Meenu's real feelings for Kunal came out in today's episode. She doesn't see him as a son at all. She sees him more like Abir's bodyguard.
To give credit where it's due, Meenu wants this kind of loyalty from both brothers. By throwing the ultimatum at Abir pre-leap, she forced him to choose Kunal over Mishti, and she was genuinely touched when she saw how Abir was taking care of Kunal after he found out his birth truth. That flashback of her bringing Kunal home for the first time drove this home. She essentially wants bahus who will always play (distant) second fiddle to the bhai bond and be content in that.
I don't think Meenu would want Abir, Kunal, or Parul to know that she had the gall to tell Kuhu that Kunal was Parul's son and Abir hers -- she was just saying that to wind Kuhu up. Same way when Kunal foud out his birth truth, Parul asked if Meenu would kick them out now and she was like, what? Why on earth would I do that? Like DQ says, she does and says whatever she needs to "protect" her family -- what she wishes Nanu did for her -- even if that means using them against each other. Kunal gets the brunt of it because he is invested in being her ideal son.
 
 
 
  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  
  
 
 
  
 
 
 
  
  
 
  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
        