Virat and Sai

I have always been a Sai supporter..Sai preacher. But I do agree Virat is more into this marriage than Sai at this moment. At least that's what it looks like. He gets restless when Sai mentions leaving the house. I believe his reason to tone down Si since initial episodes were more to do with losing her than pleasing the family. He clearly knew if she doesnt the Chavan clan would want her out of the house and Sai would not care leaving the house if a situation arrives.. and he would not be able to stop her then.. if certain limits would have crossed from either side. Virat is clearly in a state where Sai not being around him is something that he cant even deal with. He is extremely possessive and protective about Sai. We have seen both of these traits to think otherwise. Even the mention of a guy by her in a very casual manner gets him riled up. Obviously if Sai is going to Medical College she would have guy friends/acquaintances. Virat would certainly know that. Still that reaction where just the mention got him lose control is something that screams his possessiveness and also insecurity because Sai at the moment doesnt consider him her family and he does. AMey incident is one where he clearly stated he did not like her flirting with another man. Period.

Again time and again he has mentioned to Sai directly how important she is for him. Ofcourse he keeps confusing her with farz ..zimmedari rant but then he is also the one who has said that to see you happy makes me happy. Is it not something that gives you a peek into his emotions. Sai denying him an outing did got him hurt and not angry. He craves to hear Sai call him his family..if not husband. He loves when she calls him her husband. Every time she has done it he has mentioned in his own ways how he liked it. He has also mentioned her leaving the room upsets him. He has mentioned he wants to spend time with her.This was his main reason for him to ask her to accompany to the trip or planning the lunch on a sunday. He was the one who mentioned "Tum mere liye bahut maayne rakhti ho" He is almost there ..he has almost confessed that she is very important to him. And recently he has gone against the entire family for her including the one Sai assumes he is committed to even after the marriage, to stand by her. He was ready to leave the family that is sab kuch for him. for her.. She needs to know this is the same family for which he sacrificed his "love of life" and is ready to leave them for her. Sai yaha nahi toh main bhi nahi ..is a huge step he has taken in this relationship with Sai.

Coming to Sai the issue with her is , she is more stuck with Virat's waada than Virat himself. She has a lot of self respect and to some extent ego as well. She has been rejected by Virat in a subtle manner as soon as the marriage was decided. Mind you when Virat said you can leave this marriage whne you become a doctor she did not reply , only during the puja after marriage when Virat mentioned the vaada and was too involved in his imaginations of Pakhi she said the first time she would leave. So just after taking vows with Sai , he rejected her as his wife under the garb of responsibility. And then soon after marriage he wanted her to get trained by Pakhi to become mature and she did ask him do want me to become mature like Pakhi ..he said yes. Sai would believe he wants her to become a mirror image of Pakhi...which in turn is insulting... Sai is stuck there. Words like "you make me happy", "you are important to me" are not going to suffice to forget that insult ..that rejection. Sai needs to know she is more important to him than Pakhi, because Pakhi was the barrier he had set between them. She needs to know them in clear words. Sai being young and having had no relationship/crush before needs plain simple words.. You tell her you will bad about her leaving the room , whe will understand without question. You tell her you want her to come to the trip, she will understand it without question. You tell her she is family she will understand without answering back. Sai was clearly told that this marriage is a deal and nothing more than that..Sai needs to be told that this marriage is not a deal any more in words and nothing ..no waada holds any importance except the one made to her , when it comes to her. Sai wants her jagah in his life.. Sai's self respect has made her create a wall where she does not want Virat to see her hopelessness when it is about him. She does not want him to see that he is important infact very very important to her and later on reject her saying this was not our deal..you were not supposed to have expectations..More than Virat Sai would be adamant on the deal till he lets his guard down completely. For Sai Virat has become really valuable but then she would not admit to even her aayi.

Virat's need to compare himself with Kamal Sir every time reflects his yearning to find that love ..that importance ..that passion in Sai's eyes like she had for Kamal Sir. Sai has committed to have loved only her father.. So he wants to reach there where she loves him first and then explore the sexual dynamics.. Virat is not there yet... he first wants to see his importance his place in Sai's life..and then probably if its reciprocated then he would work on the desires.. Virat is very patient with Sai and thats what I have loved about his character..

For some reason I have been feeling bad for him lately..more than Sai.. He has that family to deal with and then Sai's aloofness.. If Sai keeps considering him as a guardian..there is not meaning for his fights or his standings against the family. It would be mentally and emotionally exhausting for him. He has also laid out his vulnerabilities to Sai when he pleaded her to consider him her family.

I think you have stated their emotions to the T. But even though we feel bad for Virat, sometimes he also needs to understand Sai’s words. Like they say, listen to understand and not to respond back. Sai has claimed her haq on him multiple times. Even though she has built a wall around her, due to her age she can’t help herself and show her possessiveness towards Virat.

such as:

1. when she went to DIG’s office and when she came back she told Pakhi you have no right to ask a wife why she went to her husbands office. (I know he wasn’t there)

2. after that incident when Virat goes to maushi’s room to bring her back and Pakhi comes in between and Sai tells her “if you talk about me or things related to me (where she eyed Virat and he was looking at her) I will have to be involved.

3. Patni hoon mein aapki, koyi mujrim nahi.

4. I am his biwi, at the hospital

5. and most recently, if someone questions my husband as to why he brought me food, why he feed me than I will not be quiet.

this last one, I feel like should show him how much he means to her. He himself says Sai can do anything and everything for the ones she thinks are her own.

Honestly, sometimes I feel bad for Sai is only because the only source of love that she has received in through her father and now that he is not there she feels lonely. When a 18-19 year old girl is asked to get married, and her husband tells her that day itself I am marrying you but don’t expect things from me. So what is she suppose to do? The only source of love that she might have thought off she taken away from her by Virat himself. If he really wants to make Sai his family he needs to sit and have a conversation rather than going round and round. He now knows that Sai thinks that Virat loves Pakhi, than he needs to do something. Sometimes just actions are not enough it needs words as well.

Sometimes it feels like Sai doesn't even reciprocate the deep care showered upon her by Virat. She clubs it as virat fulfilling his responsibility.

I have a question. After the trip fiasco, Virat accuses Sai of buiding a wall of ego around her heart. Sai responds with deal marriage, his commitment to Pakhi etc - everything in clear words. It would mean that Sai is not indifferent to him but rather wary of getting hurt due to the Pakhi angle. If so, why did we see the extremely hangry Virat soon after - during the domestic abuse plot? During the apology episode, he again asks her to not consider him as her enemy. Has Virat not registered effects of deal, Pakhi etc on Sai? Or is he so dumb to have interpreted it some other way?🤔

its part of her building a wall around her, when aai made her realize what she was feeling for virat she pulled her ears to snap out of it. Virat has made it clear to pakhi he has nothing for her in his heart but he has to tell sai in clear words as well..

She does not understand his jalebis...

The problem is also with the miscommunication between the two. Like she said pkhi didi apnapyaar apke liye chupti nahi aur aap usse apne dil mein dabatein hain.

She is not sure of the dynamics and where she is standing in virats life at this moment.

Also the fact that virat never gives it back to pakhi is an added factor. She is building a wall because of this.

She does not want to ruin the potential relationship which we know, virat knows and to some extent pakhi knows is non-existent. But pakhi also knows that sai is not aware of virat's feelings developing for her. he had mentioned once how sai is not good at reading people, so the same thins happens here, she doesn't understand what virat feels for her..

Till the wall doesn't break nothing can move forward.......

Originally posted by: Svt611

its part of her building a wall around her, when aai made her realize what she was feeling for virat she pulled her ears to snap out of it. Virat has made it clear to pakhi he has nothing for her in his heart but he has to tell sai in clear words as well..

She does not understand his jalebis...

The problem is also with the miscommunication between the two. Like she said pkhi didi apnapyaar apke liye chupti nahi aur aap usse apne dil mein dabatein hain.

She is not sure of the dynamics and where she is standing in virats life at this moment.

Also the fact that virat never gives it back to pakhi is an added factor. She is building a wall because of this.

She does not want to ruin the potential relationship which we know, virat knows and to some extent pakhi knows is non-existent. But pakhi also knows that sai is not aware of virat's feelings developing for her. he had mentioned once how sai is not good at reading people, so the same thins happens here, she doesn't understand what virat feels for her..

Till the wall doesn't break nothing can move forward.......

Has virat's stand in front of the whole family that he will leave along with sai if the latter is forced out put any dent on the walls that sai has built around herself?

If not, what bigger assurance can he give than this?

Originally posted by: jane_austen

I have a question. After the trip fiasco, Virat accuses Sai of buiding a wall of ego around her heart. Sai responds with deal marriage, his commitment to Pakhi etc - everything in clear words. It would mean that Sai is not indifferent to him but rather wary of getting hurt due to the Pakhi angle. If so, why did we see the extremely hangry Virat soon after - during the domestic abuse plot? During the apology episode, he again asks her to not consider him as her enemy. Has Virat not registered effects of deal, Pakhi etc on Sai? Or is he so dumb to have interpreted it some other way?🤔

@bold if Sai thinks Virat loves someone else, Virat used to think Sai hates him.

Though that has changed and he is able to feel that she no longer hates him, he is unsure if she can ever like him or love him.

He keeps prodding her at every chance that he gets to get a hint of she likes him and why she cannot. His insecurity and the feeling that she might never fall in love with him is not letting him think that she is holding herself from getting attached to him only because of Pakhi.

He is not able to think beyond Sai. The factors doesn't seem to have got into his brain, he is stuck that this is Sai and that she doesn't want to consider him as her husband or a lover. He has never seen her liking him, appreciating him or having any positive feelings for him. Even during the Alta incident, he couldn't believe she would have done it for him because as per him, he is not anyone important to her.

All I can see is his longing, his desperation to be understood and accepted by her.

He is not dumb, just emotionally carried away, too overwhelmed to look into any other aspect. He just wants to ensure she is with him but is failing to address the main issue.

He has not realised his feelings yet and if he does, he won't confess. He will be worried if Sai will push him away if she comes to know he has feelings for her because he thinks she doesn't want to accept him as her husband and that she was forced to marry him.

Not sure if these answers your questions or your doubts.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Has virat's stand in front of the whole family that he will leave along with sai if the latter is forced out put any dent on the walls that sai has built around herself?

If not, what bigger assurance can he give than this?

A biggest stand a husband can take, is to tell his ex (or the one his wife thinks he is love with) not to enter the room and belittle my wife.

Standing up in front of the family is a step and it gives a reassurance to her that he is there for me and considers me as his family.

Now to be a husband, he needs to acknowledge few things in front of her and he is yet to get there. Not saying she is not flawed but one question which she asked him before marriage, "Why do you want to marry me?" she hoped but he destroyed that hope then and there. During that time he had said many things, his actions now speak otherwise but he needs to voice out those actions for that 18-19 year old. Considering he has done the damage, damage control bhi wahi karega/ First let him understand what he is feeling? Abhi tak toh ACP Saheb wahan pohoche hi nahi hain. 😃

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Has virat's stand in front of the whole family that he will leave along with sai if the latter is forced out put any dent on the walls that sai has built around herself?

If not, what bigger assurance can he give than this?

We haven't seen a lot post that scene.. yes it will help lower her guard, but that also depends on what happens tomorrow because for them it is part of the same day..

the acceptance of money from virat was lowering her guard. Still, a long way to go.

Actually, till the day he doesn't stand up firmly against pakhi she is not going to understand what is he feeling. He needs to be more clear with her for which he needs to understand his feelings.

Originally posted by: laksh

@bold if Sai thinks Virat loves someone else, Virat used to think Sai hates him.

Though that has changed and he is able to feel that she no longer hates him, he is unsure if she can ever like him or love him.

He keeps prodding her at every chance that he gets to get a hint of she likes him and why she cannot. His insecurity and the feeling that she might never fall in love with him is not letting him think that she is holding herself from getting attached to him only because of Pakhi.

He is not able to think beyond Sai. The factors doesn't seem to have got into his brain, he is stuck that this is Sai and that she doesn't want to consider him as her husband or a lover. He has never seen her liking him, appreciating him or having any positive feelings for him. Even during the Alta incident, he couldn't believe she would have done it for him because as per him, he is not anyone important to her.

All I can see is his longing, his desperation to be understood and accepted by her.

He is not dumb, just emotionally carried away, too overwhelmed to look into any other aspect. He just wants to ensure she is with him but is failing to address the main issue.

He has not realised his feelings yet and if he does, he won't confess. He will be worried if Sai will push him away if she comes to know he has feelings for her because he thinks she doesn't want to accept him as her husband and that she was forced to marry him.

Not sure if these answers your questions or your doubts.

I understand the points you have made. I agree that this has been his pattern of thinking. My doubt was about whether this thinking changed post the massive fight they have after trip cancellation. In the fight, Sai had given plenty of indications that his history with Pakhi and their deal marriage was a hurdle in their marriage. But I guess even so, Virat didn't register this fact?