Ego or self respect - Page 2

I just don't get this Babita. If person is egoistic, it comes out.

We are near to some 200th Episode, and now We see her friend talking about Babes' ego. Then comes the apology part.

Where was this Ego all this while? When lovely used to taunt her? When Beeji fenko genhe on her face? When Ashok maligned her character? She lived in that house for "17" years. Tab kaha tha yeh Ego?

In order to stretch Marriage, or show "Flaws" Writers have ruined Babita to the point of no return. I shudder to think what will they make of HS to show his "Flaws".

Up until Pottery scene, HS and Babita character had consistency. Uske bad toh both are flip flopping.

Originally posted by: guddi01

Lol. But she has never apologised to him for all the hurtful things she said to him and the way she decided to leave when he was in trouble.

A very shallow character and many here run after the woman victim card here I wonder why.

After all what's sauce for the goose is the same for the gander is a saying that's what's good for one should be the same for the other.

But no I don't think that she will stand by him when the chips are down. HS is in love with her, hence he choose her which is sad really as he will never get the Love that carves for.

this was my point exactly. they cant show female emancipation but then show a female wanting special treatment or her flaws to mean less due to her gender. i thought from the start the show was about equality also and how a woman can also successfully marry a second time just as a man can, without the stigma. and i agree, she did not apologise for the attack on his character where she insinuated he bought her daughter a camera to get to her/expect 'favours'' from her. a man can feel equally attacked as a woman can.

i also reckon when the chips are down she wont stand by him. its so amazing for someone they showed as being so innocent and pure, how conditional her love is. even with mini. theyre massively failing with the development of the character unless they can somehow bring this back. i so do wonder where this ego/self respect was all this time??? when she found out her husband was bringing another woman home, she was stood playing with her scarf, now theyre going on about ego. this goes against everything they showed her to be from the start which was subservient and mild mannered.

i have thought from the start that this marriage and how quickly she admitted to being in love happened a bit fast so i wonder whether they sped it up and then wanted to create another issue?

either way, hs is being used as a scapegoat here and they shouldnt have created a loveable male lead if the female lead is going to come across like shes walking all over him.

Originally posted by: guddi01

Lol.

Have you been watching it all from the beginning, I wonder at all.

She has more than once attacked his Character and the worst was the Camera issue, she implied that he wanted favours from her and I zm glad that he got angry at her when she came and he put her right, which is what Babitacshould have done straight away, instead of stewing in it her self.

I recently watched that episode. She didn't imply that he wanted favors from her.

All she said was.. logo ko pata chalega toh kya sochenge.. ki kyu kar rahe hai aap yeh sab.

She was still in her "log kya kahenge" mode back then. She implied that people might get wrong idea about their relation if he keeps giving such expensive gifts to Babita.

Ashok was never a scapegoat, infact both ashok and lovely are selfish to the core like their mother.

Nocry

I said it takes 2 to clap in a Marriage, i am talking about her and Ashok. Where was the concern of where her Marriage was going and also her Mini was craving her Father's love and she did nothing and was not even paying attention to her daughter and this has been shown in earlier episodes. And not once did i mention her looking after mita.

I think you have not watched from the beginning which is why you are so vague.

Yes Babita has been rude many a times and the Camera was the worst and again she did not apologise but was taken to task by HS.

She is flips and flops playing the victim card.

I think that Mini is seeing though Babes and that she was too blame as well and not only her Father.

Originally posted by: Manasi_MD

Most of us here don't have a problem with Babita wanting HS to apologise, we wanted him to apologise for his remarks too. Our problem is with the way his hand was forced and he was made to apologise, choosing between Love and Ego.

Yes agree...actually it is the script ....and there was no reason to have it this way...thus I said both were shown in bad light ..Babita as she first initiated the proposal and now chose this path to get an apology ...HS because he never felt wat he said was wrong ...never said sorry till she asked for it ..

Who is this Babitha who totally change and choose project EGO. Is she mother of 17 year old girl ? Is she can't able to understand the man or the words ? I understand that HS has hurt her with words that too about her character, but asking for apology in such a bad way. Babitha still thinks her EGO is intact while HS has to sacrifice his for his love ? Minni understanding the situation and how HS felt and how wrong babitha is ?

If they are showing the myths and how babitha is also at fault for her failure in her marriage they should have shown that without marriage while she is still in love with HS... I have thought that first HS and babes become friends and understand each other and get married, but here reverse. I think most PB viewers will connect with HS and Minnie, while babes will still remain immature and child couldn't able to enjoy the marriage..

I agree after the pottery track the PB went downhill with rushed proposal, next HS past, now Babitha past but now going into marriage ? Why jump to the track inconsistency, why can't they clear both their past tracks and then move on to friends even co-parent and then marriage would have been memorable..

I will want to skip few months as I am very disappointed with the track. Felt very bad for HS who has to drink the VISH of Amrutha madhan and still have to continue to satisfy babitha ego? What a let down by Babitha character it's ruined to me. If they want to bring back her flaws they would have done it in without marriage ?

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

I just don't get this Babita. If person is egoistic, it comes out.

We are near to some 200th Episode, and now We see her friend talking about Babes' ego. Then comes the apology part.

Where was this Ego all this while? When lovely used to taunt her? When Beeji fenko genhe on her face? When Ashok maligned her character? She lived in that house for "17" years. Tab kaha tha yeh Ego?

In order to stretch Marriage, or show "Flaws" Writers have ruined Babita to the point of no return. I shudder to think what will they make of HS to show his "Flaws".

Up until Pottery scene, HS and Babita character had consistency. Uske bad toh both are flip flopping.

Absolutely right and exactly my point ...m not too sure wat ego everyone is talking abt ... till date Babita for me was one of the sweetest person I had seen...yes not that v always like such a person since In life v need to b strong ..speak up whn required...evn here though it is fiction v all have views which v r putting forth ..so def. in real life u got to b independent confident and stand for the right...stand for yourself...but Babita was exactly opposite...always felt she shud hit back....why is she taking it all..it is with time that she started evolving and loved seeing her change...her transformation was so well shown...right from the court room where she rejects the alimony (not to forget it was agn due to her husband saying too much abt her character only) ...when she is hurt badly...again here how is she selfish...practically she shud have taken alimony but if she decides not to due to wat hpnd Watz wrong...she knew she cud herself start earning...y do u need something from someone who is so disgraceful and can go to any extent to prove himself right...and wat for ...for the alimony right...so she did not take that alimony..I loved her thn...later they have shown her doing different jobs...standing tall...knowing her strengths ...becoming confident day by day...and finally she learnt how good a cook she is..thn she started her business...later they have shown her learn karate ...supporting her daughter...becoming a business woman...and now expressing her feelings truly..clearly...not that she ran away after she realised wat she feels for HS...infact he was confusing thruout .....she has evolved in a beautiful way...where is her ego here...’does not loving someone whn that person loves u makes u a bad person’...someone expresses his feelings but v don’t feel for him...Is that our mistake..if she did not reciprocate earlier on it was as she did not feel for HS as her world was different thn...she did not disrespect him ever...so y is she wrong...is feeling bad whn u are hurt and expressing that wrong...if u are hurt because of something said abt your character u stay quiet because if u speak up it means u have ego ...I completely disagree...evn if I liked HS initially I thought he was just not the HS after Imarti episode started...not to forget Babita said something to HS when she had not accepted Him but he said something disgraceful abt the person he loved according to him...he might have been patient earlier on but whn he says something disgraceful y shud it b ignored...who is saying he shud not get angry or he shud not have ego ...that is fine ...he is a human being but the HS I saw earlier wud have been deeply hurt thinking of wat he said and how much it might have hurt Babita ...here forget saying sorry he never felt bad aswell...sorry I agree to disagree on this today and always ...

U r right just like suddenly HS changed..Babita is unnecessarily being targeted ...and she is being shown as a different Babita now....suddenly some friend comes in and points out that she is egoistic...due to her experience when she was some 10 years old ...funny....and Naeem bee Mini all feel it is ok as HS said wat he did due to his intention...instead someone shud have pointed out that he was wrong....yes god knows where her ego was whn all happened with her ...whn Ashok hurt her so much ...if she has reacted ever for me it was her self respect which I feel she has to have..every lady has to have, be it whoever ....

def. the way they showed her asking him to choose bet her and his ego was not at all required...it is all wrong script here...this is not the Babita I have seen till now...but her wanting a apology is perfect ....it came at the wrong time and in a wrong way due to bad script

I started watching PB for Babitha and PS, but also started liking Minnie and HS while their characters are written well and strong Babitha character took U-turn and downhill with this EGO ..

Can we please get HANITHA together solving as a a team instead of HS and Minnie or Minnie as a mediator..

Originally posted by: abhi786

I started watching PB for Babitha and PS, but also started liking Minnie and HS while their characters are written well and strong Babitha character took U-turn and downhill with this EGO ..

Can we please get HANITHA together solving as a a team instead of HS and Minnie or Minnie as a mediator..

Yes Mini is bit too matured....I wonder whether she is 17 or 71...do not find it realistic....her deep understanding of relations is a little too much to bear plus at every stage she is intervening....not that teenagers are not smart ...v do involve them in decision making and they are tech savvy ....have gud knowledge of things but life experience is different...which teenager is like this in those v know ...to an extent being matured is ok ...discussion is ok but do v give complete control to our children in such major decisions ...isn’t this little too much...is Babita so dumb..she does not have a brain ...why are they trying to show Babita so dumb and incapable of thinking...y are they involving Mini in every scene...let her live and let live...I wud like to see more of Babita now ...and however she is whatever she does I wud want to see her taking decisions firmly ....fed up of this ‘matured Mini ‘ now....also important to see the person of the age he/she is ....