Why u ppl hate vanr?

Hi!

Why do you ppl hate vanR?

The real hate should go to Kavya. She spoiled vanr decent family life by interference in anu & van married life. She knew vanr is married yet tried to sprinkle her rainy rose water on well settled, smart, happy married man. Isn't it bad? If yes, why blame only vanr for it?

Anu too was very happy with him, he gave her everything, she too gave him everything in return as wife, mother, family happiness.. even though now things are bit different but she still will be wholeheartedly accept him back if vanr throws out Kavya.

It is Kavya who manipulated him that anu is too inferior, she purposely tried to show her typical city based office going attitude in favour that it will put Anu in bad light. Tried to get in good books of his kids as they r his life lines..

Vanraj was still not happy with anupama when there is no kavya in vanraj life. Vanraj use to treat anupama as maid and use to destest her right from that he got married to anupama

Kavya came in life of vanraj 8 year ago but vanraj hating anupama even before 8 year ago. He is hating anupama with out reason singh 25 year Eve

So that is reson why people Dont iike vanraj

Anupama shown to happy with vanraj because it was anupama illusion vanraj love her lot

And vanraj even Dont want to marry anupama . He reluctantly say yes to marriage

Je should have said frankly so no to marriage instead of maarrying anupama and then spoling her life after getting married to her

Surbhi, is it compulsory to say ILU to your spouse daily or monthly basis? Choti Moti anban chalu rehti hai Sabi married couples mein.. it doesn't mean ki he hates Anu.

My topic is abt Kavya being treated by IF ppl as non problematic, when she is.

Yes he hate anu he use toh say ki uska anupama ke saath suffocation hota hai . Use embarrasement feel hota hai anupama ke saath kyonki anupama ko english nahi aati aur uske paas se onion garlic ki smell aati hai

And also vanraj anupama ko bahar ghumne bhi nahin deta . Ek baar anupama apni friend ke saath ghumne gayi to vanraj ne anupama ko ghar se baahar nikal diya

Anupama ne ek baar school mein job kiya to vanraj ne anupama ko job nahi karne diya

Anupama driving seekhna tha to vanraj ne kaha tum driving nahi seekhogi . Tumhare kaam hai mere liye khana banana aur mere kapde tayar rakhna aur bacchon ki dekhbhaal karna

It is not neccsary to i love to spouse to every time but vanraj ne anupama ke saath normal behave bhi nahin kiya . Anupama ko kabhi freedom nahi di. Us maid ki tarah treat karta raha

Krrish4you What I would say to you is Kavya doodh ki dhuli nahi hai maana, par Vanraj koi doodh peeta baccha bhi nahi hai jo wo kisi k behkaave me aa jaye.. Aur agar Kavya itni hi tezz hoti behkane me to wo aaj uski wife hoti mistress nahi.

Ulta Kavya is also a victim of Vanraj. Wo usko apni arm candy bana k rakhna chahta hai, apni life ke upar koi haq nahi dena chahta.

Aur Anupama ko usne kabhi pyar kiya hi nahi wo ye kayi baar khud bol chuka hai.

Originally posted by: Krrish4You

Hi!

Why do you ppl hate vanR?

The real hate should go to Kavya. She spoiled vanr decent family life by interference in anu & van married life. She knew vanr is married yet tried to sprinkle her rainy rose water on well settled, smart, happy married man. Isn't it bad? If yes, why blame only vanr for it?

Anu too was very happy with him, he gave her everything, she too gave him everything in return as wife, mother, family happiness.. even though now things are bit different but she still will be wholeheartedly accept him back if vanr throws out Kavya.

It is Kavya who manipulated him that anu is too inferior, she purposely tried to show her typical city based office going attitude in favour that it will put Anu in bad light. Tried to get in good books of his kids as they r his life lines..

Oh at first I thought you were being sacraristic 😊

Nevermind, So these are the reasons I dislike Vanraj more than Kavya.

(Keeping in mind - CVs started showing Kavya going extreme negative from a week)

@Bold - Well Vanraj was never a child or mentally vulnerable for Kavya to manipulate. He was a fully grown man, the father of 3 when he cheated on Anu. I don't necessarily call him smart, I stopped even criticizing him - because all he says is BS. He doesn't make any sense 90 percent of the time! His reasons and lack of acknowledgment that EMA is wrong are clear evidence.

@Underlined - That rather depends on your definition of happiness. Did he give her everything? I disagree - apart from money to run the house, 3 kids ....that peace of * gave Anu nothing.

I will list down why she was unhappy and why Vanraj is a terrible being..

1). A 40+ year old women have to take permission to go somewhere or do anything. That is called the life of a slave, not a wife. (She never went out, and once she did - she was thrown out!!)

2). She is not allowed to have her own money apart from what is needed to run the house, (remember her searching the Kitchen for saved money when her mother's surgery was needed)

3). He disrespected her and bashed her for no reason all the time.

4). She did not have any say in their kids' future and her own.

5). He deliberately made her lose her job.

6). Why Anu was behaving all happy, despite all these - let's face it she was kinda delusional that Vanraj Loves her! And Vanraj was taking advantage of that openly and shamelessly.

7). He never allowed her to grow and kept blaming her that she is nothing.

I would rather have a stranger hate me, over a close person disrespect me for who I am!

EMA is a huge separate matter. While coming to the topic of why hate Vanraj more, compare to Kavya. (Ignoring last week's episodes)

1). Kavya was not actively double-timing, she was already in her process of divorce. I haven't seen all episodes but I believe she was always open about her relationship with Anirudh and Vanraj.

2). She supported Anu on multiple occasions.

3). Kavya is not the one who is refusing divorce, Vanraj still doesn't want to divorce Anu. He would have kept the EMA secret forever if these people never found it out.

4). Kavya was affected when Anu had that breakdown, and Vanraj - despite being a husband he still remained shameless.

5). Vanraj lies to literally everyone, kavya doesn't do that.

6). He was shameless enough, to being Kavya to his house at every damn opportunity.

Above all, Kavya is an outsider to the family. A family member's actions hurt more than an outsider's.

I have many other reasons, and I am pretty sure I am forgetting some but Vanraj is trash. Period.

I blame Vanraj and Kavya equally for EMA. But Vanraj Shah wins the trophy without any competition when it comes to being a terrible being!

Originally posted by: piyu008

Oh at first I thought you were being sacraristic 😊

Nevermind, So these are the reasons I dislike Vanraj more than Kavya.

(Keeping in mind - CVs started showing Kavya going extreme negative from a week)

@Bold - Well Vanraj was never a child or mentally vulnerable for Kavya to manipulate. He was a fully grown man, the father of 3 when he cheated on Anu. I don't necessarily call him smart, I stopped even criticizing him - because all he says is BS. He doesn't make any sense 90 percent of the time! His reasons and lack of acknowledgment that EMA is wrong are clear evidence.

@Underlined - That rather depends on your definition of happiness. Did he give her everything? I disagree - apart from money to run the house, 3 kids ....that peace of * gave Anu nothing.

I will list down why she was unhappy and why Vanraj is a terrible being..

1). A 40+ year old women have to take permission to go somewhere or do anything. That is called the life of a slave, not a wife. (She never went out, and once she did - she was thrown out!!)

2). She is not allowed to have her own money apart from what is needed to run the house, (remember her searching the Kitchen for saved money when her mother's surgery was needed)

3). He disrespected her and bashed her for no reason all the time.

4). She did not have any say in their kids' future and her own.

5). He deliberately made her lose her job.

6). Why Anu was behaving all happy, despite all these - let's face it she was kinda delusional that Vanraj Loves her! And Vanraj was taking advantage of that openly and shamelessly.

7). He never allowed her to grow and kept blaming her that she is nothing.

I would rather have a stranger hate me, over a close person disrespect me for who I am!

EMA is a huge separate matter. While coming to the topic of why hate Vanraj more, compare to Kavya. (Ignoring last week's episodes)

1). Kavya was not actively double-timing, she was already in her process of divorce. I haven't seen all episodes but I believe she was always open about her relationship with Anirudh and Vanraj.

2). She supported Anu on multiple occasions.

3). Kavya is not the one who is refusing divorce, Vanraj still doesn't want to divorce Anu. He would have kept the EMA secret forever if these people never found it out.

4). Kavya was affected when Anu had that breakdown, and Vanraj - despite being a husband he still remained shameless.

5). Vanraj lies to literally everyone, kavya doesn't do that.

6). He was shameless enough, to being Kavya to his house at every damn opportunity.

Above all, Kavya is an outsider to the family. A family member's actions hurt more than an outsider's.

I have many other reasons, and I am pretty sure I am forgetting some but Vanraj is trash. Period.

I blame Vanraj and Kavya equally for EMA. But Vanraj Shah wins the trophy without any competition when it comes to being a terrible being!

Well written.👏

Agree with you

The reasons are easily too many. Kavya is not the reason this marriage broke. We have seen ample cases where Kavya has shown more commitment and seriousness in the relationship than Vanraj.

His hypocrisy is the main reason for hate.

1. He wanted Anupamaa to keep being his unpaid slave while still being with Kavya sexually and not having to commit to her citing family issues.

2. He often compared Anupamaa to a maid and has numerously said that he can hire a second maid and a nurse for Hasmukh when Anupamaa leaves and no one will miss her.

3. He despised her and has lost his attraction towards her after Pakhi's birth which he has shamelessly and repeatedly shared with Kavya to keep her with him when she wanted to breakup

4. Kavya has been honest about her EMA with Anirrudh and applied for divorce immediately and has been pushing ever since. Vanraj evaded it till Hasmukh kicked him out and then he declared the idea of divorce just as a display of his superiority over Anupamaa to scare her so that he is taken back in, which didn't happen.

Clearly Vanraj neither loves Anupamaa nor Kavya, he planned to use both for his different needs till he got discovered.

Makers are now showing Kavya as negative so that he can be pushed as a lead and there is a possibility of their reconciliation but we as viewers have more sense than that.

When a man expects a woman to slave for him and plays with her emotions to make her think he loves her no end....

To have an affair, bring the woman to his house and try to make out with her in his own bed ...

To lie without batting an eyelid that he was being blackmailed by Kavya....

To stay in Anirudhs house and try to beat him up...

To have no shame for what he did and squarely blame Anupama for it and manipulate baa and Pakhi by projecting all the blame on Anu....

Vanraj is a spineless bigot. He needs to rot in hell.

I am sorry, but your post literally seems to convey the mentality of blaming woman for anything and everything that happens - just like Vanraj.

Baa has already proposed Anupama to forgive Vanraj and to stop him from seeing Kavya going forward. Anupama outright refused even back then, would you call her out to be ungrateful and selfish or egoistic person too? Anupama will most probably never accept Vanraj back again. The show is about broken family due to betrayal of husband.

C'mon, even makers are pretty clear that Vanraj must be hated. The only little valid point in the idiotic things that Vanraj said during his justification time was that the marriage with Anupama was not his choice - fine, but this is not something to call it out after having three kids with the woman!

So far, makers have always maintained a logical justification of Kavya's action - i.e. insecurity arising from Vanraj's attention towards his family and Anupama's capabilities to manage the needs of his family like he wants. So whatever Kavya does is to ensure Vanraj never leaves her because of her previous experience with Vanraj!

The minimal blame for Kavya is to accept an invitation to get involved with a married man and then also blaming his wife for crappy things his boyfriend does.