A Genuine Question

A Genuine Question to all ...are the relationships are so fragile nowadays?

Both MA beta suffer from insecurity. Don't ask me why Eshwari stuck to son more than daughters. I am surprised here. Not once I saw her feed her girls or make them lie in her laps or hug awkwardly. (seriously while typing I was irritated). She has brought her son in a way he feels obliged to her or runs to her for everything. Dev, being brought up emotionally weak that if he felt his mom disliked a thing, he wouldn't go near it.

@FLW70
Same with me and my husband as you said about yours.
😆

Dev-Ish. They are beyond my understanding. Probably such people do exist but just not my cup of tea.

Why Dev was insecure about Sona? Probably bcoz he knew his family does not approve of her and he also knows he cant do anything about it. So, he was trying to reassure himself by asking her the qs...he wanted to seek her strength to be besides him no matter what.
I understand that much about him.

Sonakshi..in fact anyone in her shoes will be apprehensive about DevD after the break up debacle and then the stalking syndrome.

As for Ishwari, let me try.
After her husband died, the only MALE person I the family, her son was everything for her. Because she believed, as many in our society, sons will take the responsibility of parents, earn and be there for them always. Having a son was important in this aspect. Literally her life insurance during her old days and also for her daughters. DevD was a sort of investment. She invested in him only not her daughters, assuming he'll give very good returns. Her insecurity stems from the fact that she, herself, without DevD's support is nothing. She knows and realizes this. She herself never did anything for her daughters, expecting DevD to fulfill her set of responsibilities...expecting him to be a father figure...fill the responsibility of her husband in her daughter's life. Getting Dev married and having his own family legally will jeopardize her family, her daughter's rights. She herself is incapable of doing anything or has any reckoning except that DevD is successful bcoz of the chance she gave him. Now, will a handicap person not be insecure for her daughters?

Ishwari has never loved DevD selflessly. Mother's love is not always selfless, particularly when there is more than one child involved. It always tends to get partial. My view only.

I agree. But I don't see her close to her daughters. She is obsessed with dev. She lost her husband and she brought her kids. All fine. Why is she stuck to dev? Mad. That's apt for her. Mentally aberrated lady.

Originally posted by: FLW70

A Genuine Question to all ...are the relationships are so fragile nowadays?

Using some situations from our show...just for example

Why Ishwari never has any trust on Dev? Everytime Dev has to keep on proving...tu to meri maa hai na ?...how come Ishwari never has confidence in her upbringing..it really amazes me...everyone gets insecure i understand but to this extend??

If my mom would have been in this situation...wo kehti...kaha jayega...ghum firke yahi laut ke aayega😆😆

From beginning Dev also was so unsure of relationship with Sona...why everytime he needed assurance from sona...tum muze kabhi chod ke nahi jaogi na?...either he had no confidence in him n his love...or he had no confidence in in Sonakshis love

Now Sonakshi...she also was unsure after first break up...but i think she had reason...ye banda to apni maa ke liye fir muze chod de ga...

Do we really need to keep on reassuring partners...tum muze chod to nahi doge na???

Because for me n my husband...its like kaha jayegi tu muze chod ke...aur ja ke kaha jaunga mein tuze chod ke...😆😆

So this question Are relationships are so fragile nowadays?

Please just want to know your thoughts...

Beautiful question and a very relevant one at that.

My husband and I: We are the best of friends and best of enemies too. So there is no going anywhere.

The way I see it, in this show, the one thing that the Dixits compromise is trust and truth. Ishwari and Dev were a team. Ishwari was kind and nice to everyone. She didn't accept the first rishta for Dev because they were arm twisting the Dixits. She liked Natasha and let Dev make the call. Even with Sona, I think if Dev had disclosed his love to his mother without waiting for her to find out, the story would have taken a different path.

Ishwari is threatened by the love Sona has given to Dev which made him lie to her. Dev broke her trust and she is still upset about it.

Dev knew his family in and out and don't think quite trusted them with his happiness.

I guess families which go through adverse situations do become like the Dixits. It might be a psychosocial condition.

Respect is completely different to trust and faith.

😆 Seriously !!

no idea.😊.but 4 d show..even sona was skeptical rem..when dev was not disclosing their relationship she said ot elena wo mujhse pyar karte h par itna nahi ki life partner bana de..

Originally posted by: malikakas

I think people are products of their circumstances. People who have had trying life circumstances tend to become insecure. Like you said it's understandable that Sona was insecure with Dev... but then why is it so hard to understand that all the struggles that Dev and Ishwari went through would make them insecure?

Ishwari's entire support system is Dev. If she didn't have Dev she would literally be on the streets. She never grew comfortable with what they have. Nor did she really gain confidence that if she had to do it again she could do it on her own. She never grew out of that survival mode.

From Ishwari, Dev was also instilled with this idea of living life in survival mode. It was only Sona's presence that made Dev consider something more to life than just survival. I guess if you've never really lived life on that kind of survival mode its hard to understand that kind of mentality. But when your in that mode its really hard to contemplate life beyond that. For Dev, Sona represented the life beyond that he had never even imagined. Sona had allowed Dev to see the colors of life. But for someone who never even imagined such an existence, of course they would be very afraid of losing it. At his core, I think Dev didn't think he deserved that kind of happiness and the reality like most insecurities it became a self fulfilling prophecy.

Relationships are as fragile or as strong as you think they are. I think all 3 of them (Ish, Dev and Sona) proved their insecurities true by their own actions.

@ bold in red excellent, 👏