Jan 2 episode! - Page 3

Originally posted by: neeraja91

I am not suggesting that anyones job is less easy or difficult than anothers. Homemaker responsibilities are as tough as going out to work. All i said is that i want to see virat say something to the effect that Sai is not available to do all ghar ka kaam at peoples beck and call and that responsibilities should be shared by everyone. That does not mean Sai is not going to help out or that I'm suggesting that virat should stay at home to do Sais work or Ashwini should get tortured instead of Sai. Ashwini was being tortured even before Sai came, and now because of Sai, Ashwini is learning to fight back atleast a little and is slowly recognizing that shes not a doormat. She still has a long way to go but she will get there. Another forum member made a beautiful post about why its hard for women to speak up. Shivani also speaks up but is easily shot down but it is only when Virat speaks that things actually change in the house. Unfortunately reality is that as much as women can speak up fir themselves, its important for men around them to also be sensitive and understanding abd support them.

There are umpteen tasks in the house that a man can help with. For example a guy like Virat that works odd hours and cant cook can also help with keeping his room as clean as possible (jhadu picha karne nahi bola!) or putting his clothes in the laundry or maybe using his day off to wash the vehicles. Ghar main chote bade bahut kaam hote hain. Sabko apne apne hisaab se contribute karna chahiye. Larger point ye hai ki there should be NO conditioning of people to believe that women can only pursue their dreams if they can also balance household chores! And that amounts to gender equity (equity not equality!).

When Sai becomes a doctor depending on her specialty, her job and hours will be as demanding if not more than virat and I say that as someone who is a doctor myself and my mother is a doctor too. And i have heard her speak about how difficult it was in the beginning when she got married to adjust to the traditional expectations on top of her professional ones. But eventually things got better when everyone started pitching in even if it was little little things.

doctorji🥳 society rule woman should balance both work and home,if she is homemaker,should be a doormat😡

@bold can you please share that link.

between,i feel agitated ate ashwini beingvtreated like maid,and they want sai too to become like ashwini😡

kaku tho super rich hey, why cantvthey keep a cook,maid to to work?

between they are eating poha and bread only,uskaey liyae pakhi is enought to prepare that🤪

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

For that not virat but sai has to create bond with family members , for that she don't have to follow all their nonsense rules but still try to gel with them atleast try atleast try to know them , eventually they will also try to connect with her but in this case not possible coz both parties r loggerheads

I m also working woman but my mother in law help me a lot in household work for that my husband don't have to interfer its upto me & saas how to keep our relationship.

Sandhya rathi also faced many conspiracy by bhabo in order to stop her studies to become IPS officer but it was sandhya who proved her point yes suraj was a helping hand . Bhabo even drugged sandhya so that she can't give her main IPS exam & bhabo to was a very traditional saas , it was sandhya was made her place in her in law's house without sacrificing her dreams not suraj don't have much role in sandhya bhabo bond, suraj too helped sandhya a lot as he was reason of sandhya becoming IPS officer , sandhya was someone who don't know cooking ka c bhi. People appreciate that show coz it had reality in it .

Jo precap mein conspiracy show hui ha vo galat hain 100% jispe virat ko bolna chahiye as he was shown in precap but virat interfering in kitchen duty is not right .

What if virat get transferred to some other city as he will not keep sitting in Nagpur always or go for a mission then what will happen with sai , how will see manage without virat's interference in family matter.

All I want to say I want to see sai's journey & struggle towards her dream , I want to see a strong sai not someone for whom always virat takw stand.

We can agree to disagree

# peace out

simple reply to you: ok if its sai's responsibility to create abond with her in laws,fine. can you please tell why those stupids are treating ashwini badly in all these years?? she was a doormat to them..now only she is answering them.. why didnt the chavans created a good bond with her?

there are thick skinned people who will hate a person for no reason.even if that person dies for them,they will put the blame like that person tried to kill them ,so god punished him/her. they are ego centric and self obssessed🤢

Link toh nahi hai. I'll try looking for it in the old posts. But there are many soceital pressures and conditioning that have led to women not being able to speak up or lead to them getting shot down easily. And kaafi cheezein hum main itni ingrained hai ki we dont even question it. Aur unfortunately kai baar jab hum shuru mai hi awaz nahi uthate ya kisi cheez ke baare main baat nahi kar paate toh it snowballs into something much bigger. Suppressing emotions too long leaves only a lot of bitterness hurt and anger. And after a point lines blur... because tolerating someone hurting you or doing something wrong is also not acceptable. fir dusron ke saath saath humein apne aap ko aur apne decisions aur halaaton ko bhi kosna padega. And eventually its a vicious cycle main baandh lete hai and then its very hard to break free.

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

For that not virat but sai has to create bond with family members , for that she don't have to follow all their nonsense rules but still try to gel with them atleast try atleast try to know them , eventually they will also try to connect with her but in this case not possible coz both parties r loggerheads

I m also working woman but my mother in law help me a lot in household work for that my husband don't have to interfer its upto me & saas how to keep our relationship.

Sandhya rathi also faced many conspiracy by bhabo in order to stop her studies to become IPS officer but it was sandhya who proved her point yes suraj was a helping hand . Bhabo even drugged sandhya so that she can't give her main IPS exam & bhabo to was a very traditional saas , it was sandhya was made her place in her in law's house without sacrificing her dreams not suraj don't have much role in sandhya bhabo bond, suraj too helped sandhya a lot as he was reason of sandhya becoming IPS officer , sandhya was someone who don't know cooking ka c bhi. People appreciate that show coz it had reality in it .

Jo precap mein conspiracy show hui ha vo galat hain 100% jispe virat ko bolna chahiye as he was shown in precap but virat interfering in kitchen duty is not right .

What if virat get transferred to some other city as he will not keep sitting in Nagpur always or go for a mission then what will happen with sai , how will see manage without virat's interference in family matter.

All I want to say I want to see sai's journey & struggle towards her dream , I want to see a strong sai not someone for whom always virat takw stand.

We can agree to disagree

# peace out

on huma ity geound,sai lost her fatjer..that soul didnt even get the time to come out of trauma ki she faced all the dramas..she is just 18 to understand tge house hold responsibilities. between getting married after completing a degree and getting married before completing degree has huge difference...

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Link toh nahi hai. I'll try looking for it in the old posts. But there are many soceital pressures and conditioning that have led to women not being able to speak up or lead to them getting shot down easily. And kaafi cheezein hum main itni ingrained hai ki we dont even question it. Aur unfortunately kai baar jab hum shuru mai hi awaz nahi uthate ya kisi cheez ke baare main baat nahi kar paate toh it snowballs into something much bigger. Suppressing emotions too long leaves only a lot of bitterness hurt and anger. And after a point lines blur... because tolerating someone hurting you or doing something wrong is also not acceptable. fir dusron ke saath saath humein apne aap ko aur apne decisions aur halaaton ko bhi kosna padega. And eventually its a vicious cycle main baandh lete hai and then its very hard to break free.

exaxtly..i see people ad ising easily to go for divorce which itself is a tiring process and costly affair..if the gir has maternal side suppor ok but if no,after marriage life mein jho bhi kaand hoga she has to bear it..especially for housewife who are financially dependent on their parents or husband.. and if kids are there,it makes thw situation even worse. agar mein pati ko chodnaey ki baath karungi,meraey khudh kaey pitha will not allow me inside the house . adjust with your inlaws,be flexible,be patient for kids sake..etc etc..meraey pati aur saas ko acchi tarah pata ki i dont have a place or person for support..so they are free to hurt me...