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Posted: 8 years ago

#21

Wonderful analysis. I agree with you

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Posted: 8 years ago

#22

I respectfully disagree. Chandni is self centered. She lacks compassion and empathy. Forget about love ...on the contrary, if she ever considered him as a true friend, she would try everything in her power to know the reason behind his hatred...and not be seducing him to prove that he cares...it's actually quite pathetic.

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Posted: 8 years ago

#23

Thanks for your post Chitra.

I have had a lot of empathy for Chandni and Advay who are both victims of their circumstances.

I was very frustrated with Chandni yesterday and often cringed at her rather silly attempts to win a sillier challenge.

She is in a reactive mode at present having discovered about 5 hours ago( your calculation) that Advay is indeed Dev. She surprised me with her recourceulness and ability to contrive as as many tricks that she did in a short space of time.

She needs to stop reacting and start to reflect.

Her simplistic understanding at present is that Dev is angry with her for what she said/ did as a child.

If she did truly know him she would work out that there in something deeper that has affected him- the loss of his family.

She cannot see yet that there is pain behind his anger and that he is conflicted between his love for her and the pain which he expresses as anger towards her.

She will not get it as long as she continues to react and cook up silly pranks.

With reference to love, it is indeed about a abandoning yourself, but also about considering the others' feelings, being sensitive to being curios what is going on for the other and putting the other ahead of your own fears and needs.

I hope the story progresses to reflect this growth in Chandni

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Posted: 8 years ago

#24

I disagree with first part .. forget the love angle, even if we meet our old frnd out of blue, we will ask about his parents, especially if we have been so frequent visitors to there place in childhood.. aunty n uncle kaise hai .. is normal topic,

here she is married to him, discovers he is her childhood frnd, but doesn't bother to ask him about his parents, even when he is accusing her of ruining his family ..

starts a silly stupid challenge n plays games to prove her point .. this has no logic.

its ok to tell keep logic away n watch .. but, not all will do that n it will effect TRP.

So as much as we praise a good episode, its important that we should not be blind fans .. not sure if this will reach the makers, still I will be a good critic,

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Posted: 8 years ago

#25

Chitra...

Iam so confused dear.

I understand your point.. loved your post ..

And Sab mam response moved me yesterday..

But still Iam confused..

This happened last week .. I forgot to add salt in hubby lunch.. he had eat it that way bcoz there was no other option.. he got bit upset and messaged he is gonna stay hungry..

I said sorry hundred times..

By eve ..I made his fav sweet.. fav curry for supper.. I had this uneasy feeling till I saw him and satisfied that he is not angry with me anymore.

Thus is such a small thing. But still. I know it's just 6 hours in soap duniya.. I understand her love. Trust me i know the madness but how can she just smile so easily looking at the gate and pain in his eyes.

It hurts to see some one you love hate you. Oh god it hurts. Don't you think so...

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Posted: 8 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: Ayuzawa

And this is exactly my problem. what is this notion of love that everyone defending her sees. really? I don't think time has anything to do with what she should feel right now. let us say, she loves Dev to the power of infinity. but her actions contradict the actions of a woman in love. have you ever felt that kind of love where you are ready to throw away everything you have held dear to your life? what does a woman feeling that do? especially when she can clearly see that the man she loves hates her? hates her enough to destroy her and her family. I understand her coming and hugging Advay as she saw him as her Dev. but then he told her he isn't and said he hated her. so what would I do in her shoes? I would cry, plead, beg, even threaten to kill myself if he does not give me a reason for that kind of intense hatred. not because of my elf respect, not because that's the right and the sensible thing to do but rather because I simply love him and hence would never be able to see that kind of hatred and disgust for me in his eyes. she can see that he is no more her Dev and wants to bring him back but without asking what turned him into Advay the cold hearted person how can she ask him to care for her. without understanding his pain how can she try and win his heart.
how can Chandani smile when she can clearly see his seething eyes? how can she laugh around him when he clearly refuses to even smile in her presence? she loves him right? then how does his pain not bother her? why isn't she seething in anguish at his somber tone and burning pain and hatred filled eyes?

love doesn't work that way. be it six hours or six months,your first priority will always be the man you love. the sight of the man you love in pain would shatter your heart over and over again. Chandani is not in love if she cannot on a subconscious level feel Advay's pain. no she isn't in love. she has just got back her friend and she is in love with the image of Dev she has created and her first priority is not loving her Dev but making sure that the Dev she knows now matches the Dev in her dreams. she doesn't care for his pain or his hatred for her. no. coz if she did she would have done everything in her power to know the reason and try to prove her innocence to him even if it meant throwing out her self respect. if she was like Mira or Radha she would have blindly trusted him and told him that she was innocent of all that he accused her of including the baby. because to her nothing else would have mattered other than her love for him.

so no. I disagree. Chandani is not in love with Dev. she is in love with Dev from her dreams and is being selfish here trying to superimpose that image of Dev on Advay.

you have said it all perfectly.
This is exactly my thought process too.
And I blame it on the cvs.

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Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: Arnav.Raizada
A much needed post among all the bashing!! Kudos to you for putting it so elegantly with a pinch of besharmi ki height lol

Hi thanks, I am glad you liked it, Yes my posts and no Besharmi aisa toh nahi ho sakta , need to live up to the image HAHA 😆

Cheers, Chitra

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Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: -Chipper-Treat-
you have said it all perfectly.
This is exactly my thought process too.
And I blame it on the cvs.

I actually agree with you SONA, the CV's are to blame for all the mess that has been going on in the show till now for sure, Wish they bring some consistency and rhythm to the way things are panning out

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Posted: 8 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: mayukatta
Chitra...
Iam so confused dear.
I understand your point.. loved your post ..
And Sab mam response moved me yesterday..
But still Iam confused..
This happened last week .. I forgot to add salt in hubby lunch.. he had eat it that way bcoz there was no other option.. he got bit upset and messaged he is gonna stay hungry..
I said sorry hundred times..
By eve ..I made his fav sweet.. fav curry for supper.. I had this uneasy feeling till I saw him and satisfied that he is not angry with me anymore.

Thus is such a small thing. But still. I know it's just 6 hours in soap duniya.. I understand her love. Trust me i know the madness but how can she just smile so easily looking at the gate and pain in his eyes.

It hurts to see some one you love hate you. Oh god it hurts. Don't you think so...

Hi Mayu,

Thanks a lot for liking the post, tho i dont think most people will agree with what i am saying.

HAHA your hubby said he wont eat lunch HAHAH !!! thats so sweet that you can have such banters in your marriage, things like these make marriage beautiful 😳

But you see i have reached a point where, like AADI, Hubby has two options, either eat or dont eat 🤣.

He doesnt say no salt , kaahe ki he has reached a point where cannot tell if there is salt or no salt, waise thats probably because i can't be bothered to make him lunch anymore 🤣

Dont worry you will get there too eventually.

But yes on a serious note, it deff hurts to see someone you love hurt. But in Advays case, he is not showing her is hurt, he is only showing her is angry. So as far as Chandini is concerned, he is angry and she needs to try to cajole him

Lets say for example, if your hubby had still been angry after he came home even after all the effort u made. What would you have done ? wouldn't you have tried to make up to him ???

Firstly the fact that he is angry is making you do something special for him isn't it, instead of getting on the phone and asking him to forgive you.

The act of cooking his fav dish is a way of you cajoling him and pampering him. Chandini is doing something similar but in her own style, she is trying to cajole him and get dressed up for him so that he notices her.

So i get her perspective , and i am willing to accept her crazy behaviour for once

Thanks again and pls dont mind my jokes, i have a dry sense of humour full of satire i have been told HAHA

Cheers Chitra

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Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: -MeMyselfI
To an extent, I can understand her actions. However, considering how he accused her of ruining his life, a few things that she has done are cringe-worthy. If she does love him then she should be wondering exactly what the consequences of her actions were that he thinks ruined his life.

Hi love,

thanks for your comment,

Yes i agree the logical side of things, but thats the point i am trying to make that her power to reason is clouded at the moment by the sense of elation she feels that her dev is back

Once this excited state settles down then she will begin to start to ask all the right questions IMO