Originally posted by: 10smriti
What she said is something I've been hearing all my life. Mula nasti tar zali asti vegli.
Isn't it common in our culture? Mother is always tagged as the nurturer na. Then how can the nurturer leave her duties all of a sudden?
Doesn't the society blame the mother more for any problem with the kid? Tyat divorsee asel tar baghaylach nako.
Its high time that there be a paradigm shift to this notion that mother is the nurturer. With many of us having a thriving career, its time that father take some (50% is not always possible) responsibility. He can be and should be the nurturer too. And there shouldn't be any guilt if mother has to leave her duties for some time in order to pursue her career or any other reason.
The more you do, the more is expected of you. And its never ending. One has to draw a line somewhere, sometime.
Mula zali mhanoon tumchi identity change naahi zaali. I don't think a woman should be judged on whether she is married or a mother. Marriage and motherhood are part of her but don't define her or her existence...rather shouldn't. How big or small part are these things is up to every woman and there is no standard...shouldn't be. Should be left for every woman to decide.
Women need to stop blaming other women for their kid's misbehavior or failure. Divorcée a whole another issue and things get tricky in that territory.
We need to learn from men...they don't judge other men. Why should women judge other women regarding marriage, motherhood, upbringing of kids....
Edited by NerdyMukta - 5 years ago
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