Pati Patni ke rishtey ki gullakh - Page 11

Originally posted by: prs_725

So neat and I feel she feels this way bc even he compares her sometimes to pakhi. In their fight, he asked her "tum auro ki tarah sabhya aur shant kyun nahi ho sakti ho?"

She instantly picked up on who he meant by auro and the comparison ...he himself is giving her reasons to understand that he can never like her as he seems to have so many problems w her ..which actually just stems from his own insecurity and madness bc of his emotions running wild.

I am also keen on seeing how they show his persective change from seeing her as a kid to a woman. In this week's episodes, kaku and others again called her a kid to which he stood quiet but he doesnt repeat those "you are still a bacchi" though she does compare him w "aba" sometimes but i think that has also toned down a bit. She mentioned her aba this week but didnt say my husband is like my aba (to her proff). Their car is moving at 5mh 😆

Yes it's true that it's his words, his pre-wedding conditions, his actions for/towards PP, his inaction and Silence when it's not needed and his constant pravachans about her tameez part that keeps fuelling her insecurity accompanied by the fact that she can forever see the true love yearning for him, looking for his validation and his silence towards all the taunts that pp directs at Sai instead is a big deterrent in moving forward. Any woman with even half a teaspoon of self respect would not think of it that way.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

We give benefit of doubt to strangers or people who are not close to us.. for him, she's now closest and she won't get benefits of doubt. he will just keep things at the back of his mind and vent it out when he loses it. That's how raw spousal relationships are.

I also agree that he sees her speaking about these things as taunt more than her insecurity. Her jealousy, I think he is aware about that. He knows she is jealous of PP but he is not able to gauge her insecurity because he thinks she doesn't like him or the idea of being married to him so it's only 'taunts' to be ignored and not addressed ...

But janki don't u think virat to need some kind of assurance virat had listen from sai that she will not marry him if he is last one , u also don't keep expectations from me to be ur wife etc. Virat know sai force to marry him & she dont like her as a man but just appreciate his gestures which he do for her.

Aap shayad agree na karo but Virat did took a step towards her by becoming friends but sai rejected him by saying I have many frnds , to vo kya samjhe in sab se , usko to yahi lagega ki sai don't like him . Aap humesha kehte ho sai will raise her walls but what about virat what he hardens his shell more . Virat too had created a shell around himself & he don't allow people come near it easily .

Mujhe pata hain communication gap inme jiska fayda pakhi uthati rehti hain. If sai is 18 or 19 then virat too is not of 50 yrs , he too is quite young as he is still in his late 20's. He was in a very intial stage of love earlier but it became a horrible dream for him sadly , no one is there to guide him , vo kya kare . Usko kaise pata chalega ?

2 is rishte ka future kya hain ?

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Yes it's true that it's his words, his pre-wedding conditions, his actions for/towards PP, his inaction and Silence when it's not needed and his constant pravachans about her tameez part that keeps fuelling her insecurity accompanied by the fact that she can forever see the true love yearning for him, looking for his validation and his silence towards all the taunts that pp directs at Sai instead is a big deterrent in moving forward. Any woman with even half a teaspoon of self respect would not think of it that way.

exactly! i would be surprised if she didnt act that way bc it goes against her character.

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

But janki don't u think virat to need some kind of assurance virat had listen from sai that she will not marry him if he is last one , u also don't keep expectations from me to be ur wife etc. Virat know sai force to marry him & she dont like her as a man but just appreciate his gestures which he do for her.

Aap shayad agree na karo but Virat did took a step towards her by becoming friends but sai rejected him by saying I have many frnds , to vo kya samjhe in sab se , usko to yahi lagega ki sai don't like him . Aap humesha kehte ho sai will raise her walls but what about virat what he hardens his shell more . Virat too had created a shell around himself & he don't allow people come near it easily .

Mujhe pata hain communication gap inme jiska fayda pakhi uthati rehti hain. If sai is 18 or 19 then virat too is not of 50 yrs , he too is quite young as he is still in his late 20's. He was in a very intial stage of love earlier but it became a horrible dream for him sadly , no one is there to guide him , vo kya kare . Usko kaise pata chalega ?

2 is rishte ka future kya hain ?

Exactly 👍🏼

Jealous virat is look fun at certain levels but at somewhere his feelings also taken for granted

Sai also said many time that she will leave chavan house after she will become doctor and whenever she speak about family she never include virat in that but virat many time said to her you are my zimmedari because you are also my family.

Even his mom said in start that he doesn't share his feelings with anyone and try to understand him.

This is deal marriage from both side not one sided just because he is taunted by this words many time

She is 18 years old no doubt and never had any guy in her life but whatever we saw till day pakhi was also 1st lady in virat life and he had gone through heart break. That guy also gone through heart break. It was CV fault that they didn't show their track properly. But at some point he loved pakhi and thinking to marry to her. It is not like it was old issue but recent one and he will also scare to fall in love again and will be in denial mode because he believes Sai does not like him and don't look at him that way.

That guy have hectic job. He is ips officer and what kind of people he had to deal with. Whenever he goes to and come from police station every day new drama and taunt for him from his family

In this relationship both have baggage and both are suffering and both need a break (alongwith viewer) from this unnecessary family drama

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Yes sai said that in grief but it was really hit virat hard, coz after that he left but he had to return & u know why , sai requesting him again & again for saying no & running away from GC further deepen virat's belief sai don't like him as human who she would marry but just marrying him out of society pressure.

D scene which u mentioned in which virat was worried for his job , I also hold virat wrong in that scene coz it was a wrong accusations on sai that she was d reason for virat loosing his so called pyaari cheez in reality aisa kuch nhi tha , 4 samrat virat left his so called pyar cheez.

Friendship is first step of any kind of relationship , it was not an insult , yes sai is wife of virat but it doesn't mean he will start loving her just coz he married her, emotions don't have on off button , at one time virat definitely had feelings for pakhi , jo ki ab nahi hain he don't have romantic feelings for her but yes he do have soft spot for her jiska pakhi fayda uthati hain. Vo soft spot bhi slowly fade out ho jayega lekin usme time lagega as virat is under process of falling in love with sai .

Yes Virat has a soft heart but he too is stubborn in nature , he is a very strict believer suno sabki karo apne mann ki , I hardly remember a scene where virat had done thing by following other person words , aap virat se tab tak vo kam nhi karwa sakte jab tak virat uske liye agree na ho as virat always find his way out . Regarding virat not having any shell , sorry I disagree , it was told by Ashwani herself virat don't open up to others , yes he hardly shares his feelings with other in CN only Ashwani is real close to him, rest really don't care about him sadly ninad chavan 2 , he is real alone inside, his calm & composed attire is just a show off , even he need someone to make him open up . If virat was not having shell around him then it would be really easy for people to know him.

I will again said virat know sai appreciate him as a person who is helping her to achieve her dreams , who do take stand for her , sai touching his feets prove it but He is in a strong believe that he is undesirable for sai & in past he had suffered a heart break with no fault of him , do I think he will open up.

Regarding virat saying to sai tumke kya farak parta hain mein pakhi se baat karo , I will like to remind u just episode before it virat only said I know u don't like me talking to pakhi & sai said I don't care , virat asked this coz he sensed it by Sai's body language ( where be is not wrong ) Ayesha is quite good in that portrayal .

Regarding virat letting pakhi speak b/w sairat , uspe mujhe bhi problem hain as nobody have a right to speak in husband wife matter , pakhi to bilkul nhi . I hope makers correct it .

Virat is not blind to see what sai is doing for his family , some where he is sad that he can't give sai a loving family .

Virat nhi hurt hota hain like in last episode virat asked sai not to bring pakhi in b /w , ek baar pehle bhi kaha hain , lekin when sai said pakhi dint bring food , that time also he said she don't need to worry but still she diny stop then he gave her what she wanted to listen by calling out pakhi loud thou I know he 2 is wrong there

Communication dono taraf se ho to kuch baat hain varna it's of no use . As relationship don't work from one side.

Isiliye mein sairat ko virat ke quarter pe shift hone wali baat ki thi as it would help them better.

Thank u & sorry if I m sounded rude

Virat is unsure about his position in her life because of multiple reasons but I feel the main one is, he believes Sai doesn't respect him and doesn't give a damn about his opinion. If we look at the past incidents, one during the DIg issue. Virat asked her to let him know where she is going , instead of answering him, she directed her anger on him and he felt disrespected. The second one was after she came from Pakhi’s house..she concluded in front of everyone that he is capable of beating his wife. He fights against his family but Sai gets carried away and fails to put a united front and he feels humiliated by this. When she rejected his advice during Amey’s issue, it triggered him and that might be the reason why he was asking her to apologize to his family members again and again. He wanted her to give importance to his words. He wants her to show he means something to her, he is not expecting her to accept him as her husband but he wants her to show he means something to her. Whenever Pp taunts Virat that Sai doesn't respect him, he has disturbed.

While it's true that Virat was the one who said “umeed mat rakhna”, he has never talked about leaving her but Sai constantly talks about the separation. I understand where Sai is coming from but Viratfeels she just can't wait to be out of his life. If we notice Virat has not said “umeed mat rakana” after marriage. He still remembers she was the one who refused to marry him even before he spoke about T&C. They need to voice their expectation, needs and insecurities to come out of this deadlock situation.