Precap Today

Sorry - this is going to be a post with a lot of frustration. I have not really contributed to the forum here, though I do come and read posts. However, after seeing the precap today, the way Bhavani and Ninad are throwing gifts received by Devyani - it made me wonder what I am seeing - high levels of constant abuse in a police person's house by elders in the name of "conservatism"? On what basis is this acceptable? It is almost childish - the way they threw the gifts - but to think about being a woman (maybe like Ashwini) constantly living in that house, having to put up with spousal abuse and the abuse of other family members - it's just unbearable to imagine.

To be honest, after hearing Sai's story, if I was Pulkit, I would not have bothered to go to Chavan Niwas - I would have gone to the police station and filed a complaint straight to ACP Virat Chavan, IPS, about the behaviour of his family in holding his wife against her will and giving away her daughter. Sai herself said it's his 'kanooni haq' - so why not go this route instead of forcing a dramatic entry into the house and wanting to marry her properly? Let him take her away, get her treated for the mental issues she is facing, and then look at reconciling or having a 'proper' marriage.

I am really wondering if I should continue watching this show when there is constant abuse of women (that too in an army / police household) and it is being normalised. So called 'educated' women like Patralekha are also shown as accepting this as being "for the good of the family". In fact Patralekha's character could have been shown in such an interesting way - she could have been more interesting than Sai or Virat because of all the psychological ramifications of what she believes she is going through - but her character trajectory is now going the same way as other vamps in ITV. While Sai is the one bright light in this whole mess, she also seems to be going along the kind of 'ghisa-pita' path of other ITV 'bahus' of investigations and trying to correct things in a family where she supposedly got married due to a deal. I loved her character, but she is shown focusing more on other things, rather than her studies and her (hopefully) growing feelings towards her husband. None of the characters seem to be self-analysing and the only real person with internal monologues is Patralekha, but her monologues are more laughable than real.

I am sorry for such a negative post, and I apologise if I am supposed to post this elsewhere to vent my frustration. However I am finding the continued abuse and inexcusable behaviour of the so-called elders of this so-called "mann ke achhe" family extremely hard to bear. It's making me really want to quit this show because it feels too draining to watch it when the family drama begins.

I’m this 👌🏻 close to quitting, it’s mentally draining and whatever media we consume affects our mental health, the young fans should stop watching this on TV so TRP drops — by virtue of which the makers are forced to introspect and change the plot line.

Even Sairat will not impress us anymore ( soon ) since Virat’s character will only go downhill from here. Before the separation track and after too if they copy line by line the later tracks are even more regressive

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

I’m this 👌🏻 close to quitting, it’s mentally draining and whatever media we consume affects our mental health, the young fans should stop watching this on TV so TRP drops — by virtue of which the makers are forced to introspect and change the plot line.

Even Sairat will not impress us anymore ( soon ) since Virat’s character will only go downhill from here. Before the separation track and after too if they copy line by line the later tracks are even more regressive

I so agree!
@bold - I can already see his character also kind of falling by the wayside - when he is a police officer, how can he allow these illegal and abusive activities in his own household? Especially even after seeing his father going to slap his wife!

Same here ... almost there to quitting.. For the first time in weeks..I wont be watching any episode today ..

we are in the same boat bro

Archana, u have posted this in exactly the right place & hit the nail on its head. Thank u for articulately putting actoss our collective opinion & frustration.

I am hanging in there only for Sai, an unprecedented character in ITV. Plus she is a good actor & doing justice to the role. Virat only holds my interest for Neil’s handsome face & good acting, I find the character bipolar.

I hope that if we quit the show we don’t give wrong signals of not appreciating an unconventional female lead like Sai.

Originally posted by: Bana

Archana, u have posted this in exactly the right place & hit the nail on its head. Thank u for articulately putting actoss our collective opinion & frustration.

I am hanging in there only for Sai, an unprecedented character in ITV. Plus she is a good actor & doing justice to the role. Virat only holds my interest for Neil’s handsome face & good acting, I find the character bipolar.

I hope that if we quit the show we don’t give wrong signals of not appreciating an unconventional female lead like Sai.

Oh someone said it..And how long can one endure it only for Sai ...😭

@above: Yes, you are right. I guess most people would have started watching because of the love story - and to have it disintegrating in this terrible way is very difficult. Maybe in the original Bengali they showed it differently - I am not sure (though I am Tamilian I haven’t seen the Tamil version also), but in the day and age and time in which we are right now, it just feels mentally draining. The amount of screen space given to negativity only seems to go up. Yes, I understand this is how ITV ‘bahus’ are shown to be ‘mahaan’, but it just feels like too much.

Also knowing how young Sai’s character is makes it worse. They are actually mentally torturing and almost also physically abusing a girl who is just becoming an adult woman in a sense, who would probably need this time to understand her own life and what she wants from it, and who has further just endured a tragic loss.

I just feel very disappointed. This really wasn’t what I thought this serial would be. I guess I still haven’t learnt not to expect anything from ITV even after many years! 😵

Originally posted by: Bana

Archana, u have posted this in exactly the right place & hit the nail on its head. Thank u for articulately putting actoss our collective opinion & frustration.

I am hanging in there only for Sai, an unprecedented character in ITV. Plus she is a good actor & doing justice to the role. Virat only holds my interest for Neil’s handsome face & good acting, I find the character bipolar.

I hope that if we quit the show we don’t give wrong signals of not appreciating an unconventional female lead like Sai.

Thank you! Glad to know I am not the only one!

Absolutely same here - if they focus more on Sai and less on the drama around this family I am sure most of us who are upset would be much happier!