How secrets and lies destroy relationships

Hi everyone,

It's my first post here. Been a silent reader for quite some time now.

It's very disappointing to watch another one bite the dust. This show, the lead characters, dialogues, had so much depth and feel, once upon a time. It's a pity that the CV's are hell bent on ruining their own characters.

Read quite a few posts about how both Rohit and Sonakshi are right and wrong, and they might even get redeemed eventually. But in a real life situation, would we ever trust a partner who lies so frequently, that it almost becomes a part of who she is. Or would we imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone who blames you alienates you from himself and the family when things go wrong?! This would be so emotionally draining, and yet it happens in every other household.

These are the costs of deception partners rarely even consider.

Trust is extremely fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships, sometimes irreparably.

We all tell 'white lies', like Sonakshi does, in her case, for the greater good, which unfortunately ends up with her digging her own grave. As do we use our partners like punching bags when we lose our composure, like Rohit. But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty is of utmost importance. As is unconditional and unwavering support. But you got to earn and give both. It's never one person's job.

Dishonesty blocks real intimacy with a partner. Intimacy is based on authenticity - the ability to be vulnerable and 'naked', not only physically but also emotionally. Will Rohit ever be able to trust Sonakshi, the way one would in real life? Or will he forever live in fear of being deceived?

Similarly, Sonakshi, who wanted a normal life with her partner and a big family, away from all the stardom, be able to lead a fear-free life where she doesn't have to worry about being treated like an outsider by her own partner and extended family when all hell breaks loose?

Yes, I understand Indian shows come with a lot of drama, which is somehow required for TRPs, but in real life, a couple like them would need professional counselling. Forget the others, they have some serious issues between the two of them, which won't be resolved with mere forgiveness. Maybe, I'm hoping for too much, but I wish the CV's would treat us to a few heart-warming scenes between the duo, where they atleast acknowledge, if not address these issues.

Apologize for the long post, but it's something very close to my heart. And I believe come what may, transparency and unflinching support are the two pillars on which a relationship stands, and flourishes. And Ronakshi have a long way to go.

'Confusion aur scheming/plotting ka dariya hai, aur inko doob ke jaana hai.. ' Thanks to iTV standards of melodrama.. 😔

Originally posted by: AeDilHaiMushkil

Hi everyone,

It's my first post here. Been a silent reader for quite some time now.

It's very disappointing to watch another one bite the dust. This show, the lead characters, dialogues, had so much depth and feel, once upon a time. It's a pity that the CV's are hell bent on ruining their own characters.

Read quite a few posts about how both Rohit and Sonakshi are right and wrong, and they might even get redeemed eventually. But in a real life situation, would we ever trust a partner who lies so frequently, that it almost becomes a part of who she is. Or would we imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone who blames you alienates you from himself and the family when things go wrong?! This would be so emotionally draining, and yet it happens in every other household.

These are the costs of deception partners rarely even consider.

Trust is extremely fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships, sometimes irreparably.

We all tell 'white lies', like Sonakshi does, in her case, for the greater good, which unfortunately ends up with her digging her own grave. As do we use our partners like punching bags when we lose our composure, like Rohit. But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty is of utmost importance. As is unconditional and unwavering support. But you got to earn and give both. It's never one person's job.

Dishonesty blocks real intimacy with a partner. Intimacy is based on authenticity - the ability to be vulnerable and 'naked', not only physically but also emotionally. Will Rohit ever be able to trust Sonakshi, the way one would in real life? Or will he forever live in fear of being deceived?

Similarly, Sonakshi, who wanted a normal life with her partner and a big family, away from all the stardom, be able to lead a fear-free life where she doesn't have to worry about being treated like an outsider by her own partner and extended family when all hell breaks loose?

Yes, I understand Indian shows come with a lot of drama, which is somehow required for TRPs, but in real life, a couple like them would need professional counselling. Forget the others, they have some serious issues between the two of them, which won't be resolved with mere forgiveness. Maybe, I'm hoping for too much, but I wish the CV's would treat us to a few heart-warming scenes between the duo, where they atleast acknowledge, if not address these issues.

Apologize for the long post, but it's something very close to my heart. And I believe come what may, transparency and unflinching support are the two pillars on which a relationship stands, and flourishes. And Ronakshi have a long way to go.

'Confusion aur scheming/plotting ka dariya hai, aur inko doob ke jaana hai.. ' Thanks to iTV standards of melodrama.. 😔

Yes please! Both have to deal with it if they have to get back. Both! No one's lesser evil here since they both have committed wrong. They need to realise where they went wrong and work towards it. I don't want another track with the same misunderstandings. It'll become very very bad.

I agree.. No more misunderstandings, please. We want the old Rohit and Sonakshi back, mature, fiesty, and funny.. This one's become Kahani Ghar Ghar Ki, where the couple is left to deal with never-ending family drama, right on Day 1 after their wedding. The CVs promised us an endearing love story, and somehow forgot that the show was supposed to be one.

Originally posted by: AeDilHaiMushkil

Hi everyone,

It's my first post here. Been a silent reader for quite some time now.

It's very disappointing to watch another one bite the dust. This show, the lead characters, dialogues, had so much depth and feel, once upon a time. It's a pity that the CV's are hell bent on ruining their own characters.

Read quite a few posts about how both Rohit and Sonakshi are right and wrong, and they might even get redeemed eventually. But in a real life situation, would we ever trust a partner who lies so frequently, that it almost becomes a part of who she is. Or would we imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone who blames you alienates you from himself and the family when things go wrong?! This would be so emotionally draining, and yet it happens in every other household.

These are the costs of deception partners rarely even consider.

Trust is extremely fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships, sometimes irreparably.

We all tell 'white lies', like Sonakshi does, in her case, for the greater good, which unfortunately ends up with her digging her own grave. As do we use our partners like punching bags when we lose our composure, like Rohit. But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty is of utmost importance. As is unconditional and unwavering support. But you got to earn and give both. It's never one person's job.

Dishonesty blocks real intimacy with a partner. Intimacy is based on authenticity - the ability to be vulnerable and 'naked', not only physically but also emotionally. Will Rohit ever be able to trust Sonakshi, the way one would in real life? Or will he forever live in fear of being deceived?

Similarly, Sonakshi, who wanted a normal life with her partner and a big family, away from all the stardom, be able to lead a fear-free life where she doesn't have to worry about being treated like an outsider by her own partner and extended family when all hell breaks loose?

Yes, I understand Indian shows come with a lot of drama, which is somehow required for TRPs, but in real life, a couple like them would need professional counselling. Forget the others, they have some serious issues between the two of them, which won't be resolved with mere forgiveness. Maybe, I'm hoping for too much, but I wish the CV's would treat us to a few heart-warming scenes between the duo, where they atleast acknowledge, if not address these issues.

Apologize for the long post, but it's something very close to my heart. And I believe come what may, transparency and unflinching support are the two pillars on which a relationship stands, and flourishes. And Ronakshi have a long way to go.

'Confusion aur scheming/plotting ka dariya hai, aur inko doob ke jaana hai.. ' Thanks to iTV standards of melodrama.. 😔

Excellent both of them need marriage counsellors asap .she needs to be told that lies no matter for a good purpose or not will break intimacy and trust between a couple .

He is behaving in A very irresponsible way like a child

No matter when u feel u r cheated or lied upon u can't wash u r linen in public .that's the difference between child and a man

Originally posted by: AeDilHaiMushkil

I agree.. No more misunderstandings, please. We want the old Rohit and Sonakshi back, mature, fiesty, and funny.. This one's become Kahani Ghar Ghar Ki, where the couple is left to deal with never-ending family drama, right on Day 1 after their wedding. The CVs promised us an endearing love story, and somehow forgot that the show was supposed to be one.

Yes it's going the typical soap way never ending misunderstanding ..vamp in family ..seperation

I think Rohit and Sona are getting seperated soon .my years of soap watching tells me this

Originally posted by: AeDilHaiMushkil

Hi everyone,

It's my first post here. Been a silent reader for quite some time now.

It's very disappointing to watch another one bite the dust. This show, the lead characters, dialogues, had so much depth and feel, once upon a time. It's a pity that the CV's are hell bent on ruining their own characters.

Read quite a few posts about how both Rohit and Sonakshi are right and wrong, and they might even get redeemed eventually. But in a real life situation, would we ever trust a partner who lies so frequently, that it almost becomes a part of who she is. Or would we imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone who blames you alienates you from himself and the family when things go wrong?! This would be so emotionally draining, and yet it happens in every other household.

These are the costs of deception partners rarely even consider.

Trust is extremely fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships, sometimes irreparably.

We all tell 'white lies', like Sonakshi does, in her case, for the greater good, which unfortunately ends up with her digging her own grave. As do we use our partners like punching bags when we lose our composure, like Rohit. But in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty is of utmost importance. As is unconditional and unwavering support. But you got to earn and give both. It's never one person's job.

Dishonesty blocks real intimacy with a partner. Intimacy is based on authenticity - the ability to be vulnerable and 'naked', not only physically but also emotionally. Will Rohit ever be able to trust Sonakshi, the way one would in real life? Or will he forever live in fear of being deceived?

Similarly, Sonakshi, who wanted a normal life with her partner and a big family, away from all the stardom, be able to lead a fear-free life where she doesn't have to worry about being treated like an outsider by her own partner and extended family when all hell breaks loose?

Yes, I understand Indian shows come with a lot of drama, which is somehow required for TRPs, but in real life, a couple like them would need professional counselling. Forget the others, they have some serious issues between the two of them, which won't be resolved with mere forgiveness. Maybe, I'm hoping for too much, but I wish the CV's would treat us to a few heart-warming scenes between the duo, where they atleast acknowledge, if not address these issues.

Apologize for the long post, but it's something very close to my heart. And I believe come what may, transparency and unflinching support are the two pillars on which a relationship stands, and flourishes. And Ronakshi have a long way to go.

'Confusion aur scheming/plotting ka dariya hai, aur inko doob ke jaana hai.. ' Thanks to iTV standards of melodrama.. 😔

Excellent post

👏👏wonderful post. Loved how you connected the dots on trust& intimacy.

Ronakshi always had trust on EO but they never have to work hard for the basic things.. Like getting to know EO... Spending time on EO and the most basic thing that connects a couple (be in arranged/love marraige/) being in physical relationship which gives you the acceptance and conviction that you belong to EO only. Then the trust and faith comes in to life. Think in Ronakshi case they are doing it the other way around.

Coming to justify who is at fault which we all did our share so let's not get into it. But I want to add one point.. When ronakshi talk please let them own up to (esp Sona) EO mistakes not only Rohits then go onto glorify sona.

As it is as a viewer I have lost connect with Sona and I really hope above happens so they try to keep Ronakshi somewhat intact that's they are always equal both in good and no so good.

Haven't watched today's episode but want to add one think that is all the crappy things Rohit doing, is for/against Sona and their relationship that's gone wrong. But in Sona's she fighting for everyone else except for their relationship..or it so seems to me.

Like you all said whatever happens ronakshi should not MU EO and pls no more is Rohit the ever husband goal or not.. Really tired of this guy having to prove what is a good husband/person depends on how unconditionally he supports Sona.. There is no such a thing as an unconditional anything..be it love or trust. Both have to be earned..

Let's them fight with EO for their interest not for others. It's unfair to show Rohit has a bad family therefore should realise to treasure Sona more... Come on at the end of the day they are his family and so is Sona.

I hate where they show Sona can do everything despite facing hardship with love of her life.. How stupid is this we are still taking this kind of shit where the men are dumb when comes to handling emotional stuff.. come on this guy is 32yrs old and had a pretty successful life..

One of the best think about this show was they showed both ML&FL are equally flawed, strong but now feels like it's all about Sona the great...

Anyways I am always get into ranting mode. Lovely post.