Being a Housewife - Page 2

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

Very subjective question... And it definitely depends on audience...

I have opted for first option as no matter what... Being financially independent is human right... And no one is born with a dream of being dependent... People are often conditioned or forced to chose the path... However, disrespecting woman for being home maker is one of the worse thing!

😆 I am pretty sure this poll on Anupama forum would likely yield a different result...

I have seen many women making fun of housewives because they are working and calling their work inferior which I didn't liked .

Originally posted by: rumi_dee

I respectfully disagree with the framing of the question and the polling options. Calling an individual’s choice Good or Bad cannot be up to us. Absolutely no hard feelings, but please hear me out ❤️✌️
You and me can never decide what a women “should” or “must” do. Every woman, for that matter , every individual has their own viewpoints on why they choose to be something/someone, and we can only bring ourselves to try to understand their reasoning. In regards to being a homemaker or a working individual many women make a personal choice depending on their education, situation and responsibilities at home, the reason can also be due to physical, mental and emotional constraints .What is important to me is that “they” are making the choice and not someone else for them. Freedom of choice is most important. Respect comes with the content of character not by one’s money’s worth.

Still, there is no absolute answer for your question. Why ? Because we are shaped everyday by our experiences and learnings . Our perspectives, outlooks and priorities also change accordingly. If a 20-something me was asked the same question I’d of course choose the first option and not even think of the validity of poll question 😀. An older me is more considerate and wiser.( hopefully lol) 😁❤️

Bold very true

Originally posted by: Coffee_Chips

Being a home maker, house wife should be a decision taken by the woman herself. Non should force her to do what she doesn't want. Great respect for the ladies who has willingly chosen this role or has left their jobs to take care of their family.

In my family circle, every women works which I'm proud of since a woman being financially independent nowadays is so satisfying & is a necessity. My father has always thought me so & I've adhered to it till date. I like seeing working women who wants to earn a living on their own merit, its a beautiful feeling but balancing everything in life no matter what is what matters. Whether its about being a housewife or a working wife 😊

You explained it so beautifully I loved all the replies here .

Originally posted by: Lavi_dovey

Your first choice has two statements. I agree with the second one only. Yes a girl should be independent finacially but does that make being a home maker bad?

I don't think so.

See I have seen many women making fun of the housewives they feel being homemaker is bad and their work is well suited for the servants so I have asked this question like not only men even some women feel this way and think that housewives are inferior.

i hve voted for first option but i am not with it 100% reason.. below:

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Firstly...Financial Independence and Homemaker can go hand in hand.. and one need not to choose one or the other.

Second... its completely the decision of the person in question what they want in life and how. they can choose both or anyone of the 2.

Third.. None of it should be fixed just for females.

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for me.. financial independence is as important for female as its for male. and to make it happen.. Making Home should be as important for male as it is for female.

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the reason i am saying so.. i have met so many men (as friends ) in last 15 years during my job and every one has one expectation.. i am earning and has home loan - car loan, obviously my wife should do job so she can help me in loan emis.. and when i asked then you should learn house hold work to help her there and they were like "are ghar ka kaam koi ladka thode hi karta hai. wo to ladkiyo ka kaam hai, wo nahi kar pegi to maid rakh lenge"

(means her house work is easily replaceable by a maid)

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So this is the imbalance that forced this one thought process that being home maker is something to be looked down upon, it lacks importance just cause there is no monetary benefit in return...

thats wrong perception... being Home maker is one damn important work but it doesn't get the respect and value that it deserves.

So women had to look for works to get Financial income just to prove they deserve respect.. if not as homemaker then at least by earning. but that just adds burden to the female.

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Now Financial independence.. its critical very much. It doesn't matter how much you earn as earning even a small amount gives one that confidence that they are something (again cause the imbalance i mentioned earlier). Besides this... going out to work enables you to meet new people, tackle new problems and add confidence to oneself. which can help them in future when life throws a curve ball to handle unpredictable.

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So for me this question cant be answered with just yes/no. this whole ghar vs bahar mess cant be sorted so easily... until male takes part in house hold work as much they want their wives to contribute into their financial loans.

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Sorry for this long reply... but i really wanted to vent it out for a long long time and finely you gave me a chance... thank you so much.

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

Whatever a woman choose to be, it should be her choice.

Personally, I value my career and financial independence a lot. It's what makes me happy, gives meaning to my life and satisfies me at the end of the day.

Having said that, I've seen working woman leave their career for their family and they are content.

It's what makes you happy at the end of the day❤️

Very True

Originally posted by: -tellyaddict-

i hve voted for first option but i am not with it 100% reason.. below:

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Firstly...Financial Independence and Homemaker can go hand in hand.. and one need not to choose one or the other.

Second... its completely the decision of the person in question what they want in life and how. they can choose both or anyone of the 2.

Third.. None of it should be fixed just for females.

.

for me.. financial independence is as important for female as its for male. and to make it happen.. Making Home should be as important for male as it is for female.

.

the reason i am saying so.. i have met so many men (as friends ) in last 15 years during my job and every one has one expectation.. i am earning and has home loan - car loan, obviously my wife should do job so she can help me in loan emis.. and when i asked then you should learn house hold work to help her there and they were like "are ghar ka kaam koi ladka thode hi karta hai. wo to ladkiyo ka kaam hai, wo nahi kar pegi to maid rakh lenge"

(means her house work is easily replaceable by a maid)

.

So this is the imbalance that forced this one thought process that being home maker is something to be looked down upon, it lacks importance just cause there is no monetary benefit in return...

thats wrong perception... being Home maker is one damn important work but it doesn't get the respect and value that it deserves.

So women had to look for works to get Financial income just to prove they deserve respect.. if not as homemaker then at least by earning. but that just adds burden to the female.

.

Now Financial independence.. its critical very much. It doesn't matter how much you earn as earning even a small amount gives one that confidence that they are something (again cause the imbalance i mentioned earlier). Besides this... going out to work enables you to meet new people, tackle new problems and add confidence to oneself. which can help them in future when life throws a curve ball to handle unpredictable.

.

So for me this question cant be answered with just yes/no. this whole ghar vs bahar mess cant be sorted so easily... until male takes part in house hold work as much they want their wives to contribute into their financial loans.

.

Sorry for this long reply... but i really wanted to vent it out for a long long time and finely you gave me a chance... thank you so much.

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Not even men I have seen working women making fun of housewives saying that their work is fit for servants which disappointed me like woman not supporting another woman

I have also seen some women saying like their husband earn a lot so why should they work

And men like nowdays they want everything like a beautiful girl with a good job , good dowry and she should also know household work so their expectations are too high .

Originally posted by: asmitag

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Not even men I have seen working women making fun of housewives saying that their work is fit for servants which disappointed me like woman not supporting another woman

I have also seen some women saying like their husband earn a lot so why should they work

And men like nowdays they want everything like a beautiful girl with a good job , good dowry and she should also know household work so their expectations are too high .

@bold..hahaha.. i know. over expectation you say.

thanks for liking my reply...😃

It should be a woman’s choice, that’s for sure but at the same time while recognising the fact that being dependent on another person for something as basic as finances has its downsides. In fact why only financuial dependency? Dependency of men on women for carrying out household chores Bcs men aren’t taught this isn’t good either. These Skills and requirement of money are very basic in life and You never know what tomorrow might bring.

So, I just feel that it is a choice which should be taken by weighing in the disadvantages that it might bring acc to the situation BUT regardless, still keeping option of working open like kabhi bhi zaroorat pade, so having necessary degree and atleast some work experience.

Also another aspect is how a women’s choice might be influenced by pressure of ghar sambhalna and child rearing (and many other factors) that is unfairly always expected of women even if she is working.

We do need to take into account the kind of double standards that society has, and how pressure of such expectations effects women and their choices.

So, yes it is a woman’s choice but there are various factors that effects that choice, those factors coming into play solely because she is a woman, and this is the main problem; the intricacies of how patriarchal society and its Unfair expectations and pressure play a role in women’s choices.

Originally posted by: asmitag

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Not even men I have seen working women making fun of housewives saying that their work is fit for servants which disappointed me like woman not supporting another woman

I have also seen some women saying like their husband earn a lot so why should they work

And men like nowdays they want everything like a beautiful girl with a good job , good dowry and she should also know household work so their expectations are too high .

The way work of homemakers is brought down by this very patriarchal society which pressures countless women into becoming homemakers is honestly baffling.

Internal misogyny in women is real, we all brought up in the same patriarchal society Which pits women agains women for its benefit, so there are things we all need to unlearn. Women bringing down women has been happening since a long time aur ab bhi hota hai.

Men expect everything from women, While even expectation of basic respect of opinions and choices from him and his family seems oppression to them. They think ki “allowing” their wife to work is such a big feat, such entitlement 🤡, (oh and their not all men drama is something else only) and the fact ki dowry pratha is still practiced so openly even by the so called progressives is insane.