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This loveless marriage is jhaap is so overdone now. I think if the husband is nice and doesn’t abuse you, you would eventually fall in love with him. This bakwaas that I don’t love him, I love someone else bakwaas is shown only in BW.

Originally posted by: InspectorShirke

This loveless marriage is jhaap is so overdone now. I think if the husband is nice and doesn’t abuse you, you would eventually fall in love with him. This bakwaas that I don’t love him, I love someone else bakwaas is shown only in BW.

No.. it's not always necessary that you eventually fall in love with your husband.. it's quite possible to live with someone nice your whole life and not fall in love with him..

Loveless marriages exist and are a reality, no matter how "impractical" they sound..

Originally posted by: InspectorShirke

This loveless marriage is jhaap is so overdone now. I think if the husband is nice and doesn’t abuse you, you would eventually fall in love with him. This bakwaas that I don’t love him, I love someone else bakwaas is shown only in BW.

I feel like this too.. What is love anyway? If someone is nice, you two are compatible, and you live with them, eventually it would be good na..?

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

No.. it's not always necessary that you eventually fall in love with your husband.. it's quite possible to live with someone nice your whole life and not fall in love with him..

Loveless marriages exist and are a reality, no matter how "impractical" they sound..

If there are no bad feelings, both are nice and understanding with each other, is love necessary? In this aspect, what is love even, lust?

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

But then how long can you really pull a loveless marriage? Meera's mother didn't love her husband.. it's not like she didn't try.. they did wait for 8 years till Meera was a bit old and not dependent on her mom before leaving.. would Meera have been better off emotionally if she saw her mother sad and mopey in a loveless marriage where her heart wasn't there? Wouldn't she even then have become emotionally challenged?

And unless I am wrong, it's her father who decided that her mum can't meet her( can't say i blame him)

The movie had Meera forgive her mom because she realized that her mom faced the same battle years ago that she was facing now.. Her mom lost the battle to her heart but then can you really blame someone for choosing their happiness

And Aditya didn't fully forgive his mom.. he learned to move past it.. there is a difference

Originally posted by: Ajeeb-ladki

If there are no bad feelings, both are nice and understanding with each other, is love necessary? In this aspect, what is love even, lust?

Originally posted by: Ajeeb-ladki

If there are no bad feelings, both are nice and understanding with each other, is love necessary? In this aspect, what is love even, lust?

No.. love is overlooking flaws and even being accepting of everything and not feeling as though you are making a compromise.. marriage is a huge commitment.. it requires one to be more accepting.. yes, it requires compromises but one shouldn't feel that the compromise is a burden.. love makes that burden ease away

And yes, physical desire is just as important in a marriage.. it isn't list but a natural need.. if you feel uncomfortable with the touch of your husband for any XYZ reason, some serious introspection about your marriage is needed

Originally posted by: InspectorShirke

now I’ll give you an example. It’s all hypothetical. Imagine your dad marries a woman other than your mother and then asks your mom for forgiveness and when you grow up and get married, your husband does the same thing thinking that you would not say anything since your dad did the same thing and the trend continues in future generations as well, how would you feel?

That was a very personal example you used but my honest and genuine answer is- if my dad were to have done that- yes we would be very hurt but "forgiveness" would not mean that we accept what he did as right or undermine all the pain he caused by brushing it under the carpet.

It would be devastating but my mother would move on and in time teach me from his mistakes that people are flawed but that I should not take any BS from my partner either. More importantly- the best way of processing all of my own hurt would be to eventually release any bitterness towards my father- like Aditya.

I'm not saying it is easy or that it doesnt take years to get there but you do it for your emotional health and so that YOU dont repeat the pattern with your partner.

You forgive (maybe not forget) not for the other person, but for yourself. Life is too short to hold on to trauma

Love is overrated. especially BW kind.

Geet was stupid. Never run away from your house in the middle of the night. That too for a guy? No way.

Comfort and companionship is also love.

Platonic is bullshit. Only happens between asexuals (if they truly exist) 😆

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Love is overrated. especially BW kind.

Geet was stupid. Never run away from your house in the middle of the night. That too for a guy? No way.

Comfort and companionship is also love.

Platonic is bullshit. Only happens between asexuals (if they truly exist) 😆

Huh? Matlab if your childhood friend is nice, respects you and is great, you automatically love him and should marry him?😆 after all he has been your companion your whole life

I agree Bollywood exaggerates the concept of love but what you are saying is kind of similar to ek larka ek larki kabhi dost nahi hisakte😆