Burden of being 'Chavan Khandaan Ka beta'

Looking at the Precap for tomorrow, where Bhavani will give her Faisla as the matriarch and wife of Late Nagesh Chavan, there is an indication that Virat has given an earful to the family for insulting Sai at the doorstep. The episode ended with 'Main Chavan Khandaan Ka beta hoon, Maine Jo bhi Faisla Kiya hai Soch samajh Kar Kiya hai.'

The weight of the words 'Chavan Khandaan Ka beta' and the burden of being "Mera sabse chaheeta beta" is something that most men from rigid patriarchal families face -- in the choices they make for their careers, their relationships and even marriages. Very often, such rigid families will go all out to cover up family scandals and illicit relationships so long as at the face of it, the progeny is coming from the 'assal' blood. But for men who want to break free from this burden it is not easy.

The expectations from Virat (and Samrat, even though technically he's the son of the daughter of the house married into another family) to carry forward the legacy and pride attached with it can be very unnerving. Hats off to Neil for portraying that exasperation of Virat in Saturday's episode. Technically, it is Virat who is the only able son of the family from the patriarchal point of view because samrat cannot be counted as a Chavan descendent and Mohit has no respect in the eyes of Kaku because of the same two reasons-- his choice of career in art and perhaps a love marriage with a colleague artist, who is also annoying to give them a benefit of doubt 😜. So, Virat carrying the burden of the family expectation is extremely aware that this is what his 'kaafi traditional' family will say.

All through the taunts and crass comments made against Sai and his marriage, he remained the composed but he was not calm at all. His eyes gave away the hurt, anger and the shame he felt at the show put up by the family. The reason why he didn't react aggressively even when Bhavani asked Sai to get out could be because he has witnessed such things earlier and was prepared for this. He wasn't surprised at all at Bhavani or others but only at Ninad's reaction. The way he literally sighed when Mansi bua taunted him was heart breaking. It made me feel that all the while in the car ride back home, he wasn't aching for Pakhi as much as he was bracing for the drama to follow.

The jibes of 'hum use paise de dete", "silai bunai", Shaadi with "iski barabari Ka ladka, tune kyu ki Shaadi isse", "na khoon hamare jaisa na parivaar" and the final point from Ninad about "Tu yahi Karna Chahta tha" will certainly get a retort although it appears that Virat has also been a silent spectator all this while when his mother and sister in law (Karishma) have been at the receiving end of it all. Now it's different because protecting Sai is his instinct as much as his duty as her 'guardian-husband', which he thinks he is. Moreover, he is aware of her worth, her intelligence and even her dreams. And so, the jibes are a personal insult now, resulting from beaking away from the family expectation of getting a 'Patralekha jaisi Shahannav Kuli Maratha wife', who would have been blessed at the doorstep with 'iski aulad se godh bharo' wala aashirwad. Also, to give it to Sai for bearing all the taunts in silence because she knew it was a situation that Virat has to handle and diffuse, as if she was prepared for this too, no matter how hurtful. She didn't even look at Virat once during this time to show her displeasure -- the kind of understanding that it already seems to be.

This also indicates the issue that the older generation of the house has -- Ninad and Ashwini's story and the departure of Nagesh Chavan from Bhavani's life could possibly be linked. I have a feeling that Virat carries more burden on his shoulder for giving the family a worthy heir (read: assal Shahannav Kuli Maratha) because Ninad may have promised his dying brother that his son will become first a son to the lonely Bhavani and then to his own biological mother. I feel Ashwini's angst comes from the fact that Virat - her only child - was taken away from her and handed over to Bhavani for being trained to be the Shahannav Kuli Maratha son that she wanted. It could have been part of a compromise under pressure with Ninad to make up for bringing shame to the family by marrying a 'chhote Ghar ki non-Maratha' Ashwini in those days.

And I feel Virat knows this to an extent and will now protect Sai from it. He should and he will. The fight for sending her to a medical college will be the next step because I am sure as per the show, admissions would have already started

PS: being a newbie I have only 11 posts allowed and I love replying to all posts but I cannot. Waiting to read thoughts!

Thank you for your warm welcome. 🤗🤗

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Looking at the Precap for tomorrow, where Bhavani will give her Faisla as the matriarch and wife of Late Nagesh Chavan, there is an indication that Virat has given an earful to the family for insulting Sai at the doorstep. The episode ended with 'Main Chavan Khandaan Ka beta hoon, Maine Jo bhi Faisla Kiya hai Soch samajh Kar Kiya hai.'

The weight of the words 'Chavan Khandaan Ka beta' and the burden of being "Mera sabse chaheeta beta" is something that most men from rigid patriarchal families face -- in the choices they make for their careers, their relationships and even marriages. Very often, such rigid families will go all out to cover up family scandals and illicit relationships so long as at the face of it, the progeny is coming from the 'assal' blood. But for men who want to break free from this burden it is not easy.

The expectations from Virat (and Samrat, even though technically he's the son of the daughter of the house married into another family) to carry forward the legacy and pride attached with it can be very unnerving. Hats off to Neil for portraying that exasperation of Virat in Saturday's episode. Technically, it is Virat who is the only able son of the family from the patriarchal point of view because samrat cannot be counted as a Chavan descendent and Mohit has no respect in the eyes of Kaku because of the same two reasons-- his choice of career in art and perhaps a love marriage with a colleague artist, who is also annoying to give them a benefit of doubt 😜. So, Virat carrying the burden of the family expectation is extremely aware that this is what his 'kaafi traditional' family will say.

All through the taunts and crass comments made against Sai and his marriage, he remained the composed but he was not calm at all. His eyes gave away the hurt, anger and the shame he felt at the show put up by the family. The reason why he didn't react aggressively even when Bhavani asked Sai to get out could be because he has witnessed such things earlier and was prepared for this. He wasn't surprised at all at Bhavani or others but only at Ninad's reaction. The way he literally sighed when Mansi bua taunted him was heart breaking. It made me feel that all the while in the car ride back home, he wasn't aching for Pakhi as much as he was bracing for the drama to follow.

The jibes of 'hum use paise de dete", "silai bunai", Shaadi with "iski barabari Ka ladka, tune kyu ki Shaadi isse", "na khoon hamare jaisa na parivaar" and the final point from Ninad about "Tu yahi Karna Chahta tha" will certainly get a retort although it appears that Virat has also been a silent spectator all this while when his mother and sister in law (Karishma) have been at the receiving end of it all. Now it's different because protecting Sai is his instinct as much as his duty as her 'guardian-husband', which he thinks he is. Moreover, he is aware of her worth, her intelligence and even her dreams. And so, the jibes are a personal insult now, resulting from beaking away from the family expectation of getting a 'Patralekha jaisi Shahannav Kuli Maratha wife', who would have been blessed at the doorstep with 'iski aulad se godh bharo' wala aashirwad. Also, to give it to Sai for bearing all the taunts in silence because she knew it was a situation that Virat has to handle and diffuse, as if she was prepared for this too, no matter how hurtful. She didn't even look at Virat once during this time to show her displeasure -- the kind of understanding that it already seems to be.

This also indicates the issue that the older generation of the house has -- Ninad and Ashwini's story and the departure of Nagesh Chavan from Bhavani's life could possibly be linked. I have a feeling that Virat carries more burden on his shoulder for giving the family a worthy heir (read: assal Shahannav Kuli Maratha) because Ninad may have promised his dying brother that his son will become first a son to the lonely Bhavani and then to his own biological mother. I feel Ashwini's angst comes from the fact that Virat - her only child - was taken away from her and handed over to Bhavani for being trained to be the Shahannav Kuli Maratha son that she wanted. It could have been part of a compromise under pressure with Ninad to make up for bringing shame to the family by marrying a 'chhote Ghar ki non-Maratha' Ashwini in those days.

And I feel Virat knows this to an extent and will now protect Sai from it. He should and he will. The fight for sending her to a medical college will be the next step because I am sure as per the show, admissions would have already started

PS: being a newbie I have only 11 posts allowed and I love replying to all posts but I cannot. Waiting to read thoughts!

Thank you for your warm welcome. 🤗🤗

@bold Great analysis👏...never thought about this... there's nothing to say...you have said it all👍🏼..All I can say is, Virat definitely has a huge burden of being the one and only 'Chavan khandaan ka beta'

Firstly, brilliantly written. 👏

To be honest with you, I've never really paid much attention to Virat because I've been really so invested in Sai and Sai's struggles. But after reading your post, quite a few thoughts came to mind.

In the first couple of episodes, we see Virat as a dutiful son who is loved by everyone for his obedience and nature. But now that I think of it, is this the way Virat is or is this the way he's been taught to be? There've been a couple of discussions on the forum about why Virat has this need to keep everyone happy. This was probably a big reason why he sacrificed Pakhi just so that Samrat could be happy. I don't think dissent has ever been tolerated in the Chavan household which is why Virat is a pacifist. He likes to avoid conflict. I always thought Virat is blind towards how Ninad and Bhavani treat his mother but now I feel he chooses to deliberately ignore it.
Virat, from Virat's perspective, is first Virat CHAVAN then anything else. He has learnt to make his family's happiness his happiness.

With everyone reacting the way they did, I think Virat's turmoil just became greater. He is already in a lot of pain with Pakhi marrying Samrat, Kamal Sir dying, having to marry Sai but his family's utter refusal to even see his circumstances and where he's coming from, just intensified it.

Virat comes from a big, circus family headed by the authoritarian Mast Mast and she has no tolerance for differing opinions. Sai comes from a family of two. We've seen that Aaba and Sai argue, talk and discuss and that's probably why Sai doesn't have this people-pleasing nature of Virat. Sai is going to teach Virat to value himself above everyone else and let people know what and how he is feeling.

Phew, I went off on a bit of a tangent but had just a lot to say on this :)

Beautifully said. And absolutely virat’s decisions might be making sense now. First he knew that if he hadn’t married her and just bought her with him the family would have found a way to offload her so Marriage was the only real possibility. And this ppl pleasing habit of virat’s is more damaging to him than anyone else.
I hope sai stands up for herself and Virat at some points. Bhavani proper annoyed me yesterday just stfu. It’s his choice who he marries. Not yours. The entire family apart from a few are very hypocritical. Hope that karishma and Sai become good friends as well.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Looking at the Precap for tomorrow, where Bhavani will give her Faisla as the matriarch and wife of Late Nagesh Chavan, there is an indication that Virat has given an earful to the family for insulting Sai at the doorstep. The episode ended with 'Main Chavan Khandaan Ka beta hoon, Maine Jo bhi Faisla Kiya hai Soch samajh Kar Kiya hai.'

The weight of the words 'Chavan Khandaan Ka beta' and the burden of being "Mera sabse chaheeta beta" is something that most men from rigid patriarchal families face -- in the choices they make for their careers, their relationships and even marriages. Very often, such rigid families will go all out to cover up family scandals and illicit relationships so long as at the face of it, the progeny is coming from the 'assal' blood. But for men who want to break free from this burden it is not easy.

The expectations from Virat (and Samrat, even though technically he's the son of the daughter of the house married into another family) to carry forward the legacy and pride attached with it can be very unnerving. Hats off to Neil for portraying that exasperation of Virat in Saturday's episode. Technically, it is Virat who is the only able son of the family from the patriarchal point of view because samrat cannot be counted as a Chavan descendent and Mohit has no respect in the eyes of Kaku because of the same two reasons-- his choice of career in art and perhaps a love marriage with a colleague artist, who is also annoying to give them a benefit of doubt 😜. So, Virat carrying the burden of the family expectation is extremely aware that this is what his 'kaafi traditional' family will say.

All through the taunts and crass comments made against Sai and his marriage, he remained the composed but he was not calm at all. His eyes gave away the hurt, anger and the shame he felt at the show put up by the family. The reason why he didn't react aggressively even when Bhavani asked Sai to get out could be because he has witnessed such things earlier and was prepared for this. He wasn't surprised at all at Bhavani or others but only at Ninad's reaction. The way he literally sighed when Mansi bua taunted him was heart breaking. It made me feel that all the while in the car ride back home, he wasn't aching for Pakhi as much as he was bracing for the drama to follow.

The jibes of 'hum use paise de dete", "silai bunai", Shaadi with "iski barabari Ka ladka, tune kyu ki Shaadi isse", "na khoon hamare jaisa na parivaar" and the final point from Ninad about "Tu yahi Karna Chahta tha" will certainly get a retort although it appears that Virat has also been a silent spectator all this while when his mother and sister in law (Karishma) have been at the receiving end of it all. Now it's different because protecting Sai is his instinct as much as his duty as her 'guardian-husband', which he thinks he is. Moreover, he is aware of her worth, her intelligence and even her dreams. And so, the jibes are a personal insult now, resulting from beaking away from the family expectation of getting a 'Patralekha jaisi Shahannav Kuli Maratha wife', who would have been blessed at the doorstep with 'iski aulad se godh bharo' wala aashirwad. Also, to give it to Sai for bearing all the taunts in silence because she knew it was a situation that Virat has to handle and diffuse, as if she was prepared for this too, no matter how hurtful. She didn't even look at Virat once during this time to show her displeasure -- the kind of understanding that it already seems to be.

This also indicates the issue that the older generation of the house has -- Ninad and Ashwini's story and the departure of Nagesh Chavan from Bhavani's life could possibly be linked. I have a feeling that Virat carries more burden on his shoulder for giving the family a worthy heir (read: assal Shahannav Kuli Maratha) because Ninad may have promised his dying brother that his son will become first a son to the lonely Bhavani and then to his own biological mother. I feel Ashwini's angst comes from the fact that Virat - her only child - was taken away from her and handed over to Bhavani for being trained to be the Shahannav Kuli Maratha son that she wanted. It could have been part of a compromise under pressure with Ninad to make up for bringing shame to the family by marrying a 'chhote Ghar ki non-Maratha' Ashwini in those days.

And I feel Virat knows this to an extent and will now protect Sai from it. He should and he will. The fight for sending her to a medical college will be the next step because I am sure as per the show, admissions would have already started

PS: being a newbie I have only 11 posts allowed and I love replying to all posts but I cannot. Waiting to read thoughts!

Thank you for your warm welcome. 🤗🤗

This was a wonderful read and thank you for such a beautiful insight!

Kudos to all your thoughts.really gave such an insight to virats dilemma.poor guy

Nice analysis Janki. Actually I would like to know who is the non-maratha lady in Chavan house Bhavani was referring to, other than Karishma & Sai in the latest episode. If it is Ashwini then how will Virat be the Khandaan ka beta?? Actually in Indian tradition a son is considered as khandaan ka beta only if both the parents are from the same kul. If we consider both the sons of the house Virat & Mohit, Virat will be far away from being the khandan ka beta if Ashwini is non-maratha because two generations (Ninad & Virat) married outside kul.

I think Ashwini has her own impact on Virat being his biological mother even if Bhavani managed to dominate over her position in the upbringing of him. We can see two sides of Virat, one is the flawed side of not being able to understand how to proceed with relationships, taking stupid decisions and making meaningless 'vaadas' which he must have acquired due to Bhavani's hold on him.😆 Being a cool and composed gentle man, being compassionate towards others, caring attitude, intelligence etc. especially when he's in ACP mode is the other side which he must have learnt from his own mother Ashwini. Also we can see that his best side has more power and it definitely will take over his flaws. Ashwini will be very happy & proud to see him proceed this way. 😊

Fantastic review!! Honestly, I hadn’t given Virat much thought. This makes total sense.

@Chattering-lory

I think the two non-Maratha Bahus are Ashwini and Karishma. Karishma is not even a Maharashtrian as per the dialogues of Mohit in one episode and her "Daddo Suttho" catchphrase is Sindhi. At first, I was also inclined to believe that the older generation had a love triangle but seems far fetched. It has got to do with the male heir- Virat.

One, because he is the older of the two male children, Mohit and Virat, of the Chavan family directly. Second, because he is also seen as the more "suitable" one since Mohit is more of a rebel, non-military/forces kind and is already married by his own choice. Marathas pride themselves in being in the forces.

Also, Bhavani and Nagesh Chavan - the oldest couple of the generation seem to have one specially abled daughter, who cannot be the heiress of the legacy anyway.

So it is very plausible that Ninad and Ashwini had a love marriage and eventually fell apart due to some vaada given by Ninad to his dying brother or to Bhavani after his death about his son. This could have been to make up for the constant reminder that he may have shamed the family by marrying Ashwini and possibly Ninad was spineless as he seems to be even now. Of course, this twist we will know eventually but my hunch is that Virat has been handed over as Bhavani's first property by Ninad, which has resulted in Ashwini's grief. It also explains why Ninad reacted the way he did, reminding him about a 'farz towards the family' and why Ninad, despite understanding the importance of Kamal Joshi's sacrifice cannot speak in favour of Virat. Lagta hai usne bhi koi illogical vaada Kiya hai Kaku se 🤣 it runs in their Kuli blood 🤣🤣🤣

Coming to the point on how Virat is then a Maratha-- well he is. Because inter caste marriages unilaterally subvert caste-endogamy but not the patriarchal nature of the institution of marriage. The ritual of tying a mangalsutra around a woman’s neck in marriage as a signifier of husband’s ownership. And also, the offsprings directly take after the father's caste and religion etc. However, they won't be the 'blue blood' Marathas, as the patriarchal set up would like.

Also, in Shahannav Kuli Marathas, it is common practice for the eldest couples of families to adopt an heir from within the family. This is especially true for families that have a lot of wealth of legacy to be inherited. Widow heads of Maratha families adopt the most suitable male heirs from within the family to inherit and take forward the legacy of the family. It will be interesting to know if Virat is VIRAT NINAD CHAVAN OR VIRAT NAGESH CHAVAN on paper.

It is not possible that being such a sharp observer, he hasn't felt the way his mother and sister-in-law or even Devyani are treated. The first introductory episodes clearly show that he chooses to diffuse the situation and assure his mother when Bhavani keeps uttering nonsense. But in Saturday's episode where Sai was being insulted, you could see the fire in his eyes. It was almost as if his subconscious dislike and disgust for Bhavani and her thoughts was on his face finally.

@Nadeen: I too hope Sai will be able to drill a lot of logic about things she will spot.

@i-am-Sherlocked: I totally agree with you about the frankness with which Sai and Aaba spoke and the way she has been raised. It will be difficult for her to accept this silent oppression of everyone in the house including her soon-to-be soulmate. She will fight for everyone and Virat will end up seeing the daylight and smelling the coffee 😅😅

Yes till date virat has most likely only been a silent spectator to all the atrocities and regressiveness women in his family have put up with, but I think it will be due to his protectiveness for sai and his duty towards protecting her will encourage him to speak him again the regressive members of his family and I hope he does too, else this show will be very boring then post sairat marriage because if virat keeps quiet and says nothing then where will be less family conflict and drama.