Pakhi's obsession with Virat

We all are irritated by Pakhi's behavior. I am one of them. It could be also because we ship SaiRat and anyone who stands in between will be hated :) We tend to vilify the third person, so it becomes easier to like the favorite pair.

I think Pakhi's character is very simple to understand, and a very real one too. She is a decent human being, who might not be selfless as Sai but definitely not an evil person. I thought of understanding her character iff her life would have gone as per her wishes. What would she have been?

Even then, I could only imagine her as being possessive, selfish and temperamental which are common traits in most human beings, not evil. However completely opposite of what Virat wanted as a family man. Why? I could not imagine her as an independent working woman who works alongside Virat and takes care of his family members. Why? Not that it is wrong to live separately from joint family if one doesnt like it. It is completely OK for a wife and husband to come out live on their own. But I somehow feel that she will be this kind of a person who limits her relationship with just Virat and her parents. Why?

I think one can gauge a person better by seeing how they respond in unfavorable situations. Not when everything is going well. So is Pakhi's current behavior actually a mirror to her actual behavior? Why is she not moving past Virat? I come to understand her behavior is more possessive and obsessive rather than understanding and adjusting, with or without Virat which again is not evil, just bad.

Why the obsession not love?

She attached so much value to Virat that she thinks he is the most valuable possession. Whatever little I understand of the human behavior, we all are prone to attach value to one thing or the other and feel terrible when someone else has it but not us. Be it a handbag, or jewellery, a house or a person. Same is the case with Virat for Pakhi. She had tremendous attraction towards this guy who she thought was 'perfect' for her. She attached a brand value to the man named Virat and made him raise to something unachievable. May be Samrat is a better person, objectively speaking and as Virat mentioned several times, but in her eyes, no one could match Virat. Extreme attraction and fondness for something can cause that kind of attachment towards it. The loss of such thing can only cause envy not heartbreak. For her Sai has got something valuable which she lost narrowly. So the envy. She sees Virat only as possession. Thats why she gets agitated when Sai claims her right over him. If it was genuine liking for a person and a heartbreak, it will heal over time. May be you cannot move ahead with another person, but you dont hurt the beloved one.

So my point is, even if Pakhi married Virat, she would have been extremely possessive to the fault with Virat. He was a desirable possession, which like any other object fades with time. Just because he is unavailable now, the possession became obsession. And someone is having it in front of her is driving her to extreme behavior. The solution to her problem is to divert her from Virat . It is just the mind that is involved here, not the heart. The heart can be healed with time and the mind can be diverted. Samrat's disappearance is the nail on the coffin I guess. If not for that, she would have tried to move on. Hence in future, if Samrat comes back she will give a chance to her marriage. I think that is what is shown in KD.

PS: If we see Pakhi's problem independent from SaiRat, we can empathize with her. :)

Moral baseline doesn’t allow me to sympathise with her even if I put SaiRat aside because she’s an abuser and she abuses Sai, every single day. Verbal assault and physical (hand hold by force and mirchi incident where she was complicit).

Otherwise if you’re saying hypothetically none of this happened even then I wouldn’t be able to because she wronged Samrat.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Moral baseline doesn’t allow me to sympathise with her even if I put SaiRat aside because she’s an abuser and she abuses Sai, every single day. Verbal assault and physical (hand hold by force and mirchi incident where she was complicit).

Otherwise if you’re saying hypothetically none of this happened even then I wouldn’t be able to because she wronged Samrat.

I meant to say the extreme behavior comes from envy, not heartbreak.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

I meant to say the extreme behavior comes from envy, not heartbreak.

I wouldn’t call her a decent person.

It went out when she was willfully complicit in ruining devis life knowing the truth. What just because she didn’t like Sai? She doesn’t have to be selfless to be decent. She knew about a kid being separated from the mother and still chose to side with kaku

She let a woman be chucked out of the house middle of the night and no remorse at that too.

She is vile and manipulative , she can’t hide her every action behind her obsession with Virat.

Basic personality doesn’t change with change in situations and scenarios. And for me personally i don’t want to delve into what ifs to think about Pakhis character cos she has lost my sympathy a long time back.
if CVS want to redeem her; now would be the right time

PS I would say this even if she wasn’t a major hindrance to sairat

Until the time she was trying to convince Virat to tell everyone the truth, I still felt bad for her until she accepted his promise and chose to marry Samrat for wrong reason.

See what I feel is that when Pakhi married Samrat, she wanted Virat to be in the state she is currently in.

She wanted him to see her move on with Samrat, be happy, while he is still stuck with thoughts of 2 day yoga love, desperate for her attention and to spend few moments with her.

Instead karma struck and tables turned. She was , is and will be selfish.

Originally posted by: notaquitter

I wouldn’t call her a decent person.

It went out when she was willfully complicit in ruining devis life knowing the truth. What just because she didn’t like Sai? She doesn’t have to be selfless to be decent. She knew about a kid being separated from the mother and still chose to side with kaku

She let a woman be chucked out of the house middle of the night and no remorse at that too.

She is vile and manipulative , she can’t hide her every action behind her obsession with Virat.

Basic personality doesn’t change with change in situations and scenarios. And for me personally i don’t want to delve into what ifs to think about Pakhis character cos she has lost my sympathy a long time back.
if CVS want to redeem her; now would be the right time

PS I would say this even if she wasn’t a major hindrance to sairat

Yes I agree to your points. She did everything because of her envy. Envy caused Kurukshetra war afterall.

What I am saying is, she is obssessed to the point of fault. If she had been married to Virat, she would not have been this vile but just possessive and selfish. She did all this to win over Sai, to put her down because Sai has something valuable that she doesnt have. It drives her mad.

I am just saying, she CANNOT be this vile, if Virat is removed from her mind.

I don't know what to say 😭. For me she'll be the one who expected EMA from Virat. She clearly told her parents she's marrying to get close to Virat and softly as a friend. She was clear in her idea what she wants. She knew Samrat won't be here for long and Virat will visit Nagpur on occasions so it'll be easier for her to seduce Virat. She imagined Virat doing the marriage rituals, first step towards adultery according to scriptures too. She was entering CN seeing Virat's pic, she flinched twice when Mansi wanted a grandchild, was against going to honeymoon with Samrat, so it's not about making Virat jealous. She wanted to guilt trip him and she does till now. She instigates Virat's male ego against Sai.

For her, the motto is if not I then no one should be in his life. She didn't find Sai harmful at first. She accepted what Virat said, she's his zimmedari only. But she saw how Virat is fulfilling Sai's wishes, taking stand for her, making her dream as her own, then when she became insecure. She tried to guilt trip him at many occasions, taunted for taking care of Sai, made sarcastic remarks. She's insecure and sexually frustrated woman who wanted EMA from his BIL, when she didn't get, she's acting like a maniac .

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Yes I agree to your points. She did everything because of her envy. Envy caused Kurukshetra war afterall.

What I am saying is, she is obssessed to the point of fault. If she had been married to Virat, she would not have been this vile but just possessive and selfish. She did all this to win over Sai, to put her down because Sai has something valuable that she doesnt have. It drives her mad.

I am just saying, she CANNOT be this vile, if Virat is removed from her mind.

My opinion is if it was not Virat , she will become vile for things THAT don’t go her way.

She will be fine as long as everything goes according to her wants. Ones true character is revealed when things don’t go their way. And if not for Virat, he this negative character would come out with the NEXT thing that she wanted but could t get.

Just my thoughts based on her behaviour.

Originally posted by: sukri

Until the time she was trying to convince Virat to tell everyone the truth, I still felt bad for her until she accepted his promise and chose to marry Samrat for wrong reason.

See what I feel is that when Pakhi married Samrat, she wanted Virat to be in the state she is currently in.

She wanted him to see her move on with Samrat, be happy, while he is still stuck with thoughts of 2 day yoga love, desperate for her attention and to spend few moments with her.

Instead karma struck and tables turned. She was , is and will be selfish.

So true, she wanted Virat to suffer seeing her and Samrat together, which I feel is vengeance.

Also I personally feel Pakhi has psychopathic traits, her love for Virat is definitely not love but obsession.

Pakhi is her parent’s single child who has never really been denied anything so that’s why she can’t bear anything being denied to her. Single children usually tend to be of two types: 1. Since they aren’t being denied anything they learn to value and cherish them and 2. The ones, who grow insatiable, because they aren’t being denied and want everything they desire. I feel Pakhi comes under type 2, she can’t ever imagine not getting something and since she couldn’t get Virat she behaves this way.

I was just irritated with Patralekha because of her interference between Virat n Sai... but From the time She tried to destroyed Devi Tayi life ... when she even knew about her children n marriage too through Bhavani... I started to hate her because she is criminal minded ... not just ex-GF of Virat who is jealous for anything or everything.