Note: This an analytical post.
Virat ka dil to kabka Saika ho chuka hai..bas ab sab sawal usaki budhhipar aakar atak gaya hai..
To ye raha..Viratke brainka Saitak ka safar:
• Social norms: The way I see it the writer of GHKPM has challenged the most accepted social norms through the plot when it comes to love or marriage. One being the age gap. The writer has banked on "soch milani chahiye" as the most basic requisite for such relationships beyond other attributes. It is wonderful that the age gap issue is shown both ways (Sivani bua (female) wanting to marry a young man (male) and vice versa i.e. Virat and Sai. The others were bloodline and money issue (The families should be of equal status norm) but that was never on Virat-Sai's mind, so will not discuss it here. Virat eventhough has defended the age gap issue at the reception, he is deeply influenced by it. Technically (legally) he has married an adult. But to his brain, he has still married a 'Bachhi'. His brain keeps pushing under the carpet what his heart is feeling. His brain is playing smart by looking the other way at the moment. We can see him saying in his monologues (to his brain) "Nahi aisa kuchh nahi hai. Soye use jahan sona hai"(convincing his brain that he (his heart) is not romantically attracted to Sai). Whenever he (his heart) comes out of the spell of neharofying Sai (at the wedding reception, before college admission, at the 'nag' nadee ke kinare), he doesn't allow his brain to ponder upon what he was doing. He immediately reverts back to mischief, zhagada or gives an explaination that he was just doing his zimmedari (Saving Sai from falling at 'nadi kinare' is his love instinct but he will name it as his 'Sai ki suraksha ki zimmedari'). Otherwise his brain will ask him the question, " How come you are falling for/attracted towards a girl you called a 'bachhi', 'chhoti' all along?" It is going to be a struggle for Virat to come to terms with it intellectually. That is how deeply social norms affect our thinking. He even MAY go through phase of self-doubt, awkwardness, a bit of guilt ("am I feeling this for sure?" and then "am I right in feeling like this for a 'bachhi'?") before he accepts to himself (to his brain) the womanhood of Sai.
• Pre-conceived notions: Virat has pre-conceived notions about what Sai thinks about him.
(1) Mei bura hun: which is wearing out a bit ("aap itane bhi bure nahi ho.."), but it is not complete. To love, one should not consider the other person to be even little bit 'bura'. He MAY struggle with 'Sai ko mei itana achha bhi nahi lagata ke woh muzhe pyar kare',she has 'bharosa' on me but not 'liking' or 'love' for me.
(2) Sai muze pati nahi manati: After the roadside fight and Sai yelling "Pati hai ye mere!"may come to his help. But was it to just save him from people or Sai's true feelings will be his question to himself. Sai's intermittent cold behaviour (due to his use of 'farz','zimmedari' words) may strengthen this notion.
• Vadaa: After first accepting to himself that he is attracted to Sai as her man, irrespective of what Sai feels for him, he will have to come to face to face with his Vadaa. Sorting out the Vadaa issue is a tough task.
(1) Self-belief: His inability to keep his 'Vadaa' is going be an attack on his self- belief first (Virat Chavhan..jyachi pakki jaban).Sunny's statement to Pakhi, "Agar aap madat nahi karati to ye yaho Godavari mei apani jaan de deta", his answer to Pakhi "Tum muzhe muzse zyada nahin janati" after Pakhi asked him on her wedding night, "Tumhe tumhara vadaa yaad hai na? Tum nibha paoge na use?". Virat will have to accept that "Woh khudko puri tarahse nahi janata" and people change over time and his heart has changed too ."Apane past ko pathhar ki lakeer samaz lenge toh nayi kahaniya kaise likhenge?" is going to give him the answer.
• Pakhi and Vadaa: ' Sai is a bachhi' has remained Virat's first line of defence when facing Pakhi from day one. " Bachhi hai Sai" at GC or "Chhoti hai woh" multiple times when their was attack on his loyalty towards his 'Vadaa'. Pakhi from day one (GC days) has sensed the special pull Virat has towards Sai (as a woman). It is her strong woman instinct. That is why she keeps on repeating "itani bhi bachhi nahi hai Sai". Her insecurities were never in vain. She had sensed from day one what Virat has not sensed yet consciously (i.e. his subconscious deep bond with Sai as a woman.He hugged Sai in his dream as a woman one loves, not as a kid) .Virat will have to accept to Pakhi formally that in fact he sees Sai as a woman and not 'bachhi'. Then he will have to accept that he could not keep his promise and Sai rules over his heart. Viraat should be ready with his answers for his conscience and for Pakhi as Pakhi is not going let him go so easily for breaking the promise.
here are few:
(a) Pakhi not fulfilling her part of promise.
(b) Pakhi was not the person he thought she was. If the person was an illusion, the love was too.
(c) People, circumstances change, I (Virat) have changed and that is the fact and one should move ahead just like the 'nadee'.
(d) As a friend I (Virat) would suggest that you (Pakhi) accept your marriage which I wanted you to from day one and live happily or else if you and Samrat can't see life together, that is upto you. Your mutual (Samrat-Pakhi) equation is not going to change what I feel for you.
• Samrat and family: Virat's vadaa and breaking off the same may have consequences for his Jiva and family too (I don't know what CV's plans are). Virat who is sensitive towards his dear ones will have to stay strong with it too.(i.e. not giving in for Pakhi's threats even for his family's sake or Samrat's sake) even if it means end of Pakhi- Samrat marriage.
• Sai: Sai is going to be a tough nut to crack after bombardment of words like 'deal', 'Vadaa', 'zimmedari' from day one.Sai senses his feelings but due to his use of the above words, she would develop a guard against all his actions. Whatever he does will be 'farz' for her or atleast she will not be sure if to call it 'love'. The way 'love' and 'love marriage' are two different things, one is an emotion and other is formal acceptance of an emotion, Sai will know the (she already knows) emotion but Virat will have to formally accept it and make Sai believe on "Kaun tuzhe yun pyar karega jaise mei karata hun..."for us to have an Happy Sairat ending!
To ye raha Viratke brainka Saitak ka safar (or should I say suffer)..but to get 'kohinoor like Sai', it is worth it...!❤❤❤
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