Main problem

Both Sai & Virat have massive problem

Sai

She needs to get out of her abbha bubble.she is so engrossed in it that she cant see what Virat has done for her. It's not easy ! Though he keeps telling her that it's not a responsibility she is too inclined to even understand it

Though the other members are wrong..she is not right. Taking all the decisions all alone..not consulting anyone .Always shouting at the top of your voice.

Virat

His anger gets the worst out of him .

Because Sai keeps reminding him that it's a marriage of responsibility he keeps getting agitated.

He should think before taking actions .

Both need to communicate.

Probably this happens when you dont communicate enough in a relationship .

Others take advantage of it

Both Sai & Virat have massive problem

Sai

She needs to get out of her abbha bubble.she is so engrossed in it that she cant see what Virat has done for her. It's not easy ! Though he keeps telling her that it's not a responsibility she is too inclined to even understand it

Though the other members are wrong..she is not right. Taking all the decisions all alone..not consulting anyone .Always shouting at the top of your voice.

Virat

His anger gets the worst out of him .

Because Sai keeps reminding him that it's a marriage of responsibility he keeps getting agitated.

He should think before taking actions .

Both need to communicate.

Probably this happens when you dont communicate enough in a relationship .

Others take advantage of it

Such an interesting post:

In addition to the points you make about Sai I remember Virat saying the same that don’t keep comparing everyone to your father...you will be alone..

Virat was always the calm and rational one I don’t know when his personality changed to not controlling his anger. Although true the anger seems to be reserved for Sai...let’s see if he leashes it on Pakhi🤔

I am just talking about the points where I disagree about Sai in my reply.

What has Virat done for her?

Fighting for her education? Buying her food? Retaining her original name?

All these are BASIC things he had to provide her on the basis of his promise towards Kamal Joshi.

And Sai is a woman of words. She understands words. He told her he is committed to someone else, loves someone else and it got cemented the day he said he regretted going to Gadchiroli and threw away the food she bought for her and held her guilty for the mess up in his job. She is not a mind reader to track Virat's changing feelings! For her the marriage is a burden on Virat and it won't change until he himself clears it. She is saving herself from a heartbreak and she was never made to feel home in Chavan Nivas.

And what? Throwing her out of the house? Standing still when Pakhi and Chavans verbally abuse her but tag her mentally unstable and abuse her when she replies to their abuses?

And Sai won't come out of her Aaba bubble because whatever she's seen outside that is downright brutal and ruthless. Her Aaba was the only one who loved her unconditionally and AT THIS POINT, no single person loves her in this world.

Both are the way they are because of the environment they grew up in, good and bad.

One was given freedom to handle situations or deal with bullying/someone's misbehaviour in their own tried and tested way.

The other was conditioned to handle situations or deal with bullying/misbehaviour by staying silent, turning a blind eye, developing tolerance, ignoring and staying patient.

But both have been loved genuinely by their parent, by mom in case of Virat and by Dad in case of Sai.

It is this love that is in them too and bringing them close to each other. And the above mentioned qualities is what is causing friction between them.

Originally posted by: Sujz

I am just talking about the points where I disagree about Sai in my reply.

What has Virat done for her?

Fighting for her education? Buying her food? Retaining her original name?

All these are BASIC things he had to provide her on the basis of his promise towards Kamal Joshi.

And Sai is a woman of words. She understands words. He told her he is committed to someone else, loves someone else and it got cemented the day he said he regretted going to Gadchiroli and threw away the food she bought for her and held her guilty for the mess up in his job. She is not a mind reader to track Virat's changing feelings! For her the marriage is a burden on Virat and it won't change until he himself clears it. She is saving herself from a heartbreak and she was never made to feel home in Chavan Nivas.

And what? Throwing her out of the house? Standing still when Pakhi and Chavans verbally abuse her but tag her mentally unstable and abuse her when she replies to their abuses?

And Sai won't come out of her Aaba bubble because whatever she's seen outside that is downright brutal and ruthless. Her Aaba was the only one who loved her unconditionally and AT THIS POINT, no single person loves her in this world.

His responsibility was to provide a shelter and food for her but he went extra mile by accompanying her to admission counseling . He could have given her the money and asked her to figure it out herself . He took a day off to celebrate her results and made her day special and didn’t let her feel her Aaba’s absence . He could have given her the money to go and check the results in some net cafe . He didn’t have to fight with his family for her and could have asked her to adjust if she wishes to continue her education or he could have asked her to go stay in the hostel and figure out the process if she isn’t able to adjust with his family .

I don’t want to comment on the feelings part because I have already done it before .

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

to answer your question about what has Virat done for her .Virat stood by her when everyone including the villagers she considered as her own deserted her . He promised to take care of her when he had the choice not to promise anything to KJ . Repeating Sai’s words , he didn’t ask KJ to save him so he isn’t obligated to promise him anything . He could have refused to take her responsibility . Today , she might have the money but going by her words she wouldn’t have applied for medical college if Virat hadn’t supported her at the time where she didn’t have the money or emotional support .

His responsibility was to provide a shelter and food for her but he went extra mile by accompanying her to admission counseling . He could have given her the money and asked her to figure it out herself . He took a day off to celebrate her results and made her day special and didn’t let her feel her Aaba’s absence . He could have given her the money to go and check the results in some net cafe . He didn’t have to fight with his family for her and could have asked her to adjust if she wishes to continue her education or he could have asked her to go stay in the hostel and figure out the process if she isn’t able to adjust with his family .

I don’t want to comment on the feelings part because I have already done it before .

Seriously? He didn't ask KJ to save him so he isn't obliged to do anything? That's so damn messed up! Kamal Joshi is his teacher, who sacrificed his own life to save his student and because Virat didn't ask for it so it loses all its value. Nice.

And Virat could have said NO other than taking it up and MESSING it up gloriously. That's what Sai has said every time he messed up.

And he didn't have to marry her to SUPPORT her. The reason why Virat married Sai has always been a blur! He is an IPS officer and he himself has said he knows the villagers cannot force him but he is marrying her because HE wants. and later he counts the FAVOURS he has done on her, which are by the way just BASIC stuff.

How low is the bar for Virat here? Seriously accompanying her for the admission in a new city is something out of the box? All that comes under basic courtesy. Why is the bar for men so low in here? Again, buying her candy floss and stuff, Sai has said enough Thanks to him for that and she has always acknowledged all that he has done on her and him on the other side, whenever he felt, starts counting these favours he did on her. He HAD to fight with his family because he HIMSELF married her under the promise that there won't be anyone "STOPPING" her and she would have all the "FREEDOM." and the hostel thing, she herself even before and after marriage had tried hard to not stay with him because she has always felt she was a burden upon the household.

All this just prove bar for men are too low here because Virat doing basic of basic things are blown out of proportion while Sai has been enough grateful to whatever he has done. And YES. She thinks it is out of his responsibility or plainly because he is nice because she never felt it was her family and she is not a mind reader as I said. What more should she do to express her gratitude for him doing the basic of things for her?

No one loves her in this whole damn universe at this point and the only one who loved her unconditionally was her Aaba. There is absolutely no need for her to even come out of the Aaba bubble because she has been enough grateful for whatever "Great" things he has done!

Originally posted by: Sujz

I am just talking about the points where I disagree about Sai in my reply.

What has Virat done for her?

Fighting for her education? Buying her food? Retaining her original name?

All these are BASIC things he had to provide her on the basis of his promise towards Kamal Joshi.

And Sai is a woman of words. She understands words. He told her he is committed to someone else, loves someone else and it got cemented the day he said he regretted going to Gadchiroli and threw away the food she bought for her and held her guilty for the mess up in his job. She is not a mind reader to track Virat's changing feelings! For her the marriage is a burden on Virat and it won't change until he himself clears it. She is saving herself from a heartbreak and she was never made to feel home in Chavan Nivas.

And what? Throwing her out of the house? Standing still when Pakhi and Chavans verbally abuse her but tag her mentally unstable and abuse her when she replies to their abuses?

And Sai won't come out of her Aaba bubble because whatever she's seen outside that is downright brutal and ruthless. Her Aaba was the only one who loved her unconditionally and AT THIS POINT, no single person loves her in this world.

And that's what Virat has been telling her.

To read minds .

This situation could have easily been avoided had she taken Virat into confidence and had Virat controlled his anger

Uff ho guys

Let’s not Start this Sai vs Virat

Both are highly flawed characters in their own way and that’s the truth

The beauty of them is when they come together to become SAIRAT!

they have to work on themselves and that’s a process that takes time and situations... dheere dheere you learn to adjust and change for the better with your partner!!

Abhi didi ki bezzati honi hai and sairat ka reunion please don’t make it Sai vs Virat again and again