Apni izzat apni haath mein hoti hai - Subtle, yet powerful - Page 4

Apani rehat Aapne hath Hoti hai ye aaj prove hote hote reg Gaya. Jab pakhi boli ki mere bareme sai our Ashwin Mani ko jyada pata rehata hai tab agar Ashwin ne bol Diya hota ki ha muze pata hai tum iss Ghar me virat ke liye aayi ho our samrat tumhare Karan chod Gaya kyuki tum virat se pyar karati ho ye use pata chal Gaya tumse tab to Achi ijjat rehati patthar lekha ki. But Ashwini is too good she don't want bad for her just want she should be on right path.

Originally posted by: LadyWhistledown

Jankiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!! (Nahi... ab yeh i kuch zyada hogaya, now it's time to change. Next post se, I'll be calling you "Januuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu"😆)

Janu word ko lekar meri life ki alag hi story hai. Forbidden hai filhaal but you can use 🤣

Your analysis is just amazing as usual. Kaise kar lete ho yaar? Kahi tum ek psychologist toh nahi ho??

Nahi, psychologist nahi hoon... Maine zindagi dekhi hai aur bohat saari immaturity collect kari hai bas😆

Even I do believe that people are responsible for their situations, at least in Pakhi's case it is true. I agree to the fact that she's holding to the vaada as if her life depends on it, even when she knows that it has lost its value.

It is true that Virat hasn't done anything to further her illusions, but he hasn't done anything to stop them either. He didn't keep her at arm's length. Rather, he actually gave her the monopoly over his relationship with Sai. In the name of making her feel not left out and important, he is making her delusional even further.

What I mean to say is that, though Pakhi is responsible for whatever situation she is in, we cannot completely absolve Virat off it. I'm not even talking about the vaada here. The vaada was given in a moment of weakness, agreed. But he, for one moment, doesn't seem to reflect on the damage this has done. I personally feel that we let Virat off the wagon very easily.

Also, he doesn't for one moment seem to consider the fact that Samrat might have left because of this reason, though Pakhi had told him that Samrat left and he must know about them.

I don't hesitate in calling him an idiot and yes, he is half responsible for this but I have seen him making an effort to let her go. She does not get the point and he's been, perhaps, raised in such a way that he doesn't easily say "NO" to anyone. So, when he doesn't visibly push her, away like he did for the first time yesterday -- and she immediately got the point -- she latches on to her own thought that he wants her even when he hasn't said or done anything to that effect. Also, if you watch that episode where Sai accidentally calls Virat thinking of Aaba, he was considering calling PP but he did not. He puts the phone away recalling that PP has told him about Samrat possibly learning about them. Yes, he cannot be absolved of the idiocracy but I would not blame him for PP's obsession.

(playing devil's advocate) Also, I look at it this way -- why do we forget that it is actually Virat who should carry the sense of hurt and be heartbroken with PP. It is very graceful of him to take all the guilt on himself. We like to blame a man for a woman's misery. But in this case, it was PP who misunderstood, blocked his number at one disappointing phone call. He kept searching for her, thinking of her, pushing Sunny to find her, texting her etc. And she took one day to overcome her "true love", sulk in front of a prospective groom and shed crocodile tears while saying yes to a match because she was convinced that he is not coming back. Had it not been a coincidence that Samrat and Virat were cousins, she would have married Samrat, consummated her marriage and lived her life and Virat would have never known why. May be he would have carried the heartbreak more than PP right now. It is only because she saw him and decided to undo her own mistrust by asking him to call off the wedding and support her and he refused to turn it into a circus that we have the reason to blame him. His vaada will remain inexplicably moronic until the end of his life but I do not think PP was in any kind of a dire situation to push herself to marry Samrat.

I do think that Pakhi is stupid enough to still hold on to that vaada, but she has no reason to let go of it, until yesterday's episode, when Virat actually seems to be taking a stance. Maybe, in the upcoming episodes, we can see her coming to terms with the fact that the vaada boy is gone for good.

And coming to Sai, apart from feeling a slight sense of possessiveness for Virat, she does know the kind of people that exist in the Chavan Nivas. Even on Pakhi's side, except for Bhavani, Mansi and to some extent Ninad, there is no one else. Omi, Sonali and Karishma are like hyenas waiting for their prey. Woh log kisika nahi ho sakte hai. And Sai seems to realise this better than Pakhi. Sai doesn't want to be involved in any more drama than she can help.

Also, Sai does understand that what Virat feels for Pakhi is not the same as what Pakhi feels for Virat. So if she cannot make Pakhi understand, she needs to knock some sense into Virat first.

True. Sai has noticed the true faces and equations of everyone in the short span because she comes as an outsider and has not grown up immune in that environment like Virat. So, she will also ensure that he sees things from some perspective once she discovers more truths... like the Devyani track which will be coming up.

Let us see how these dynamics play out.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Janu word ko lekar meri life ki alag hi story hai. Forbidden hai filhaal but you can use

^aisa kya hogaya ki forbidden hai??? Interesting... very interesting... start the story behind this😆

Nahi, psychologist nahi hoon... Maine zindagi dekhi hai aur bohat saari immaturity collect kari hai bas
^Pakhi se zyada zindagi dekha hai tumne???

I don't hesitate in calling him an idiot and yes, he is half responsible for this but I have seen him making an effort to let her go. She does not get the point and he's been, perhaps, raised in such a way that he doesn't easily say "NO" to anyone. So, when he doesn't visibly push her, away like he did for the first time yesterday -- and she immediately got the point -- she latches on to her own thought that he wants her even when he hasn't said or done anything to that effect. Also, if you watch that episode where Sai accidentally calls Virat thinking of Aaba, he was considering calling PP but he did not. He puts the phone away recalling that PP has told him about Samrat possibly learning about them. Yes, he cannot be absolved of the idiocracy but I would not blame him for PP's obsession.

^I do agree. He has been making a visible effort to push her focus on Samrat, by telling her things like, "Samrat ke saath tumhari khushi bhi wapas lautke aayegi." I do not blame him for Pakhi's obsession. What I mean to say is that, what he thinks as a pity party - like trying to make Pakhi feel included just because he pities her situation and feels guilty, is actually a sign for Pakhi to latch on to him, and he should recognise that.

(playing devil's advocate) Also, I look at it this way -- why do we forget that it is actually Virat who should carry the sense of hurt and be heartbroken with PP. It is very graceful of him to take all the guilt on himself. We like to blame a man for a woman's misery. But in this case, it was PP who misunderstood, blocked his number at one disappointing phone call. He kept searching for her, thinking of her, pushing Sunny to find her, texting her etc. And she took one day to overcome her "true love", sulk in front of a prospective groom and shed crocodile tears while saying yes to a match because she was convinced that he is not coming back. Had it not been a coincidence that Samrat and Virat were cousins, she would have married Samrat, consummated her marriage and lived her life and Virat would have never known why. May be he would have carried the heartbreak more than PP right now. It is only because she saw him and decided to undo her own mistrust by asking him to call off the wedding and support her and he refused to turn it into a circus that we have the reason to blame him. His vaada will remain inexplicably moronic until the end of his life but I do not think PP was in any kind of a dire situation to push herself to marry Samrat.

^It is true that Virat is the one who is probably the most affected out of the two, not including Samrat, because Pakhi was the one who blocked him without a reason, and then expected him to break his brother's heart for her. And his guilt probably stems from making her promise him that she would marry Samrat. I do agree that if Samrat was never related to Virat and they never met again, Pakhi would have moved on easily, with time, and would've probably been happy with Samrat. Virat's vaada is one of the most pointless one ever made, but more than the vaada, it is the kind of things he does (like trying to involve Pakhi is SaiRat's life, and giving her a free ticket into his room any time she wants) that irk me. I would never blame Virat for Pakhi' misery entirely, but in a way he does fuel it. Hopefully, our Patakha will help him put a stop to it.