We all want to have someone in our life, not just anyone, someone whom we want to be bound with. A relationship.
We feel secured with parents or with children or with spouse. Any other form of relationship does not give us the rights, the liberty, sense of belonging as much as these relationships.
Sai never had anyone other than her Aaba. Now she is married to Virat, agreed to a deal, but failing to keep it only as a deal. The reason for the failure is the liking for her husband, the attachment, doesn't want to leave him or lose him but claims the other way round due to the agreement between them and due to misunderstandings.
Friendship doesn't give the feeling of oneness, doesn't make you feel complete.
What Sai is giving as the reason cannot be the actual reason why she doesn't want to befriend Virat.
"Jis tareeke je dost aap dono ho, dosti shabd se chid"
I like Sai, believe that she thinks Virat has feelings for Pakhi which he has buried deep within him. She doesn't think he has an affair with Pakhi.
If that is the case, she is being quite illogical to say the above. It has again got to do more with Pakhi I believe.
Kisse chid? Dosti se ya phir ek dost se?
If Pakhi does not show her love for Virat openly (Sai also said Pakhi didi chupathi nahi hai), her hatred for Sai, had control over her emotions like how Sai pointed out to Pakhi today, will Sai still have problems if Virat and Pakhi were friends? I doubt so.
Pakhi and Virat can decide to end their chapter, their relationship and really become friends and one should understand and respect that. Sai would have if that was the case.
So Pakhi is the main reason why Sai doesn't believe that they are friends? Sai has seen how Virat has stood up for her against Pakhi too, he failed initially once or twice but has corrected his mistakes.
Why would one stand up for a girl against his lover, could land him in trouble with his lover? Sai understands that he stands up for right and has no relationship with Pakhi anymore.
That belief has always made her talk to Pakhi as if they are husband and wife, questions Pakhi as a wife, puts Pakhi in her place claiming to be his wife.
She even challenged Pakhi to answer what bothered her when Pakhi saw Sai feeding Virat. She asked how did she comment about them, a couple and if she would do the same with Mohit. She does all of these in front of Virat fully aware that he agrees with her and he also holds the same notion.
She knows and is confident that Virat respects their marital relationship, she understands that he is a man of moral values, values traditions.
Hence her saying she doesn't like the word friend and blaming it on both Virat and Pakhi doesn't make sense.
Pakhi's dominance in their life is making her keep her guards high. So at the mere mention of her name, and especially if it comes out from Virat's mouth, it looks to her as if he has a soft corner for Pakhi, and then Sai loses it.
Is friend the same as wife?
But then why doesn't she want to be friends with him? She wants to be his wife? She doesn't have issues when he calls her his family. Just like how Virat gets insecured, she gets insecured with the word friend. She thinks that he is befriending her only because he actually doesn't consider her to be his wife and doesn't want to make her a part of his life forever.
She knows it was a deal, tells it to remind herself so that she doesn't get carried away with emotions.
The scene between Sai and Pakhi, the dialogue, gives us an insight of the characters.
One cannot control their tongue and the other their emotions. Sai's strong personality is as a result of her having control of her emotions. In the process of controlling her emotions for the man next to her, she acts indifferent.
Virat's hopes and his priority tells it all
If only she can understand that Virat is taking the first step, wants to become friends so that they can understand each other better and to make Sai get comfortable with him. I first couldn't understand why Virat jumped to ask her if she would be his friend, it is just that he ultimately thinks only about them.
Even in the previous episode, he thanks Sai for what she did for his Tai, his Tai was in his head all the while but the only thing that became important for him the minute he realised and recollected about the hand holding conversation was Sai. He immediately withdrew his hands and started to feel guilty.
It was definitely heart wrenching to see Virat in pain when she refused to be his friend. I watched it again to see why did they land at that position right after she gave her hands in his just a few minutes before. Whatever be the reason, even if it was because he pushed some wrong buttons, it turned out to be ugly.
I am surprised at how he is not able to gather the courage to express his feelings or to clarify that he doesn't consider it to be a marriage of deal. The same guy tries his luck again right after she declines his friendship.
He says with so much of hopes that one day they can also become friends. "Ek din hum bhi dost ban jaye" and her reply "mujhe nahi lagta ki kabhi bhi aisa din aayega" just dismissing him off and the idea too. His reaction, he looked angry and upset that she didn't even consider it, he was like can someone be more cruel.
It hit him so hard, why wouldn't it? It was outrightly cruel, she delivered it as if she doesn't care about him and what he is talking about is nonsense. One part of me feels bad for him.
But I tried to see what and why she did that.
Insecurity playing its part!!
She didn't like the idea. She would have liked to hear him saying or calling her his wife but didn't want her to be called his friend. Once he accepts her as his wife wholeheartedly, if he had spoken about friendship, she wouldn't have had an issue.
As I have mentioned above, she thought he wants to make her his friend and consider her to be only a friend in his life and she got hurt and immediately said I don't think so. The mere thought that he can look at her as only a friend hit her hard that she started to play "offense is the best defense" card.
Not that it is justified, thought I will throw some light on why it turned out to be so ugly after how they performed the puja together.
The friendship that she just declined might be offered by her to him once she realises that they both want the same, to stay with each other. And just as he said, may be they will really become good friends too.
