Originally posted by: MistyDawn
🤗 wiped the entire night cream off my face thanks to the tears that just kept rolling..but not complaining.. this is what you'd expect the dynamics to be, given the circumstances under which they got married.. You know its hard to connect to Pallavi's emotional dependency on the D's because its hard to be in her shoes in general.. How much it means for an orphan to have someone she can call Ayi baba..regardless of whether or not they deserve it.. though Ayi, has always been her genuine well wisher.. Raghav is now understanding that because he knows the value of family and relationships.. I don't think that she doesn't realize that it's her family, her baba to be precise who is the one guilty of her hurting her the most... much more than Raghav ever can.. who is Raghav afterall? But this family she accepted as her own, these relationships she nurtured with care, love and devotion..these relationships are the ones that turned out to be shallow and fake..THAT hurt has broken her from within.. that's the hurt that came out when she confronted Ayi on the day of her wedding.. she knows everything..she is not delusional but she wants to outweigh the hurt of the betrayal with the all the good times she spent with them, the love and support she got from them..because that's how she is..she takes strengths from the positives..yesterday when Raghav showed her the other side of the story..the part she has been trying not to think about because its so damn hurting...she got all agitated and indignant because she doesn't want to hear the bitter truth and least of all from Raghav..also she has not given him that right yet.. it's like I am ok being angry with my family if they hurt me, but I cannot hear a stranger or an outsider bad-mouth them..
P.S- While we are keeping a track of how many times Raghav got slapped in the show, let's also keep a count of how many times Pallavi fainted😃
@bold exactly, and I agree she knows deep down who wronged her. This is why you don't see her trying to make amends or even approaching Sanki to sort things out. She never once called him or tried to talk to him. Why? Because she knows the truth but is just trying to push it away. Just like it was easy for Raghav to pin the scandal on Pallavi it's now easy for her to make him the scapegoat. He's there and available, and not resisting as he normally would. Punching Bag. In a way, she resents him for being the catalyst that exposed the fragility of her relationships with the Ds.
As for how many times Pallavi fainted, I believe it's the 4th or 5th time. She looked so fragile and an alpha like Raghav is bound to be overprotective seeing her like that. That scene of her lying on the bed crying, was well-executed. Not common for FLs but I'm so glad they did it like that. Him being unable to see her in that state, the fighter Pallavi all limp was just 'enough to make a grown man like him cry'. Also, can I just say how pleased I am to see a strong, tough, intelligent ML like Raghav cry and express his emotions openly? It's really refreshing, seriously. Caring about your wife and feeling her pain, even when you're not in love with her yet, but because you care about another human being, is a wonderful thing and I'm so glad they showed this in detail. These things make a huge impact in terms of social conditioning and providing men (and women) good role models against toxic masculinity.
One more thing. The more I think about it, the more I feel it's not so much emotional dependence on the Ds as it is her search for her identity. I am not sure what her social and financial conditions were like growing up, but it seems like without parents she may have had an identity crisis or felt like her existence was nomadic of sorts. When she married Mandaar, she took that family as her anchor and their name and identity as her own. Something solid, something rooted. Now that even her surname has been changed as has her 'home' she feels stripped of it all and is once again struggling to find her identity. I would argue about her need to change her last name ever, i.e. why not always remain a Sawant, but that's a contentious topic I won't get into right now. The point is, in future her name shouldn't be her identity, it's just a formality/legality. She would be Pallavi at heart, that's all that matters.
She thinks she had an independent, happy life with the Ds, but we know she will grow and become independent in the true sense as time passes with the Raos. Sure, she doesn't see this right now. Raghav does, and I know he will be her constant support in that journey because he himself went through it when he was separated from his family and had to fend for himself. That's why he is so proud of his name and reputation as 'Raghav Rao'. It's not so much arrogance but a demonstration of his sense of achievement, having battled all alone through lots of hardships in the cruel world as a young person.
Edited by inlieu - 4 years ago
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