Did Virat respect Sai’s consent when she refused to marry him? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

If virat force intimacy with sai why sai herself blushes, why she sleep on same bed with virat so comfortably if virat is so after getting physically intimate with her .

Nobody here said he is forcing intimacy. Don’t twist other people’s words.

He didn't say no for the marriage from his side. Had Sai refused I am sure he wouldn't have forcibly married her. It's just that from his side he wanted to marry her. Why didn't Sai say no ? She even said that she can't say no to the villagers because she doesn't want to hurt them. 😳 So what consent are we talking about ? 🤔

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Nobody here said he is forcing intimacy. Don’t twist other people’s words.

Whose word I twisted jisko post quote ki usko koi problem nhi hai aapko problem hai.

Freedom to speech forgotten.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

He didn't say no for the marriage from his side. Had Sai refused I am sure he wouldn't have forcibly married her. It's just that from his side he wanted to marry her. Why didn't Sai say no ? She even said that she can't say no to the villagers because she doesn't want to hurt them. 😳 So what consent are we talking about ? 🤔

Nope. She refused and gave the reasons why she couldn’t convince the villagers and her “no” wasn’t given any importance, so she asked him to refuse and run away.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Nobody here said he is forcing intimacy. Don’t twist other people’s words.

Don't take this in the wrong way, but to answer your question,

Originally posted by: dairymilkanu

In my view Virat never respected sai's consent

Sometimes I feel so bad for sai.She had never known mother's love and had a stalker behind her since she was 15 then also managed her studies and also became topper. She dreamed to become doctor and enjoy her college studies .She was nearly raped then also she didn't give up but fate had other plans.After the death of her father all the persons who she considered as herself was in busy to arrange her marriage to a stranger. She asked him to say no because no one values her opinion but he was adamant in his opinion to marry her and also said to her about the other woman in his life.In my view before virat confess his love he must think about all those pain Sai gone through. He himself had hurt her many times.Now he tries to get physically intimate with her.I think it is a wrong move because it may bring her memories with Jagdap.First virat must openly talk to her at that point Sai may breakdown in front of him sharing all her pain(I like to see this track in ghum) he must heal all her wounds and then they must start their new life and on next stage he can confess his love

Sorry if I went beyond the topic

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This where the talk of forced physical intimacy came.

I repeat, don't take this the wrong way, or that I am trying to bash you or anything. Just answering your question.

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

Don't take this in the wrong way, but to answer your question,

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This where the talk of forced physical intimacy came.

I repeat, don't take this the wrong way, or that I am trying to bash you or anything. Just answering your question.

She’s not saying that he’s forcing intimacy so I still don’t get where the forced intimacy part is from?

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

She’s not saying that he’s forcing intimacy so I still don’t get where the forced intimacy part is from?

Umm, she said Virat is trying to be physically intimate with her. Then she further proceeded to say that its not a good idea, because Sai is uncomfortable because of her past. Hence the talk of forced intimacy. I am sorry if I misunderstood anything.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Nope. She refused and gave the reasons why she couldn’t convince the villagers and her “no” wasn’t given any importance, so she asked him to refuse and run away.

It might sound that I am repeating it but if she herself couldn't say no then why expect him to say no on her behalf ? 🤔 Actually she again wanted to dominate him "I am saying go tell the villagers you don't want to marry me and that's how it should be." Had she refused no one would have forced her. Why expect Virat to do what she can't do herself. 🤔

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

She’s not saying that he’s forcing intimacy so I still don’t get where the forced intimacy part is from?

I only meant that when virat confess his feelings and if sai also reciprocates the feeling then only virat get intimate with her.At that time he must pay attention to Jagdap issue.

Coming to present situation virat loves to have physical intimacy with sai like normal husband but he limits his feelings to himself because there is not any single hint from sai.So he tries to know whether sai has wifey feelings towards him.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

It might sound that I am repeating it but if she herself couldn't say no then why expect him to say no on her behalf ? 🤔 Actually she again wanted to dominate him "I am saying go tell the villagers you don't want to marry me and that's how it should be." Had she refused no one would have forced her. Why expect Virat to do what she can't do herself. 🤔

Hey,

I understand your point but I have a slightly different view

I believe both were forced but Virat took a conscious, informed decision. So Virat is wiser in age & stature. If he would have refused Villagers couldn’t have forced him again. They hold no right over him. They can’t compel him like Sai. Even if Virat refused they would have married Sai off to someone else. Sai would have been more submissive because of courtesy and obligation towards the villagers. She’s young & not earning, she would have been a burden on them. She herself wouldn’t have preferred that. Virat’s’No’ matters to villagers because Sai can be convinced into an yes by them for whatever affiliation they have towards her. Plus her helplessness as an orphan in that context matters. I remember her saying to Virat she can’t say No to villagers because she values them a lot & even if she says no they won’t listen to her. Looking from the Villagers pov they did love Sai but they thought a marriage is the most secure way for her future. She wouldnt have been able to fight them. Like may be she could have strictly refused to KJ because thats her father & the freedom to refuses comes with it. But here for the villagers Shes already a burden. She really couldn’t choose.

But Virat wasn’t bound by these constraints except for KJ’s promise- which wasn’t to marry her but take care of her. Villagers interpreted it differently & he gave in because ultimately he cared for her future & safety. But he could have refused. If he refused marriages wouldn’t have happened. As far as Sai’s refusal if not this some ones else would have married her sooner or later. What Sai said is right hes an IPS officer he can’t forced to do something. Keeping apart the villagers pressure I believe he took a fully conscious, informed decision. I think the expectations come from the fact that he’s 27-28, an IPS officer, more mature & not bound by wishes of villagers whereas has nothing to weigh her decision on- she’s an orphan, just 18, jagtap fear is still fresh, she’s already a burden to villagers & is bound by the well-wishers opinions.

I hope I made sense:)