#HummaHummaHumma|KuKu|KaVik AT 3 - Page 102

Welcome Goldy25! I am so happy you decided to post.

Hey everyone 🤗

Enjoyed the conversation and the creations that were posted 😻

Hey Goldy!! Welcome back, Clarity!! I was missing you so much!!

I like the idea. Seems interesting. I think Day 1 of divorce would be more focussed around Abir. The only thing I can think of right now is Kunal pondering over Kuhu's words and thinking of giving their marriage a chance.

Originally posted by: aquaHP

Hey Goldy!! Welcome back, Clarity!! I was missing you so much!!

I like the idea. Seems interesting. I think Day 1 of divorce would be more focussed around Abir. The only thing I can think of right now is Kunal pondering over Kuhu's words and thinking of giving their marriage a chance.

Kuhu be like"shit!!#totalbarbadi. Kya jarurat thi tujhe second chance ki...kyu tu is shadi se ab bhi hope rakhe hue h...#bass ab or nhi...kuhu tu apne self respect ki kitni dhajjiya udwaegi... mishti ki baat ko dhyan me rakh....#kyadinaagyeh motivation k liye bhi us mishti ki baat ko yaad krna pd raha h...ab jo bhi ho...I have to keep myself busy...to keep my #kuhuness...#notimeforsportscar"

BSS ab I can't think more...dimag pe itna zor daalna pda😂😂

Just a try 😅

I am feeling creatively tapped out from yesterday, but I am so here to enjoy what you guys come up with! As you know, I love the idea of delving into the two months the show leapt over. I always thought the way Kuhu handled Kunal after her first event -- not responding to his prods, not getting into a fight, handing him that note, delivering what sounded like a prepared speech, and then cutting off conversation -- looked like advice a therapist would give her.

Like, the intimacy in this relationship comes from the fights and banter you guys have. In order to create emotional distance, you have to break these familiar patterns and draw new boundaries. You do this by pre-empting him and yourself when you can feel that cycle starting.

Kuhu's strategy felt so methodical that it seemed to me like she must be getting sound advice from somewhere.

This is precisely what Kuhu and I resent about Mishti's MO -- she makes it impossible for people to make and carry out deliberate and thoughtful long-term plans because she does these impulsive things with tunnel-vision of her goal. As a result, she drags everyone around her into this whirlpool of her drama. The consequences are so far-reaching that everyone has to go into panicked, damage control mode instead of unravelling their issues slowly and sensitively, as Kuhu was clearly able to do when Mishti was away.

This video and our discussions of golden period KuKu just made me realise that Kunal has been basically acting on the sexual tension that was present during the flirtation period. Am I right??

https://www.instagram.com/p/B-nBUuuHeK4/?igshid=tnn13khveh1j

Originally posted by: aquaHP

This video and our discussions of golden period KuKu just made me realise that Kunal has been basically acting on the sexual tension that was present during the flirtation period. Am I right??

Oh for sure! Their sexual tension was the one thing that didn't budge over the course of their tumultuous relationship. It just manifested in different ways depending on their circumstances. 😉

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I am feeling creatively tapped out from yesterday, but I am so here to enjoy what you guys come up with! As you know, I love the idea of delving into the two months the show leapt over. I always thought the way Kuhu handled Kunal after her first event -- not responding to his prods, not getting into a fight, handing him that note, delivering what sounded like a prepared speech, and then cutting off conversation -- looked like advice a therapist would give her.

Like, the intimacy in this relationship comes from the fights and banter you guys have. In order to create emotional distance, you have to break these familiar patterns and draw new boundaries. You do this by pre-empting him and yourself when you can feel that cycle starting.

Kuhu's strategy felt so methodical that it seemed to me like she must be getting sound advice from somewhere.

This is precisely what Kuhu and I resent about Mishti's MO -- she makes it impossible for people to make and carry out deliberate and thoughtful long-term plans because she does these impulsive things with tunnel-vision of her goal. As a result, she drags everyone around her into this whirlpool of her drama. The consequences are so far-reaching that everyone has to go into panicked, damage control mode instead of unravelling their issues slowly and sensitively, as Kuhu was clearly able to do when Mishti was away.

Same!! Plus no one's really present on the AT to bounce off ideas. When there are a lot of us, small small ideas also build up to be stories on their own.

Where is everyone??? It's like all of us are just waiting to stalk the AT but there's no one around to write anything😆

Coming back to KuKu, I like your idea of there being a voice of reason helping out Kuhu. If I had to guess, I would say it was her lawyer who we got a glimpse of during MA's haldi.

I always imagined Kuhu to be able to take those decisions herself because she has been a very sorted person when she is allowed to take her time and think a situation through. I saw the not-fighting back bit as Kuhu saving her energy and trying to ignore Kunal so she could move on because the more she would banter with him, the more she would keep thinking about things. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for someone who has to stay through a marriage like that. And this just reminded me of her dialogue to Abir after she broke Kunal's nose -- "#EkTarfaPyaar hurts a lot!". She was hurting and she decided to channel that energy elsewhere. Also, hadn't she started distancing herself from him after the MishBir GD?? The way she decided to not be his interior decorator after having her feelings rekindled and almost reciprocated during the zipper scene. She was just trying to save herself from further pain.

I resent Mishti for the same thing. That tunnel vision causes a whole lot of harm for others and she never seems to realise the butterfly effect she puts in motion.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Oh for sure! Their sexual tension was the one thing that didn't budge over the course of their tumultuous relationship. It just manifested in different ways depending on their circumstances. 😉

I have binge watched their scenes so many times now but after this observation, I want to see all the scenes again. I'm pretty sure I would see the scenes in a completely different light now🙈🙈

Sam, Pihu interesting discussions going on, here are my 2 cents:

on Mishti: unfortunately I hate her for her habit of invasion of privacy more than other things, I mean it comes across as if she doesnt just respect people's space, even after they literally warn her again & again, and I am still not over that stealing Kuhu's divorce summon thing under the pretense of just trying to help, for me it was totally a deal breaker

on the vm on Kuku: thats why it was hard for me to believe that Kunal fell for Kuhu later on after seeing her as a rajvansh bahu, I mean I always felt that he was attracted to her right from the start, quite evident from his bumping into her at night scene, its just that Kuhu is smart and expressive so she acknowledged & accepted her feelings & attraction but he didnt, though his falling in love with her was a journey that we saw over the course of the show, but the mutual spark was there from the beginning & both felt it

there was even a scene after Kunal announces his GD with Mishti at Maheshwari's, wherein Kuhu cries in the backyard of Maheshwari house & throws the bracelet that Kunal gifted her, she says something like, 'mujhe laga tha ki iss courtship ke dauraan tumhe ehsaas ho jayega ki tumhara aur mishti ka koi connection nahi hai, vibe toh hamare beech hai, par tum toh ekdum idiot nikale'

on Kuku divorce: even if Kuhu doesnt seek anyone's advice on the matter, I think she is smart enough to realise or rather assume that Kunal was not interested in giving their marriage a second chance, so she would herself start making distance from him, that meant avoiding him, not talking to him unless urgent, I mean the poor girl literally begged him to let her stay in his house till things get better at her home & she can reveal the truth to all, so she would be so hurt, that her indifference & cold behaviour for Kunal was obvious

Originally posted by: aquaHP

Same!! Plus no one's really present on the AT to bounce off ideas. When there are a lot of us, small small ideas also build up to be stories on their own.

Where is everyone??? It's like all of us are just waiting to stalk the AT but there's no one around to write anything😆

Coming back to KuKu, I like your idea of there being a voice of reason helping out Kuhu. If I had to guess, I would say it was her lawyer who we got a glimpse of during MA's haldi.

I always imagined Kuhu to be able to take those decisions herself because she has been a very sorted person when she is allowed to take her time and think a situation through. I saw the not-fighting back bit as Kuhu saving her energy and trying to ignore Kunal so she could move on because the more she would banter with him, the more she would keep thinking about things. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for someone who has to stay through a marriage like that. And this just reminded me of her dialogue to Abir after she broke Kunal's nose -- "#EkTarfaPyaar hurts a lot!". She was hurting and she decided to channel that energy elsewhere. Also, hadn't she started distancing herself from him after the MishBir GD?? The way she decided to not be his interior decorator after having her feelings rekindled and almost reciprocated during the zipper scene. She was just trying to save herself from further pain.

I resent Mishti for the same thing. That tunnel vision causes a whole lot of harm for others and she never seems to realise the butterfly effect she puts in motion.

@bold: OMG, I am obsessed with this idea! It's just given me a whole surge of inspiration. Can we make a whole character out of this lawyer please? A slightly older woman (maybe in her mid-late 30s) who's come from a similar background and faced a lot of opposition from her family in pursuing the career she wants? And we can infuse her with all of us, and the things we wish we could tell Kuhu ❤️

Kuhu is definitely capable of taking the decisions herself, but I think she would have needed a support system to execute what she managed to do during those two months. Someone to help her with the nitty gritties of distancing herself emotionally and standing on her own two feet. So I can see Kuhu thinking in more general terms, like I have to stop feeling this urge to help Kunal, but having someone to help her break that seemingly impossible task into smaller accessible steps. She learned how to love unconditionally from Varsha, but the only marriages she has to go by are ones where the woman is respected but has accepted a subordinate role. I think she would have needed someone to lend a guiding hand when it comes to forging a path that nobody in her family had tread before.

@bold 2: Yup, but at that time, she didn't know she'd have to live with him for three more months. I think that is what she would have needed help with. How to break patterns while having to co-habit. Who better to advise her than a lawyer who's seen lots of women through phases like this?

I am also going to do another little tie-in and say that the friend from KC gave her the lawyers's number. I am going to go ahead and name her -- Sheetal Sheth. He says, I'm glad Kunal came around and you managed to avoid a scene at KC, but when you do need to proceed with the divorce, here's my friend Sheetal's card. She specialises in cases like yours.