Originally posted by: Anjani9
But parents cannot make their own child feel that they love adopted more....it is parents responsibility to give emotional support to the child...
Yes it is. But here I think Ryan is not necessarily alluding to the fact that his parents love Jen more than him. He is talking about the element of choice and control in having kids. His parents had him when they weren’t ready. They had Simon later when they were settled and felt ready. With Jen, it was completely their choice. But in chapter 3 Ryan talks about how his parents hadn’t thought it through. Although they brought Jen home, he thinks they may not have been ready to be parents at that stage in their life when they were both middle-aged and very busy. Which is why he ended up giving all the attention to Jen.
I think he feels his dad approves of Simon more than him because of the choices Simon makes. And he makes it very clear that he does. Which has the unfortunate side effect of making Ryan feel less loved, because if a parent is constantly critical of you and approving of your sibling then that’s how you would feel.
It’s the same with Sara. She feels unloved by her mother, because her mother always longs for Ashu more.
The reality isn’t that their parents don’t love them. It’s how the actions of the parents make them feel less loved.
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