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I have major anxiety issues frequented with panic attacks. I've never spoken about it much as I didnt think anyone would understand anyways.

This is so lovely of you, Bekind!

Originally posted by: Bekind

Please share what you like to talk about? Just remember it is about your happiness and your stress.

What makes me happy?

Helping someone, having a conversation that could relief their stress.

What makes me Sad?

Knowing friends turned into snakes.

What gives me Anxiety?

Friends turned into snakes😆 and how come I never saw it coming??

What do I want to work on??

I want to work on losing weight, perhaps 30-40 pounds by end of this year. 10 pounds per months is my goal. Only if I can stop eating unhealthy carbs and move around more often😆

What is stopping me from losing weight?

I had a very bad injury in 2018 and it is not fixable. SO I cannot do difficult exercise, only light ones.

How did I gained weight?

I lost 100 pounds from 2017-2019. But I gained 50 pounds. I have Mild Depression.

How do I recover from Mild Depression?

I don't take medication as it has side effects. I did counseling. It really helped me. My counselor helped me find the root of the cause. She said You are trying to Fix other people. Just remember you cannot fix others, you can help other but it is unto them if they like to fix themselves. She was right When I was offering so much help to others and they were taking me for granted. I would had even more anxiety. From that time til now, I am focusing on myself. Learning new things about myself and trying to find what makes my heart and soul happy. Trying to find my special talent. Everyone has but not many work on themselves.

Best Advice.

When you are helping other, do not think you be able to fix them. Because you will not. Just help them and pray for them. Tell God to take care of them. And just leave it.

Best Moment

When I left my job 2019. Best feeling ever!! I was so happy and that decision changed my life for the better.

What do I do when going through a Heartbreak?

I let it all out. I try to see why it happened and did I missed the red flags? And learn from it. I do believe in Karma. I believe in God. I believe if someone treats you bad, this entire universe will take care of the matter. And that person at some point do realize it. I have experienced it.

How do I organize? Does it help with Anxiety?

I try my best to organize and yes being organized helps your anxiety and depression A LOT! When I see a mess space that itself gives me anxiety😆

What do you watching for peaceful space?

I use to watch motivational videos, but now I like rain sound, thunderstorm sound or even bird chirping video on youtube😆My favorite video is Denzil Washington, Oprah and Sushant Singh Rajput😳

This is so helpful and good learning. Hugs to you. ❤️ and Thanks once again ❤️

Originally posted by: Bekind

Thank you much for joining in. 😃

I would love to hear how you recovered. My depression is link with negative people. I would say the people I care about the most and it turns out they do not wish well for me. How do you recover from trauma? What method worked best for you? I have to wait til covid to slow down as I don’t want virtual therapy but like to have one on one with the therapist. I try my best to keep track of my thoughts to see if my depression is becoming mild to severe. It becomes challenging when you meet heartless people who take advantage. My family doctor once prescribed me for antidepressants and it did worked for me but she said make sure you are not addictive as it has side effects and I read it online and stopped it. Now I am trying keeping positive circle and observing what is making me happy.

schizophrenia is intense. It is hard to find a good doctor who is willing to listen to you and give you the best advice.

So sorry you had to come across people who would behave that way. The world can be so cruel at times. I really do believe you should start therapy. It's okay if it's done virtually. You can do the one on one thing later on, but at least now you can make a start :)

Even my depression was linked to a certain someone in my surroundings at home and it got really toxic because of one person I couldn't avoid. I still cannot avoid that person and she is a part of my life that I cannot, unfortunately, get rid of even if I change my city. So, initially, it was really difficult, and the only thing that worked to a certain extent were the antidepressants and having people who understood my every emotion. I was kept on a suicide watch by my family. In fact, my aunt who lives in another country would freak out if I didn't respond to her WhatsApp texts as she used to keep messaging me throughout her busy day just to make sure I was still there. I really struggled to stay sane, but I guess having people who make it clear to you in absolutely no uncertain terms that they will die too if you die helps a bit to hang on. Not recover but just to hang on and let yourself suffer another day. I had three such people in my life and I did that for them. This is one of the major reasons why my heart breaks when I think of Sushant. He perhaps thought in that one defining moment that there was no one who would struggle to live if he went away. That life would continue as it is for everyone. Having someone like that really helps you get past THAT moment you know. You can survive and heal yourself if you get past THAT moment. But, unfortunately you cannot do it alone. You need someone to help you come out of it. I wish Sushant had that someone and he wasn't cut off from his family who I am sure who would have made sure to make him feel important.

I honestly have gotten past that defining moment in just the last couple of months. You can say after the lockdown majorly. I had frankly lost the will and drive to live another day and I was quite sure that there would be that one day when I would not be able to stop myself even for those three people in my life. This one thing I was pretty sure of till the month of march this year. But, after the lockdown my therapist pushed me to find a new hobby. She had to keep pestering me as I wasn't showing any drive to do anything in life. My grandad finally pushed me into gardening with him. I started and it was so difficult on the first day, but I was made to keep at it by those around me and slowly but surely I did find a change in myself. When I saw the garlic I had planted sprout I felt some sort of positivity I hadn't felt for years now. It was momentary but it was there and I decided then that I cannot let this go. I have to build on it because I felt alive for that one moment after so many months. Since then I have pushed myself into gardening every single day. The last week it was raining heavily yet I covered myself up and planted some lawn that was left to plant. When I told my aunt she said if this isn't your drive that you say you have lost then what is it? In the past four months I have even managed to make peace with that one person in my house who ruined my everything. Now I laugh with her, smile, talk to her normally and I don't even feel bitter about it. Somehow something in the last four months along with therapy has helped me to accept things the way they are and let them go. I still feel very low at times. In fact, when Sushant's news had broken I felt myself going back into that shell again. Everything started to feel morose and I couldn't get him and the unfairness of it all out of my mind even while gardening. I spoke to my aunt and cried for him. She again started the same procedure of checking on me every few hours throughout the day through text messages.

So, it still hasn't gone away but I now at least know that it can be fought and beaten. Just hang on, guys. Just hang on for some time. I know it is tough. Very very tough but don't give up. It is easier said than done. I know that but I also know that there is a way for things to get better even if you can't see it right now. Please reach out to someone who loves you like their world depends on it. There has to be someone. Do it and hang on for their sake.

This got very long and I don't even know if it will help anyone. I hope it does. Sending everyone a tight hug.

What makes me unhappy ?

I am in a corporate job I earn far better than my cousin's but I am not happy I feel like they are better than me in everything (I feel anyone and everyone is better than me). I am an introvert and I don't gel with people easily I struggle to keep a conversation alive..

The thing which interests me doesn't interest anyone in my circle (literature, science,novels, technology) so I am the odd one out.

I you put me in a group I feel like a fish out of water I am socially awkward I'd say

This is an awesome idea il definetly join the chat

Originally posted by: GrumpyTheCat

❤️❤️

Thank You😃

Originally posted by: BoonAndBane

It's quite nice of you to do this. Very much appreciated. ⭐️😳

Thank you so much😃We all are fight our own battles, I always tell myself and others just share positivity because it always comes back.

Originally posted by: Twinklingmoon

Great job❤️

Keep up the good work. Don't get carried away.

Thank you! I will try my best!😃

Originally posted by: Sailor-Moon

This is amazing, hope everyone here who is going through any pain feels better

Thank you!😃 I hope so too. We can plant a seed, rest I leave to God😃

Originally posted by: arshiipk

Good initiative ❤️

Thank You Arshii😃