This post is only to share my views. It is not to offend or ridicule anyone's thoughts, opinions or beliefs.
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I notice that many are upset with the happenings offscreen. I thought that I will share my views and what I do/have been doing. I fall under minority and mine is an unpopular opinion.
Decided to share my views, that many of us already know, but I thought let me put them in a written form.
To be honest, I just don't care what they do off screen. There used to be a time I was really annoyed with one person's photos and some silly videos appearing all over insta. But, I have developed resistance against silly off screen antics. It no longer bothers me. It actually stopped bothering me when I could see more of Ayesha.
Let me share when I started to even like Ayesha.
I started to watch this show for Neil, I am not a fan of his or have not followed any of his other shows, but I loved the storyline in the promo and liked him in the promo, one could see his acting skills in that too.
I wasn't too impressed with the first few episodes which I didn't even watch, just a few scenes here and there. I was waiting for when the character Virat would meet the character Sai. Hence I started to watch from the episode he was at Gadhchirolli, awarding Sai for her accomplishment.
I started to like Ayesha after I saw her in kurta and not the school award scene where Sai puts the garland around Virat. I started to like her more as days passed, looking at the bond with her Dad and mainly due to the chemistry with Virat. I came to know that this was the first show she was acting as a main lead. Her acting improved as days passed by and we could all see that the girl was giving the best of her.
Neil and Ayesha stole the show for me.
About the offscreen drama
I was mainly upset that Ayesha was being ignored , was not getting enough credit and her limelight was getting stolen by someone whom I found was too silly.
But, I also had a thought that this could all be my assumption and the reality might be something else. Time and again, this thought was only getting proven right.
I kept continuing to question myself, if this could really be happening and if it is, then is it fair on someone who has got a big break, through this show, who seems to be working so hard to establish herself in spite of all the criticism that she gets.
I think the channel, the PH and the actors too started to understand the concerns of fans.
Given how popular Ayesha was getting and due to the concerns raised by the fans, I think they started to give a face to her, started to interview her, involve her in offline segments, ensure they share BTS of her too.
Well, this was the point I started to get happy, was happy that she was getting what she deserved and also that the concerns and complaints weren't going to deaf ears.
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It was kind of getting too annoying or a little upsetting to see that the lead wasn't interested to even interact with his coactor, with the on screen partner, was interviewed more with the antagonist than the protagonist, was always posing pictures with many others and one in particular.
I used to question myself if I even have right to think these, if I am being too silly to even let these affect me because it is their business, also because I am not aware of the entire picture and I was making assumptions yet again.
I gave it a thought as, what if it could be that the onscreen partner (Ayesha) wasn't interested, was not into social media (which we did learn is true, is also an introvert), did not gel well with the male lead, couldn't share the same wavelength, was interested to hang out with other friends.
Well, we all know that sometimes, we cannot get along well with a neighbour or our team mate or room mate and hence it was highly probable here too.
But, from whatever we have noticed, have gathered, the issue has never been that they never got along well, it is just that they were interested in other's company more. They preferred someone else's company. That doesn't mean that they don't interact at all, but not as much as their own friends or group. It all made sense.
I must say, that I was in a way happy when they shared the news of their Roka.
The roka helped me understand that the reason they were spot more together, the reason there were many pictures and videos was because they shared a relationship.
The news of roka was good because, I was happy with the fact that one actress wasn't actually getting ignored, things were happening not because they did not respect or value her, not because people were smitten by the other actress, it was all because they were a couple.
Well again, that doesn't or need not justify all the actions, but to me atleast, it wasn't because no one cared for Ayesha or that there was something seriously wrong between the male lead and the protagonist. That would be a matter of concern.
The matter of concern for me would have been if the leads weren't getting along well, because that will be reflected on screen.
I was connected to the show and only because of the show, did I even get start to get pictures of my feed. Hence, my only concern will be when the onscreen content is not satisfactory, only when that gets affected.
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And about insta getting flooded with just one's picture, or pictures that many fans dont like, it just shows the nature of the person. We are all not the same, we have varying interests, taste, thought process, belief, behaviour, etc.,
There are many who likes to take a lot of selfies in just an hour's time, well it is their nature and their wish. Some tone down over a period of time, they get bored and stop it.
There are some who would backoff looking at other's reaction and some who might do it more to challenge others, to instigate others. Everyone need not be reacting to a situation in the same way. It depends on their thought process, self control, beliefs, maturity level and mainly their attitude.
They might look at themselves later and even laugh at how they once used to be, a little self obsessed, addicted to camera, attention seeking or silly.
Only they can stop themselves, they might either learn looking at others, develop a similar trait or can get embarased and learn it or outgrow such behaviour, become simple, act matured or humble.
My policy is simple.
Anyone who acts too silly or who tries to gain a lot of attention will be the ones who will get no attention from me, not even dislike. They become non existent to me. Such people actually has power to affect us in many ways to tell the truth.
They can spoil our mood, our day, even corrupt our thought process. The only way to get rid of such people are to block them, not on social media accounts, block them mentally.
To be frank, I was least bothered with anything that has been happening the past few days.
My mantra being simple, don't care as long as onscreen content is not getting compromised, actors and their efforts are not compromised.
I would only say that after how fans had raised issues that the leads weren't promoting the show and the off screen couple were promoting themselves, they gave us new promos, new offline pictures too, ensured that the leads promote the show on their accounts by sharing the onscreen couple's pictures.
Why do we have to let others affect us? They are not related to us in anyway. They are only actors of the show we all decided to watch.
We all need this strength to fight against any injustice done to the story of the show or any of the actors, not worth using it for anything else.
Let's all enjoy the show together.
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Jodha Akbar
