The neighbour incident, for or against? - Page 2

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

This is applicable if she doesn’t hold back any information and comes clean . If he is expected to trust her blindly in the name of love and accept her PoV without a solid proof or reasoning , I want him to move to police quarters away from everyone and join Samrat club - single and happy 😃 . I see lots of benefit in this he can come back home where he is not subjected to daily taunts and expected to act as a referee. There won’t be any zimmendari on him and lead his life stress free with his friends , football and duty . Love doesn’t suit him 😆.. he should stay single

She would have come clean if it wasn't his family who did all that. We cannot ignore that she was made to think that, the truth about his family is going to hurt him. If that is the thought behind hiding it from him, I wouldn't blame her entirely.

I don't expect him to trust her blindly, but I also think it would only be fair that he doesn't trust his family or his friend too blindly.

If he does that, what is going to be your take?

Also, it is not about the mistakes she made, no one should be asked to leave the house. I suggested the last line if she would be turned out of the house.

Many of us also find it beneficial for Sai to not be living in this mad house.

If one can sympathise Virat, to be made to face taunts or to be made to act as a referee in his own house, they should first sympathise with the girl who is subjected to all kind of misery in his house which leads to the taunts and the position he is put into.

If we say, this is how a family would be, it is a joint family, not all will be behaving in the right way or one cannot expect everyone to behave in the right way, then it also holds true for this girl too. I then don't see how only Virat's stress becomes visible?

Virat can expect Sai to understand and adjust, but we cannot expect Virat to understand Sai and adjust? How is he in more stress?

Sai is subjected to all kind of misery and taunts in Virat's house and when Virat is made to act as a referee becomes stressful for Virat 😲?

He is most welcome to lead his stress free life with his friends, family (dil ke acche) and work. He is also most welcome to find someone else in his life if he wants to.

He can continue to act blind to anything his family does, can continue to act invisible when his mother is insulted by everyone. I so wish Sai never entered his stress free life.

Another benefit, even if it means Sai cannot fulfill her dreams or can be hurt by Jagtap (which will be seen when it comes), Sai can lead her life in a non toxic environment, lead a peaceful life with no one to taunt her or to abuse her. Sai can lead a life where she need not be associated with someone in the name of deal, will not have to deal with someone's mood swings.

Let her continue to act arrogant, learn lessons in her life. It is not like people don't face hardship, it is not like orphans don't survive alone, let her make a life for herself, however tough it is. I am happy about it.

Well I don't want virat and aai to be humiliated even Mohit too don't deserve it but rest of the chavans deserve it ,so agar virat aai aur Mohit ka humiliation nahi hoga toh iam in for it

Originally posted by: laksh

She would have come clean if it wasn't his family who did all that. We cannot ignore that she was made to think that, the truth about his family is going to hurt him. If that is the thought behind hiding it from him, I wouldn't blame her entirely.

I don't expect him to trust her blindly, but I also think it would only be fair that he doesn't trust his family or his friend too blindly.

He doesn’t suspects Pulkit because his family blamed him or his friend accused Pulkit . When the letter came he didn’t jump to conclusion . He started believing only after his investigation. Yes , he might not have done a good job of investigating but he believes in proofs not his family or his friend . Despite everything he is blamed to be biased .

Let’s go back , Virat agreed to reinvestigation and trusted Sai not his friend Pakhi’s reasoning but if he suddenly finds his wife hatching a plan behind his back how fair it is to expect him to keep his cool and not react but listen to her side of story patiently.

He is accused of trusting his friend blindly when in reality he never believed his friend when she called him to instigate him against Pulkit . If it was so easy for Pakhi to influence him she would’ve have written the letter .

If he does that, what is going to be your take?

Also, it is not about the mistakes she made, no one should be asked to leave the house. I suggested the last line if she would be turned out of the house.

Many of us also find it beneficial for Sai to not be living in this mad house.

If one can sympathise Virat, to be made to face taunts or to be made to act as a referee in his own house, they should first sympathise with the girl who is subjected to all kind of misery in his house which leads to the taunts and the position he is put into.

Sympathizing with Virat doesn’t mean we are turning blind eye to her pains . I remember many post where we have discussed her share of pain and taunts she face daily in CN but I hardly see anyone acknowledge his pain , his contribution , his patience in dealing with her impulsiveness .

If we say, this is how a family would be, it is a joint family, not all will be behaving in the right way or one cannot expect everyone to behave in the right way, then it also holds true for this girl too. I then don't see how only Virat's stress becomes visible?

Does talking about Virat’s stress mean Sai is not stressed. There was an interview from an senior police officer who was talking how stressful is their job and how important it is to have a peaceful environment at home .

Virat can expect Sai to understand and adjust, but we cannot expect Virat to understand Sai and adjust? How is he in more stress?

Is he not adjusting with her ?

Sai is subjected to all kind of misery and taunts in Virat's house and when Virat is made to act as a referee becomes stressful for Virat 😲?

It’s stressful to come back after a long day dealing with all kinds of problems he faces at work and expected to resolve the issue at home . I never compared their stress levels but he is not leading a jolly life after the marriage and Sai is not the only one suffering is what I am trying to say

He is most welcome to lead his stress free life with his friends, family (dil ke acche) and work. He is also most welcome to find someone else in his life if he wants to.

He can continue to act blind to anything his family does, can continue to act invisible when his mother is insulted by everyone. I so wish Sai never entered his stress free life.

In this case , he didn’t trust anyone blindly not even his family . If he is going to blast her today it’s only because of Sai keeping him in dark and expecting him to understand without sharing any info

Another benefit, even if it means Sai cannot fulfill her dreams or can be hurt by Jagtap (which will be seen when it comes), Sai can lead her life in a non toxic environment, lead a peaceful life with no one to taunt her or to abuse her. Sai can lead a life where she need not be associated with someone in the name of deal, will not have to deal with someone's mood swings.

Same applies to Virat as well . He doesn’t have to deal with toxicity and someone’s mood swings and indifference . He doesn’t have to get humiliated in public for some misunderstanding.

Let her continue to act arrogant, learn lessons in her life. It is not like people don't face hardship, it is not like orphans don't survive alone, let her make a life for herself, however tough it is. I am happy about it.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

I would never support washing dirty Linen in public and humiliating the man who has done so much for me . Having difference of opinion with your husband doesn’t give the wife the license to insult him in public . If there was a role reversal this question would not be asked but the judgment would be passed that he is an abuser

If you don't know about it, you should not speak during her whole confrontation with neighbours she does not say a thing to virat; it was all about evil trio and sarplekha..

And frankly thats the kind of mentality of " Log kya kahenge" that women's are abused in this society..

Log kya kahenge : Jeans mat pehno

Log kya kahenge: Raat ko job mat karo

Log kya kahenge: Divorce mat lo

Etc.....

And list goes on...

Why as a society it affects so us much ki "Log kya kahenge"???

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

my response in black

Nobody has adked Virat to marry her; definetely she did not: her father asked virat to take responsibility;

Kj never asked Virat to marry his daughter..

It was those stupid villagers and UM..

Second , he was anyways not planning to have a husband wife relation with Sai; he made that clear..than why bring her at CN...didn't he knew how his family is??

He could have kept her in a safe house and arranged for security..

Virat Chavan knew what he was getting into, when he was marrying ..so if it comes to peace; even Sai requires it..

You cannot say the same about Sai, she was not forewarned about the mad people at CN and their atrocities.

You are true..Virat needs someone like Patralekha to serve him when he comes back home..

I so wish he gets that..and also the social issue that you clearly ignore...

If a husband is Police officer and Wife is a would to be doctor both are equally tired after a full day work..

Lives depend on both their jobs , the only difference is a husband comes and sits and have food while wife after doing the same work has to do household chores and than study..

If i remember right; somebody gave the pravachan of "work life balance".

Well the person who gave " Work Life Balance" mantra should seldom follow it; instead of blowing like a fuse...throwing plates; calling best friend cum ex girl friend to come in room and list goes on..

Originally posted by: Sairat

If you don't know about it, you should not speak during her whole confrontation with neighbours she does not say a thing to virat; it was all about evil trio and sarplekha..

And frankly thats the kind of mentality of " Log kya kahenge" that women's are abused in this society..

Log kya kahenge : Jeans mat pehno

Log kya kahenge: Raat ko job mat karo

Log kya kahenge: Divorce mat lo

Etc.....

And list goes on...

Why as a society it affects so us much ki "Log kya kahenge"???

Let’s not take this discussion to a different area . No one is talking about trivial things like jeans etc or not leading Life the way we want because others will comment . Are you saying when you have a problem you need to create a scene in front of neighbors ? I would appreciate if we don’t indulge in gaslighting . No one is saying women should be abused , at the same time psuedo feminism is not welcome either

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Talking about Pakhi’s relationship with Virat is not raising questions about his character?

Sathya (Pakhi) will hold Vikram's hand in front of entire society people after speaking against Saranya (Sai) and then ask him to come insider with her. BTW even at that point even Vikram doesn't shrug it off and lets her hold it .

Even then Saranya doesn't say anything about Vikram. It was all about Sathya (Pakhi) only.

So if Saranya will not point that out, who will? Family elders ne allow kiya hain, thats why she could go that far right. So she can definitely point that out in front of society.

What she says is look at her, holding my husband's hand in front of everyone. This woman is always trying to come close to my husband, coming to our room with some bahana or other and not worrying about her own husband.

Imagine the audacity of Sathya, no one she does she get away with talking and instigating Vikram against Saranya in front of the family, she was trying to take him in as if its her own husband.

Where is Vikram's character being questioned here? She is talking only about Sathaya's behavior.

Also people, this scene is happening if we want it or not. Only hope is a proper build-up.

Kaku and all will want to throw her out by blaming her and saying we will tell people all about you.

Sai in return will be like aap log kya mere baare mein logon ko batayenge, main aap logon ki sacchai sab ko bataongi.

Originally posted by: Sairat

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

You are on a different tangent and trying to portray as if I am supporting abuse on women . I guess there is a difference between jeans and mental abuse . Even if your spouse has a past no one will discuss and talk in-front of neighbors. By the way , she was talking about his present not his past . We all know what his present feelings are unless someone wants to ignore for their convenience. I have said what all I wanted to say and there is no point in discussing so here is my last response . If you think there is no point in discussing then you can ignore my post and not quote and then play the victim card

I am not commenting about the rest but Sharanya in Tamil version doesn’t talk about Vikram at all. She talks about how Sathya is after Vikram. Check out sukris post to your question :) she talks about Sathya only after she holds Vikrams arm rightfully. So based on the Tamil version, she doesn’t talk anything bad about Vikram .