If Pakhi had not been Sai’s abuser would u have sympathised with her? - Page 3

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

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She lost my respect the day she married Samrat to be close to Virat. To me sanctity of marriage is very important. When one takes those vows, one is supposed to fulfill them honestly. I feel she never thought of Samrat's life getting ruined in her own selfishness. My dislike for her increased because she tortures Sai, but I already had started disliking her for treating Samrat that way!!

May be she could have perused Virat after rejecting Samrat, but being close to him by marrying Samrat is creepy, and I can't sympathize with creeps!!!

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Again what is wrong or right / morality differs from person to person it’s not black and white. She asked Virat to call off the wedding and he asked her to marry his brother with the condition she will be the only to have ever reigned his heart — and she chose her lover over her would be husband in a moment of weakness, like many woman who have been a “fool” in love. Emotions cloud your judgement.

Samrat has been wronged no doubt whether by Virat and Pakhi or only Pakhi/Virat depends on a person’s POV.

I agree but that wasn’t a moment of weakness. She told her Dad, pyaar junoon hai or something like that. That’s moment of weakness? Her agreeing to Virat can be, not when she had some motive which was visible when she spoke to her Dad.

No I still wouldn’t be able to sympathise with Pakhi.

She has no self respect- she comes across as desperate when Virat and her are having conversations.

Pakhi is self centred and has never done anything positive since getting married unless she is benefitting from it. She is very bitter so it’s hard to have any sympathy for a character that is so negative.

That character could have garnered sympathy but the execution of actions makes it hard to understand what is being portrayed. All the others actors particularly Sai and Virat use their eyes and facial expressions to convey emotions. I don’t find that with the Pakhi character.

but in a nutshell I can’t sympathise with a woman who is trying to break up another woman’s marriage, has no self-respect, does not honour her own vows and is stupid enough to believe a guy after knowing him for 2 days.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Fair enough, why do you think she decided to not work initially? Bhavani set some rules though and she knew it was the condition, something like Chavan Bahus don’t go out for work. She was comfortable with it.

So Pakhi is not comfortable sitting at home. She just suppressed her zeal for stupid reasons .

Pakhi never is bound by rules. When she left CN getting angry with Virat,she didn’t bother to listen to Bhavani even.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Interesting take, love sometimes makes a person weak and affects their decision making ability. I’m sure she is not the first woman in history who has been a fool in love.

But does love gives her the free pass to ruin someone’s life? Does it justify the abuse Sai she dished at Sai? If she is called a fool in love, would we extend the same courtesy to Jagtap too since he was also harassing Sai out of ‘love’. Her being in Love cannot be used to brush her every misdeed under the carpet. There are people out there who stalk and harass and tease in the name of love, but that is not justifiable under any circumstance.

There's nothing to vote for me😆because I already sympathise with her.

I don't condone her actions towards Sai and find them totally wrong but I do sympathise with her.

Yup, if pakhi didn't abused sai or forced virat even after he said he loves sai and not involved in doing bad stuff like writing letter, I would have sympathize her, although I didn't like the way she accepted the vadha but in that vadha both virat and pakhi are equally at fault , so if she didn't make go guilt trip always, I would have sympathize her, I fact I felt bad for till still she bashes virat and sai after DIG track and Usha mausi room scene.

I lost my respect for her when she imagined Virat in Samrat's place during her wedding. And then she called Virat on her first night, told him she loved him. She knows Samrat may have left because of this yet she continues to have expectations from Virat with no guilt.

What about her wedding vows??

I personally cannot condone disrespect towards one's marriage or spouse through infidelity even if emotional.

Whatever she wants to do, she can do once she's outside of the marriage. She can still annul her marriage.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

I’m trying to look at her with unbiased objective lenses now that I’m kinda sorta losing interest in SaiRat

I have stopped watching the show. I liked the way her character dealt with Sairat in the episodes prior to the SR. Trying to be rational, and keep her jealousy in check. They completely debased her character to add every stereotype about the "other woman". It's vile.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Whether a woman wants to be carrier oriented or not is a very personal decision, we don’t shame house wives for being house wives so why is she being targeted for this?

The Pakhi w/o abuse is someone who fell in love with a man, who she thought cheated on her so she decided to move on but later finds out he was waiting for her and hence asks him to marry her, the man says no and promises to never love anyone apart from her with the condition she marries her brother.

As for why she should do such a thing and moral policing on it —

I’m keeping any moral / ethical argument aside because morality differs person to person and it’s not black and white.

Agree we don’t shame housewives.. but is house there .. do we see her husband there .. and her mother In law .. if she’s so dedicated to her mom in law .. she can still try to devote time to her take her for clinical depression

And she’s sitting idle passing commentary on Sai’s life .. Sai has a full fledged day .. she works in the house goes to college come back to study has a fully bonded relationship with her mom in law and also keep tabs on devi tai ki life ..

What is pakhi doing except pandering to kaku’s ego ..

Should an about thirty year old waste her life like this..

What if after 10 years .. samrat still does not come back

What will be the status quo in the house

Kaku , ninad a lot older .. they will be less cranky .. as by then virat will be at least a joint commissioner in police

So he will be more dominant in the house .. Sai would be a doctor plus having atleast 1 kid with Virat..

Mohit Karishma having 1-2 kids plus Mohit more settled in some career ..

What will pakhi’s role will be .. still serving tea to badi mami ..she should not waste her time