Originally posted by: Indira12
@Bold1 - True. She deserves applaud for that. She was brilliant yesterday. That's why I could fee Bon's pain. ❤️
@UL - I would have believed that if he was not the one who very easily explained Bon topics like menstruation. I agree he might have felt a little discomfort in explaining the 'change of emotions of Bon', but I am not asking for that. I said he could he have given her an assurance, a sense of security and nothing else. There was nothing to feel uncomfortable in that, isn't it? But no said to things like "mere aur tumhare beech koi mann ka rishta nahi hai Bondita, tum bas meri zimmedari ho" and not for once, but for SEVERAL TIMES. Was really mann ka rishta not there in between them? Bon, who already feared so much on losing out, needed pacification and assurance, not those constant remembrance of how their relationship is jhoota and all.
@Bold2 - Exactly. She wants to be a barrister just because it's "his" dream, "their" dream. Even yesterday she said to Manorama "tum nahi ban sakti barrister kyunki ye sapna patibabu ne mere liye dekha hai". Even now it is beacuse of him that she wants to be a barrister and I don't want that. Ani haven't directed her credibility towards her own will. She needs to know why exactly she needs to become a barrister. Along with 'his dream' and 'thier dream', it needs to be "her dream" too.
Yes, that adhikar will come in the picture in the future. Even I now want her to be out of patibabu-zone.
@ bold I feel every single thing you said about assurance .Ani was brutal on that confrontation .He has broken her heart to thousand pieces and hence those aftermath
How come he explain to her about her change of emotions. He was lost and confused in his change of emotions.
Her feelings has got social acceptance, it was wrong only in his terms then .Ani once said ye sab karne keliye poore zindagi padi he..The same parental advice to a teenager even the day. But the irony here is she felt it or was trying to feel it for her husband just like others. Feelings that are just those adolescent thing , which can only be channelized rightfully but not denied. Here for the era those feelings of hers was rightful, whereas what Ani felt was perversion for a married man.Ani was so not capable of proving to her why 'all are wrong' when it comes to her feelings .He needs much more maturity for this .If he had an option he would have kept her as a child forever, that would have made the entire thing easy for him.He would easily be in the hus-wife rishta as per her definition as child. The reality of her growing in the reality of their marriage is beyond his reach. For that he had to settle first in his thoughts, about him and their marriage.And educate Bondita on what really child marriage does to the life of a girl, ample examples around. He must know she is growing that She could now percieve a lil more than geeli mitti and kali thodna. Even though she is still young the period and her stage demands it. Conveying matter without intricate details would have served something. He could have taken her mothers help in that way. Even then would he ever be able to assure her about how he pursue their relation after she grows up. The way we define pure relation is not enough in his perspective for a marital bond( cannot be completely denied also).He really need lots of introspection, his ideals are conflicting , one with the other .All he could have done is to prove in his way that just a name for sake of society is insignificant in their relation, 'you don have to be ideal patni for us to stay related, you just being yourself as always is more than enough' was sufficient.
Unlike mensuration which has an academic perspective, feelings are difficult to address particularly if you yourself is involved and you are absolutely dumbstruck on how you feel too. But there was always an other way possible without humiliation. He might still had to act strict with Bon, for the same reason she is growing up, but he should not have been cruel as now
