I get it that Virat is being way too harsh with Sai. I get it that he should not disrespect her like that. But still, enough of this Sai vs Virat competition. Who is better, who is not, this is not the question anyone should be asking. They are a couple, and couples are one single team, the moment it becomes one vs other, there won't ever be a relationship to save.
This forum is brilliant with so many loving members, then why are we fighting now over a topic that shouldn't even be there?
Yes, Virat is wrong this time. Yes, he shouldn't do what he is doing. Yes, Sai is wrong here. Yes, She should apologize to Virat. But it doesn't matter, because in the end it is all about whether they want to live with each other or not, whether they can forgive each other or themselves or not. This is not a case where you can easily put yourself in someone else's shoes.
I remember there was a poll regarding whether Sai should or should not forgive Virat. And , majority said No, some said not even after hospital visit, and I was among those few who actually said Yes. And when I read the comment there was one about self respect vs love, and I was shocked when I thought about it that way, because I have always been a girl who values her self respect a lot (and by a lot I meant a loooooot) but even then I without a doubt said yes.
On thinking about it I realised, that I do still matter my self respect more than love, but this time I felt that if the other person is really sorry for their behaviour, and they actually do love me, and I actually do want to spend my life with them, then yes of course I will forgive them. But here it is all about what you can live with. Maybe you can overcome it, maybe it is a deal breaker for you. But it is all about where your breaking point lies. Everyone is different regarding this, and that is why it is not easy to answer what you will do if you were her.
Humans are really complex creatures. They all have faults, they all make mistakes. Sai and Virat both have major faults. Can you imagine the betrayal you will feel if the person you love risk the life of one of your other family members like this, and that too by lying to you? The hurt would be enough to blind anyone with rage. And that is just what happened with Virat. It isn't just about punishing Sai. It is about hurting her. When someone hurts you badly, you want to do something that will hurt them just as much. It doesn't mean you don't love them. It is just because you are blinded by your anger. For instance, remember all the times you went too far with your mother, father, or maybe your siblings. You felt really bad about it later but at that moment you just didn't care. That is because your anger was justifying all your actions.
Similarly, Virat doesn't just want to punish Sai, he wants to hurt her the way he has been hurt. He wants her to feel the same kind of betrayal that he is feeling. And he succeeded.
Many say that how is Sai going to repent for her mistakes. The same way Virat will.
She broke Virat's trust, virat will break hers. And in the end, both will pay by living without each other.
You see? There is no place for any one to come on top in relationship. They sink and swim together. Happiness or pain, they share it regardless. And that is just what Virat and Sai will do.
Relationship isn't just about love. It is a balanced combination of love, self-love, respect, self-respect, and trust. To make any relationship work we have to put efforts in it, and with effort we have to believe that it will all be worth it. And whatever you say, for both Sai and Virat, they are worth all efforts, hurt, pain and sorrow.
PS: I also feel that the reason Virat is asking Usha Maushi to go with Sai is to have someone who can still look after her, but he can't do it any other way without showing some kind of care for her. But that's just my opinion regarding it.
