Originally posted by: Indira12
Faja, I was going through the old episodes yesterday for Hemu's Mini----Rudh VM 😑, but thanks to her, I made an amazing discovery 🤪. That day you were saying na that Ani had to lose his lifetime love for Bon, I pondered over it and this is what I got to realize -
Ani not only did a favor on Bon by marrying her but also did a favor on himself. 🤪 Had he married Mini, their marriage would have turned bitter a few years down the lane. Because of the obvious fact that love did not existed between them. It's very simple - they were childhood friends and on growing up, attraction developed towards each other which is very normal cause it is a natural part of growing up. This infatuation is what Ani/Mini mistook as love. Infatuation does not stay for long and friendship wouldn't have been enough to run this marriage. Hence, even if Bon was not there, their relationship would have been broken at some point of time.
Same as in the case of Mano as well. It would be wrong to even say he 'loved' the image of Mano he created in his head. No. He only admired her for she was among the few of the women he has seen who were courageous and fearless. This he confused it with love.
Going by Mano's words, he 'liked' her for her bravery. He 'liked' Mini too but as a friend for he thought her to be a good human being and obviously educated. He even likes Bon for her inquisitive and daring nature. But the moment these 'likeable' conditions go away, his 'liking' too goes away. Example - how he completely forgot Mini and rebuked her when her apparent 'good' nature changed. If Mano had become weak somehow, his 'liking' for her too would have disappeared and all this ZBKP would have been like 'it never existed at all'.
But with Bon it never happened that way. When, according to Ani, Bon changed from an 'khaas' Bondita to 'aam' Bondita, his feelings for Bon did not changed for a bit. When according to Ani (during Sampoo track), 'Bondita ab vo pehle vali meri Bondita nahi rahi jo rishto ko samajhti thi balki rishto mei jhooth aur dagabaazi ki milavaat karti hai ', he was angry at her yet his care and concern towards her did not for once. Which is why he still went over to her to help her build that house-replica. His feelings for her did not change for once.
Liking needs conditions, love is unconditional. This is a very unrealistic approach towards love which is why very to rare to find. The feelings for Mini and Mano changed the moment the conditions became void, but for Bon nothing changes even if he is hurt or angry at her. Explains very much "kuch khafa hu, kuch dukhi hu, narazgi hai tujhse, phir bhi koi dor hai jo bandhe huye hai tujhse". The dor of pure love . The reason why their love is way too idealistic since it is more of a empyrean and ethereal one, way beyond the worldly attachments and definitions...❤️
Makers kuch bhi kare ab, I don't care, mera perspective to yahi rahega 👍🏼
Aur iss gyaan ke liye Hemu doshi hai, usi ke liye purane episodes dekhne padh rahe hai, aur vo bhi Ani-Mini scenes 🤢