For me the current track is heartbreaking

Anupama is on a roll. Kavya has done it this time. For her to go and have Samar arrested is the final nail in the coffin. Until now Anupama was silent but now she will roar and she will roar bigtime. I am happy, I am happy with the way Anupama is moving ahead and handling Vanraj but I cannot help but get sad at what she has to go through.

Vanraj had an affair for not one but 8 years. He left the home. He blamed Anupama for all the wrongdoing. It was all Anupama'a fault that she never had any growth, that he was ashamed to take her anywhere. He fell sick and since he was getting pampered at home he fell in love with Anupama. He apologized and Anupama should just accept him. But one no and he moved on to Kavya. Now when Anupama wants to move on and sent him divorce papers. But it hurt his ego and he calls her mentally unstable.

But everybody from Baa to Toshu and most probably the whole society blame Anupama. Those lines of Baa I keep hearing. It is Anupama's fault that this house broke. It was Anupama's fault that Kinjal and Toshu are fighting. It was Anupama's fault that brothers are fighting.

For Toshu his father is amazing. I mean fine he made a mistake and had an affair with a woman for 8 long years but now that he understands his mistakes realises what he did wrong and is apologizing. Once just once but he is apologizing being a man being a husband he is apologizing he is so great. Then how come Anupama didn't forgive him. Had Anupama forgiven him this would not be happening. His father has just reacted. He has done nothing wrong. The scene where he said to Kinjal that why can't she just be a good wife instead of a good bahu, I felt disgusted.

And this breaks my heart. How can no one see what Anupama is going through. You think she wanted to see her life being torn apart like this and at this age. You think she wanted to see her husband who she worshipped telling her that he hates her and he regretted the time that he spent with her. That all he remembers is the stench of Masalas. To see her daughter taken away from her who she loves so much. You think Anupama a woman who has never even seen her husband's office or any outside world wanted to visit a lawyer's office to file a divorce case. But that woman is seeing that. You don't think that somewhere in her heart she might want that all of this turns into a bad dream. Her perfect world is still the perfect world but no this is her hard reality. She is living it. And this just doesn't end there. She will have to endure more from Vanraj Shah and from Kavya and not to forget the world. But no no one is ready to see that.

And this breaks my heart. All they want to see is that my son comes back home and everything is hunky-dory while I sit on the jhoola. All they want is that my father returns home and I get spoon-fed with jobs with money and pampered with while we live our life in oblivion.

And this breaks my heart as this is what happens in not one but in each and every one of our homes where you are asked to compromise

sometimes with your self-respect - "let it be he made a mistake, men lose their way move on in life"

sometimes with your dreams - "you think you will be able to continue with the job after the kid. take care of your kid that should be your priority"

sometimes with your parents - "Don't go so much to your parent's house again and again. Who will look after the house "

Sometimes with your lifestyle, your choices - "why don't you wear modern clothes men like that only "- even if you are uncomfortable

- why do you have to wear these clothes they look so cheap - when they are watching the same when other's wear them

sometimes with the chores - "You are some sort of queen that you couldn't cook fresh food and serving leftovers."

And then when you still do everything perfect when you still do everything in your power to make it perfect and it crashed down you are still blamed as it was your fault.

Very well written and all valid points.

Specially the things that women get pointed out for, all so relatable.

One more thing I would add is, if the wife is stay at home wife then - what do you do all day, you do not work you just have to take care of the house even for which you have help.

when the wife is working - isko to bas bahar mann lagta hai dekho ghar ki halat

I mean agar help hi sab kuch domestic help hi kar raha tha to wife k bahar kaam karne se ghar ki halat par asar kyu pad gaya? Lekin tab bhi expectation ye hai ki aurat ghar bahar dono sambhale.

Dono scenario me onus is on women and men are just becharas who are working so hard under always a terrible boss!

Originally posted by: sillibilli

Very well written and all valid points.

Specially the things that women get pointed out for, all so relatable.

One more thing I would add is, if the wife is stay at home wife then - what do you do all day, you do not work you just have to take care of the house even for which you have help.

when the wife is working - isko to bas bahar mann lagta hai dekho ghar ki halat

I mean agar help hi sab kuch domestic help hi kar raha tha to wife k bahar kaam karne se ghar ki halat par asar kyu pad gaya? Lekin tab bhi expectation ye hai ki aurat ghar bahar dono sambhale.

Dono scenario me onus is on women and men are just becharas who are working so hard under always a terrible boss!

True so true. It always falls on the woman. If you work all day then people will, later on, say - all she did ever was work as a house help. She never had time for me, she never was there for me, she never tried to grow or do something to come to my level. Just as the case of Anupama but if you don't work and roam around then you are roaming around and don't look after the house. Matlab har roz dinner table pe beautifully served food bhi chahiye, ghar saaf sudhara bhi chahiye, clothes clean chahiye lekin agar usme time spend karo to you don't have time for me. I got lonely, my life got monotonous but how lonely the woman gets how monotonous her life gets no one can see. You are out there living your life doing your high profile job for which you studied and dreamt about but on the other hand, the wife has given up everything, can anybody see that frustration? DO they quit and get disheartened no they move on as they don't have that option. Men have choices if they want they can work if they don't feel like they don't work but we don't have that option. You have to work no matter what. Many a time I have seen a woman getting scared of being sick not because they are afraid that something might happen to them but it is more to do with who will handle the house and the kids.

No matter what you do you will be judged good or bad.

Originally posted by: Bhavisweet03

Well written👏

Thanks so much

very well written keep writing 👏

how can baa and toshu blame anupama for the thing which is not her fault ? i never saw toshu and baa blaming vanraj the way they blame anupama

i know we saw them saying vanraj is wrong but they never say ghar vanraj ke wajah se tuda hain they keep saying anupama ke wajah se tuda hain ,

they keep saying anupama dont give divorce why baa and toshu cant say to shamless vanraj leave kavya we will make anupama understand no they are totally fine vanraj leaving with his girlfriend and enjoying his life

Very well written 👏👏

Ye hamare samaj ki bahot hi kadvi aur bhayanak sacchai hai dear forget about India world ke kisi bhi desh mai chale jao hamare culture ki aurat yahi face karti hai, aurat chahe kitni hi thak jaye ghar ka kaam (khana banana, kapde ready karna,kitchen ki safai) sirf aurat ka hi kaam hota hai🤢 ye hame hi change karna hai, mai apne 23 years ke son ko sikha rahi hu ke jab shadi karoge to help her ye bhi ek responsibility hai mai usse khana banana aur ghar ki safai sikha rahi hu taki wo dusre man ki tarah ghar mai ake sofe pe TV dekhta hua order na chode ke paani do, khana lagado,mere kapde kyu ready nahi hai...ye badlav hume hi lana hai tabhi V ya Toshu ke badle hame accha pati ya damad milega

Originally posted by: dipali13

Very well written 👏👏

Ye hamare samaj ki bahot hi kadvi aur bhayanak sacchai hai dear forget about India world ke kisi bhi desh mai chale jao hamare culture ki aurat yahi face karti hai, aurat chahe kitni hi thak jaye ghar ka kaam (khana banana, kapde ready karna,kitchen ki safai) sirf aurat ka hi kaam hota hai🤢 ye hame hi change karna hai, mai apne 23 years ke son ko sikha rahi hu ke jab shadi karoge to help her ye bhi ek responsibility hai mai usse khana banana aur ghar ki safai sikha rahi hu taki wo dusre man ki tarah ghar mai ake sofe pe TV dekhta hua order na chode ke paani do, khana lagado,mere kapde kyu ready nahi hai...ye badlav hume hi lana hai tabhi V ya Toshu ke badle hame accha pati ya damad milega

Thank you for doing that and hope all mothers do the same.

Gender inequality is something that can change the world and it is only possible if we take it as our responsibility to treat our children the same way and teach them to value all work (house chores and job) and treat each other with same respect and above all have self respect and will to protect it.

The general culture is boys are treated as princes and girls are taught all kinds of house chores. Either boys wont be told to do anything or the most they will do is get grocery or do chores outside the house. This culture needs to end.

At times I have seen people start treating their girls like princesses and would not teach them any chores just to prove they value their daughter and this needs to end too!!!

Unless we start treating them in the same manner society would not change and our generation and our kids generation will be able to do that if we make up our minds.

Society in India has been conditioned to view males above females ..it’s a global problem really but with customs in India(dowry etc) it makes the favouritism particularly visible

It starts from birth (female babies are aborted, given up or killed by some) & seeps into every role a woman takes on ..be it a daughter, sister, mother etc etc

It’s a vicious cycle, as that woman becomes a mother to a daughter she teaches the same ...your place is below that of a male. Be seen but not heard. And so forth ...

Very well written. Sadly this is the reality of many.

I think it is even harsher for working women. For the past century or so, women have stepped up to work outside. To earn the same or more of what man is earning.

But house chores were and are always the responsibility of women. A much bigger change is needed in society.

Rather than hoping to find an understanding husband/son-in-law. One needs to teach their son and brother how to be one.

Many times I see mothers teaching their daughters household chores and complaining. But you don't often hear them telling their son - Are tujhe toh dhang ka khana banana nahi aata, kon Apni beti dega.

It irks me so much, that Kitchen is always the responsibility of Anu and now Kinjal too.

And even married women, including Anupamaa. When you treat your other half as superior or better, that is when your journey of inferiority starts(Some are nice, but I am making a generic example). Start loving yourself and treat your spouse equally. It will be quite a battle but it will be beneficial not only for you but your kids too.

Only if the Shah family would have treated Anu with equal respect. Then Toshu, Pakhi and Baa wouldn't have refused to understand her basic human emotions.

Originally posted by: dipali13

Very well written 👏👏

Ye hamare samaj ki bahot hi kadvi aur bhayanak sacchai hai dear forget about India world ke kisi bhi desh mai chale jao hamare culture ki aurat yahi face karti hai, aurat chahe kitni hi thak jaye ghar ka kaam (khana banana, kapde ready karna,kitchen ki safai) sirf aurat ka hi kaam hota hai🤢 ye hame hi change karna hai, mai apne 23 years ke son ko sikha rahi hu ke jab shadi karoge to help her ye bhi ek responsibility hai mai usse khana banana aur ghar ki safai sikha rahi hu taki wo dusre man ki tarah ghar mai ake sofe pe TV dekhta hua order na chode ke paani do, khana lagado,mere kapde kyu ready nahi hai...ye badlav hume hi lana hai tabhi V ya Toshu ke badle hame accha pati ya damad milega

Thank you for being such an awesome woman and mother 🤗👏 People sure talk when it comes to other people, but you don't see many teaching the same to their own offspring or brother.