is very much needed. It doesn't matter who Pakhi is, but when it comes to husband and wife and when he thinks it to be a real marriage, he should start fixing things.

I don't doubt his loyalty but it is also true that people won't behave this way. There might be a few who does this but it is very very rare.

Every action will have its own repercussions and so will his. Looks like this guy will only learn when he faces the wrath. No sensible guy would behave this way, holding the hand of a woman, doesn't matter whether he was hugging his wife or not, shouldn't have held the hand of the woman who has clearly shared her feelings with him and who has also been expecting him to reciprocate her feelings.

It was not like the chilly grinding scene, even back then, I only felt that he could have taken help from the ladies of the house to help her out but he chose to do it on his own. He can be concerned about her as his friend, as a human too, hw probably doesn't think about gender while acting human. But that was when he had no clue about her feelings and expectations. Now that he knows, he should know how to behave.

I was not even happy with him sharing his grief about Devi and Harini to Pakhi. I don't see the necessity. Him telling that he wants his sister to be happy is okay but talking to her or sharing with her that his heart broke and all that as if she is his friend or she thinks him to be her friend is ridicuolous. I too have friends and I too would share many things with my friend, but I wouldn't do that to a friend whom I know harbors feelings for me. It doesn't matter whether I am married or not. It is not just to respect my spouse, it is also to ensure that I don't encourage my friend to have any unwanted thoughts or unethical expectations from me. I would never want to mislead my friend, not at any cost. Any husband/wife would do the same, would always draw clear boundaries with anyone let alone with a friend who has feelings for them.

But I have to tell that I feel that if you are talking only about the hand holdig scene, then it is the fault of the makers and has nothing to do with the character. If they want to show that the character is acting this way, then they have ruined Virat for me even further. I don't doubt his loyalty even now, but it is not his business always to ensure that his friend stays happy. His first priority should be his parents, his spouse and his siblings. She is important as a family, he might be thinking her to be his friend, but she shouldn't always be that important to him that her cries or hurt should bother him and make him run behind her or to console her.

They are not even regular friends, they share a past and he is well aware of her feelings, then there is no point in acting empathetic towards her always and then cry or brood that his wife doesn't reciprocate his feelings.

Ler go of her, there are others for her who can take care of her or if you are concerned, ask your mom to check on her, call up her parents asking them to check on her if really needed, he shouldn't be the one to offer her support all the time.

Husbands might or might not behave like Virat, probably a few do behave the way he does. THEY SHOULD NOT.

I understand you, considering what Patralekha has done and what he got to know just in the morning, these scenes and him being so patient and concerned for her doesnt go well with me.. SO much forgiving when it comes to these ones.. Had it been a month or two after that, where he could have seen how PP is remorseful , I would understand this scene of hand holding.. but not right after what she admitted to doing and does not even feel an ounce of guilt.. considering that he had to plead her for the same..I am certainly not okay with the way he is behaving with Patralekha right now.. Especially because he had such extreme desire to punish Sai just few days back...He has not even thought on how Patralekha catalysed his emotions towards Sai when he thought she did a crime, even after knowing the truth..Also he doesnt get to want Sai for himself , he needs to be firm about certain things, including her respect in this house..

I am not saying he is disloyal to Sai.. But certain emotionally not very much loyal to her..You see borderline disloyal to her for sure.. I would not have said so in the beginning of their marriage, because he was not in love with her.. Now that he is , he is not being loyal to her by not letting her know what has transpired between the two. What is she to think witnessing the talk between Virpakhi, considering she has not been informed anything.. The meaning of dost for them held a different meaning in the beginning and now it has changed for Virat.. Sai has not clue and Virat still calls her his dost.. So how is she to react now, I am not sure if I will go against her if she lets it out infront of the family.. Its too much to take for a wife.

The problem I have found with Virat's characterization (especially in his equation with Pakhi) is that most of the times we don't know if his character is supposed to have a particular trait or it is a case of bad writing aimed at increasing uncertainty and drama. To me the whole Pakhi angle has been so poorly written that it has resulted in Virat's intentions being open to interpretation. It can easily be interpreted negatively. So does he still harbour feelings for Pakhi? Or is he simply satiating his ego by encouraging the affections of two women? Or is he really over Pakhi & what we see is a ridiculous attempt at extending a plot? We will never know....

The same is the case with Pakhi. While she comes across as a pretty one-dimensional, delusional cuckoo to the audience, makers have envisioned her as an angst-ridden grey character who we might sympathize with....and it fails badly.

Lack of creative juices ....

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

The problem I have found with Virat's characterization (especially in his equation with Pakhi) is that most of the times we don't know if his character is supposed to have a particular trait or it is a case of bad writing aimed at increasing uncertainty and drama. To me the whole Pakhi angle has been so poorly written that it has resulted in Virat's intentions being open to interpretation. It can easily be interpreted negatively. So does he still harbour feelings for Pakhi? Or is he simply satiating his ego by encouraging the affections of two women? Or is he really over Pakhi & what we see is a ridiculous attempt at extending a plot? We will never know....

The same is the case with Pakhi. While she comes across as a pretty one-dimensional, delusional cuckoo to the audience, makers have envisioned her as an angst-ridden grey character who we might sympathize with....and it fails badly.

Lack of creative juices ....

Exactly and what if Neil was not portraying it, the way Virat is written, people would confuse ot to be love for Patralekha.. That's what I want to point out as well..

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Exactly and what if Neil was not portraying it, the way Virat is written, people would confuse ot to be love for Patralekha.. That's what I want to point out as well..

Exactly. Neil has been their saviour....if not for him Virat would have been rejected long back. I don't understand this lack of dedication in writing the main lead, let alone the third lead. Did they even want to sell Virat to the audience...?

Nor do i understand the toxicity we have been tolerating - they might as well have reduced the vileness and toxicity if they wanted to give grey, layered Chavans. We might have had some respite....

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Exactly. Neil has been their saviour....if not for him Virat would have been rejected long back. I don't understand this lack of dedication in writing the main lead, let alone the third lead. Did they even want to sell Virat to the audience...?

Nor do i understand the toxicity we have been tolerating - they might as well have reduced the vileness and toxicity if they wanted to give grey, layered Chavans. We might have had some respite....

I am not sure, atleast they can go with showing Sonali positive..