Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli
Also must mention the contrast in upbringing too with vikram getting away with so much and not 1 person calling him out but amu's father reprimanding his son right away when he misbehaved with his fiance and asking him to behave .
True. Amu's father was a lovely character. But here's another point.....that wasn't the first day of Vikram's upbringing....he was brought up all his life by this very father and STILL he behaved like that with his fiance....interesting, no? This shows that along with upbringing, social conditioning plays a part too. Amu's father was a sorted man who otherwise may have provided good values to both his kids....but his son still missed out on some important points and only realized when he was confronted with the issues via his sister's situation. The good thing is that he had a support system around him to make him aware of where he was going wrong and he was able to realize it pretty quickly in the end and work on it. Not everyone gets that support system which is why these situations keep building on themselves.
The other interesting thing was that no matter how well intentioned and compassionate, Amu's father himself missed out on some things....like when his wife pointed out that he may have never stopped her from continuing with music but he also never made the effort to ask why she left it to begin with. This same trope was explored in Panga also.....sometimes it isn't that a woman isn't given permission to do something....it is the way society itself is set up that she feels a pressure and obligation to manage everything herself to keep the family together....there is no support system set up to even allow her to balance a career and home so easily....which is why many women give up on that even before trying.....their dreams aren't always suppressed through direct oppression....there are many indirect things in place that make them wither away.
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