Sympathies with Kuhu - Page 4

Originally posted by: meen123

please bade papa is the best. My father has a bit dry humor, not everyone is accustomed to,. He'd never say that to my face.

do you think I haven't shown him already. He loves her. He laughs badly whenever she appears. We both do

Lol, I was imagining you both while reading this. Cherish your parents yaar! God bless! Nazar na lage.

Originally posted by: savithp

Agree 100% Parul has no spine, Nanu bothered abt family and Kunal is puppet with Meenu being disgusting to do something like this on another woman. One question is Kunal a step brother for Abir or they do not share a father?

From today’s episode, looks like they are step brothers

Originally posted by: guy3

Lol, I was imagining you both while reading this. Cherish your parents yaar! God bless! Nazar na lage.

I agree that Kuhu doesn't deserve to be in such a marriage. She has her faults but being taken advantage like this isn't right. And unfortunately, she herself is blindly jumping into this. The Maheshwaris are just going along to appease her and because they think Kunal too loves her equally.

The Maheshwaris faltered when they decided to get Kuhu married off to someone else when they came to know that Kuhu loves Kunal. That was just a very bad decision. Them not wanting to accept Kunal was understandable and as we can see a very wise decision. But to pressurize Kuhu to marry someone else was just not done. They should have given her some space and been supportive and understanding. It was that pressure and fear of having to be married to someone else that made Kuhu jump the gun and confess her love to Kunal, which caused both Meenakshi and Kunal to seize the opportunity and use Kuhu to weave their plan around.

Instead of point-blank rejecting Kunal and imposing another rishta on Kuhu, the Maheshawaris should have tried to counsel her with care and understanding. And even though they said that they wouldn't force her into a rishta, they still created some pressure on her. It's actually not uncommon in real life where girls blindly jump into wrong relationships to avoid these pressures from family.

Originally posted by: fangirl1012

Meen I wasn't offended at all. Was just trying to justify the differences between Kuhu and Mish. Kuhu for me is a sore subject because I was like her blind in love and I kind of fell flat on the ground. Baqi with Misthi I get your over thinking wala stance but Mish also has the capacity to dust off and get back up whenever she cries. Even in this track Mish somewhat tried to mould stuff in her favor. I feel if Mish had married the wrong person she would have struggled but would have dealt with it . For Kuhu I am actually worried because she is making excuses for Kunal's behavior and she seems like someone who would be willing to put up with torture to save her marriage. Let's see though.

That's because deep down kuhu is a very emotional, insecure and naive person. Mishti is mature and resilient. Unfortunately like you said, kuhu and her nature is such that she would in fact put up with abuse, especially because she is someone who seems to heavily seek validation of her self-worth from others, and for her somehow kunal is that person whose company gives her that validation. People who care too much about the way people view them or desiring people's attention too much are people who heavily tend to get insecure easily. It's for that reason that I feel kuhu would not have the guts in her to call out kunal on his behaviour, stand up for herself or walk out keeping her self-respect first, because she cares too much about her self-image, what other's think of her to see the bigger picture most of the times, just like how she conveniently over-looked kunal's behavior and actions and downplayed them because she is so desperate to marry him.

I guess it is through mishbir and kuku that rajan shahi is delivering the message of how it is important to get to know your partner first before committing, because with mishti she thought well and hard, didn't want to rush into agreeing to marry kunal and wanted to get to know him, due to which she found out he isn't right for her at least and found the person who is right for her, whilst on the other hand you have kuhu who can't seem to look past kunal's looks, car, and his outer charm of what appears to be the perfect man as she ignores his behaviour and actions in favour of the positive image of perfection he portrays. Don't judge a book by its cover and do not rush into marriage is something this show portrays quite well.

Originally posted by: sammy17

That's because deep down kuhu is a very emotional, insecure and naive person. Mishti is mature and resilient. Unfortunately like you said, kuhu and her nature is such that she would in fact put up with abuse, especially because she is someone who seems to heavily seek validation of her self-worth from others, and for her somehow kunal is that person whose company gives her that validation. People who care too much about the way people view them or desiring people's attention too much are people who heavily tend to get insecure easily. It's for that reason that I feel kuhu would not have the guts in her to call out kunal on his behaviour, stand up for herself or walk out keeping her self-respect first, because she cares too much about her self-image, what other's think of her to see the bigger picture most of the times, just like how she conveniently over-looked kunal's behavior and actions and downplayed them because she is so desperate to marry him.

I guess it is through mishbir and kuku that rajan shahi is delivering the message of how it is important to get to know your partner first before committing, because with mishti she thought well and hard, didn't want to rush into agreeing to marry kunal and wanted to get to know him, due to which she found out he isn't right for her at least and found the person who is right for her, whilst on the other hand you have kuhu who can't seem to look past kunal's looks, car, and his outer charm of what appears to be the perfect man as she ignores his behaviour and actions in favour of the positive image of perfection he portrays. Don't judge a book by its cover and do not rush into marriage is something this show portrays quite well.

That's very well put. And I do agree with your views. Though I also feel that Kuhu's family could have helped her better. They didn't really try to dig deep into knowing how Kunal as a person is despite of Mishti rejecting him. They also haven't tried to counsel Kuhu about the challenges marriage can bring about in her life in contrast to the comfortable and free-spirited life she has lived at her parents house. Having seen how archaic, strict and rigid Meenakshi could be with her mindset, there wasn't anyone from amongst the Maheshwaris who could forewarn Kuhu.

I know even in a real life scenario it isn't as if we are given classes for how to deal with in laws, or how to undergo the various changes that marital life brings about, it is something that we are expected to learn on our own through experience. But Kuhu's case was clearly different. Her naivety and Meenakshi's obnoxious behaviour were obvious, even more so the fact that Kunal almost always sides with his mother was also obvious.

Kuhu would learn the lesson the hard way, sigh but I sure hope that helps her emerge as a stronger, more sensible person.

Originally posted by: SStephy

I agree that Kuhu doesn't deserve to be in such a marriage. She has her faults but being taken advantage like this isn't right. And unfortunately, she herself is blindly jumping into this. The Maheshwaris are just going along to appease her and because they think Kunal too loves her equally.

The Maheshwaris faltered when they decided to get Kuhu married off to someone else when they came to know that Kuhu loves Kunal. That was just a very bad decision. Them not wanting to accept Kunal was understandable and as we can see a very wise decision. But to pressurize Kuhu to marry someone else was just not done. They should have given her some space and been supportive and understanding. It was that pressure and fear of having to be married to someone else that made Kuhu jump the gun and confess her love to Kunal, which caused both Meenakshi and Kunal to seize the opportunity and use Kuhu to weave their plan around.

Instead of point-blank rejecting Kunal and imposing another rishta on Kuhu, the Maheshawaris should have tried to counsel her with care and understanding. And even though they said that they wouldn't force her into a rishta, they still created some pressure on her. It's actually not uncommon in real life where girls blindly jump into wrong relationships to avoid these pressures from family.

And the promo where she is just sitting so happy that she is married to love of her life and is bloody shocked to whoever is at the door, sinked my heart too....

Originally posted by: sammy17

That's because deep down kuhu is a very emotional, insecure and naive person. Mishti is mature and resilient. Unfortunately like you said, kuhu and her nature is such that she would in fact put up with abuse, especially because she is someone who seems to heavily seek validation of her self-worth from others, and for her somehow kunal is that person whose company gives her that validation. People who care too much about the way people view them or desiring people's attention too much are people who heavily tend to get insecure easily. It's for that reason that I feel kuhu would not have the guts in her to call out kunal on his behaviour, stand up for herself or walk out keeping her self-respect first, because she cares too much about her self-image, what other's think of her to see the bigger picture most of the times, just like how she conveniently over-looked kunal's behavior and actions and downplayed them because she is so desperate to marry him.

I guess it is through mishbir and kuku that rajan shahi is delivering the message of how it is important to get to know your partner first before committing, because with mishti she thought well and hard, didn't want to rush into agreeing to marry kunal and wanted to get to know him, due to which she found out he isn't right for her at least and found the person who is right for her, whilst on the other hand you have kuhu who can't seem to look past kunal's looks, car, and his outer charm of what appears to be the perfect man as she ignores his behaviour and actions in favour of the positive image of perfection he portrays. Don't judge a book by its cover and do not rush into marriage is something this show portrays quite well.

i just hope they do show what families should do better to avoid Kuhu and Ketki's circumstances as well

Originally posted by: beguiling

That's very well put. And I do agree with your views. Though I also feel that Kuhu's family could have helped her better. They didn't really try to dig deep into knowing how Kunal as a person is despite of Mishti rejecting him. They also haven't tried to counsel Kuhu about the challenges marriage can bring about in her life in contrast to the comfortable and free-spirited life she has lived at her parents house. Having seen how archaic, strict and rigid Meenakshi could be with her mindset, there wasn't anyone from amongst the Maheshwaris who could forewarn Kuhu.

I know even in a real life scenario it isn't as if we are given classes for how to deal with in laws, or how to undergo the various changes that marital life brings about, it is something that we are expected to learn on our own through experience. But Kuhu's case was clearly different. Her naivety and Meenakshi's obnoxious behaviour were obvious, even more so the fact that Kunal almost always sides with his mother was also obvious.

Kuhu would learn the lesson the hard way, sigh but I sure hope that helps her emerge as a stronger, more sensible person.

Apni ladki ko aag me koi khud koi fenkega

I think Kuhu looked pretty as a bride but I just wish she had found herself a better husband. I dread what her life will be like after marriage. Between Kunal and Meenu she will be disappointed and her hopes and dreams shattered.

I doubt she will get to wake up at noon and have breakfast served to her in bed. She won't get to be the princess being showered with love anymore.