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Originally posted by: un.complicated
I've quoted both of you here because I feel like I can answer your comments and questions together since they seem to be along the same lines.Firstly Pari, no, you're right, I don't like this chapter all that much because to me it felt a bit forced. I'm not entirely happy with the way that I phrased and described certain paragraphs. But I am my own worst critic so I probably have a harsher opinion of the chapter than you do. Maybe once I've penned the next chapter, I'll come back to this one and edit it to my liking.I've said this repeatedly on the thread but there are so many things that I had wished to see happen post-marriage and felt let down by the CVs. So much shit happened between Arnav and Khushi that was not talked about or concluded and in a real relationship that is so unlikely to happen. You need to work through your past together to move forward with your present.Like you said in your other comment, had Arnav and Khushi dated, they would 100% have been on and off because of their clashing personalities and past. But here, they are married so they do not have the luxury of separation. At the end of the day, both of them have to retire in the same room and spend most of their moments together in close quarters despite everything not being sunshine and daisies. And that dynamic is so incredibly interesting to explore! Despite not currently being in a relationship myself, I have a philosophy of never going to bed angry with your significant other, and I think that it's an ideal that should be adopted by married couples to keep the marriage healthy. Because if you don't resolve your issues, it's just going to fester and grow poisonous in your emotional minds. But Arnav and Khushi are nowhere near the stage where they can accept that as one of their vows. A large part of it has to do with the fact that they did not date. They don't have the stable foundations that most couples do in the modern day as they spend plenty of time discovering each other before they enter marriage.And both of you are right; Arnav needs to understand that he's the reason why Khushi accepted Shyam's proposal (which he does find out in this story - Chapter IV) and that Khushi met Shyam because of his (also Chapter IV) but also realise and appreciate her strength in character. To understand the emotional wounds that he had given her. She's carrying a lot of hidden scars on her heart that he's only just starting to see.What frustrated me so much in the show was how the CVs made it as though just because her name is Khushi, she should embody that essence in everything she does for the sake of others. While it's a great character strength, it's also a flaw. Indian dramas like to put their female leads through tonnes of drama and seem to somehow assume that marrying her off to a good husband will erase all that she had to go through! NO! That's not how the human mind and heart works! Why didn't Khushi have a shoulder to cry on? Why did her only sister leave her alone to deal with the anger of both families after her elopement? Kudos to Payal as for the first few episodes after marriage, she did try and ask Khushi why she decided to get married so suddenly, but then they pretty much forgot about her relationship with Khushi post marriage.So, yes, Akash, Payal, Anjali and NK are going to act their ages on here. NK is not going to be a complete clown. He is after all around the same age or older than Khushi, I'm going to say 24. Akash and Payal are the same age at 25. And I'm going to put Anjali at 32. Sheetal is going to be Arnav's age at 28 seeing as they were the same graduating class at Harvard. I want to make my characters more 3-Dimensional ... at the moment their conversations are surrounding Arnav and Khushi and that's because they are the glue that hold the family together; not to mention incredibly interesting people to gossip about. Let's not forget how awkward and tense the Raizada home was before Khushi and Payal came into their lives. Nani was so strict, Mami and Nani butted heads all the time and not in an affectionate manner either. But you will be seeing more of the characters leading their own lives later on in this story. I'm still getting used to writing them and playing around with their speech and mannerisms.I think that the Raizada's are extremely private people and they live in their own bubble. They rarely ever have friends visiting their home for dinner or anything of the sort. The only time when there are outsiders inside their home is during festivals and parties hosted at the mansion. So they're not entirely comfortable sharing their secrets with others, as they sort of have this philosophy of what happens in the family, stays in the family; society be damned. I guess that's why the RSVP rate is so high at their events, because people want to see the gossip as they rarely hear it. Poor NK still has a lot to learn about how the family functions.While ASR is a hotheaded mule, Arnav has always been a softie and I think he has a special place in his heart for the Gupta's. Especially after he spent a week living under their roof and experiencing their hospitality. During the suicide track, on the bridge (their second confrontation) he says to Khushi, "It's a damn shame that you are so characterless because both your family and mine love you a lot." So, he clearly holds them in high regard. I can't wait to explore all of these connections and relations!
You're right in criticizing yourself because I think readers read, like it/don't like it and comment while the writer knows what he had thought when starting this story and where he wanted to take it. Being your own worst criticism will push you to be better although you are already the best I feel.
Coming to Arnav getting to know about him being the reason for Khushi accepting Shyam as her fianc, yes, you're right. It was in chapter 4. I forgot about it as you had summarized Khushi's narration of her past. So this is clarified.
Lemme tell you how with each passing day and now with your approval of their on and off relationship I am looking forward to that particular story. I always keep imagining and day dreaming about them fighting and then not talking to each other, ignoring each other's calls. Arnav escorting Khushi to his favorite places to be with her while Khushi would make excuses to Gupta for being gone at friend's place etc. because disclosing their relationship to families would mean that they will have to marry immediately because gf bf relationship won't be accepted. Either marriage or marriage. It is hillarious if I imagine a jealous boyfriend Arnav' having to see NK flirting with Khushi and being helpless on not able to tell him to leave her alone cause she is his girlfriend. And Shyam, that creep, how low he would stoop in all this.
So coming back to the situation here, you are so right, of course they can't hang up on each other angrily and go to their respective homes and sleep wondering if the relationship is still on or if the other has broken up. Here they are married and have to be with each other, they want it or not. Even though sometimes a married couple or at least one of them very much would like to have a day or night off the other especially after a fight but it would have been rude and not acceptable if Arnav would have left Khushi at Laxmi Nagar and driven home. Now thinking about it, am glad he didn't do such stupidity because I trust him to do so especially in anger. But I think he's not angry at her but upset with his ownself about the Sheetal matter. I really hope that Aarav is not his, although I believe you wouldn't do that because as Arnav already mentioned, he's too much acting like the older Arnav and not at all behaving like a normal child that Arnav used to be.
Now mentioning Aarav gets me into thinking what the hell were CVs thinking when they chose Aarav's wardrobe. I understand Sheetal wanted to show him a replica of ASR so everyone thinks he's Arnav's child but seriously, clothes too Sheetal??? Which mother would dress her child like a young adult? Even though Sheetal was not real mother but this was just too much, seriously.
Haha, Khushi and her name - CVs. You know regardless of her character and personality, in Indian TV, the female protagonist is a selfless, low esteem, sacrificing goat with no self respect. I mean, I have not seen Indian serials like in following but did/do notice the stories and plots when mother is watching them. It happened that the female protagonist was slapped by her husband, she was thrown out by him numerous times after being blamed of infidelity. Her kids would be snatched from her, she would be humiliated in front of numerous people again and again. And this all still happens in Indian shows. But you know how it all ends. She returns to her jerk of a husband who in the meanwhile has even married thousand times and has kids himself from outside affairs. I can even name few serials there. Indian TV shows have no respect for women. I see that some start with strong stories nowadays where they are shown educated and strong not taking any nonsense and then they get married and this same bullshit happens and they continue worshipping their husbands.
Thank God in IPK it wasn't this much cause else, chemistry or not, I wouldn't have continued watching this show. And I believe, if they would have continued with Arnav dying and bringing some other man in Khushi's life, she would have had to go through hell because then she would have been a widow and you know how widows are seen in Indian society. No parents want to marry their son off to a widow or divorcee unless he himself is widowed or divorced. I am so grateful that our IPK ended on a happy note with both being together forever.
And marrying their girl off is always a solution, even in real life in India. I've seen it, better say noticed it. If their girl is having affairs outside, she's revolting and she won't give a shit about others, then parents fix her marriage. I mean, what the hell are they even thinking? If a teen or child is in her revolting age, then marrying her off is not the best solution because if she's doesn't give a shit about her own family, then of course she won't give a shit about someone else's family's too. If she's having numerous affairs outside and playing with boys, then there are chances she may continue it after marriage too which is worse than when she does being unmarried. If she has a boyfriend and you don't like the fact, then she may elope before or after the marriage. Trust Indian parents to think marriage is being THE solution for everything without pondering about their child's situation and how they could help their child become sensible and responsible. They thinking putting the burden of marriage will change them, help them. Bullshit.
And I think IPK is the only serial where the family members don't double from time to time and numerous outsiders live together with the members which was actually just few people. I've really noticed it in my mothers serials. Every other month there are new faces and so many family members you can really mistake as a party going on in that house everyday 🤣
So ya, our Raizadas were really private people who don't socialize much unnecessarily with people excerpt of at parties and gatherings. Really glad actually. Considering the CVs couldn't even handle this much characters at last and sent Akash and Payal for US 😆
Oh, how much that bridge scene pricked my heart. But Khushi could have clarified the matter to Arnav in the blink of an eye by asking Guptas to tell him about Shyam but I found it extremely stupid that went to Shyam instead. *facepalm*
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