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Bani said something to Lopa. It was personal.
Lopa talked about botox, lip injections, GC etc. It was personal.
Okay cool.
Okay cool.
Both cancel each other out.
I would not have cared if Lopa retaliated with just 'botox' 'lip injections' 'her height' 'her mental state'.
Even though it seemed less like a retaliation more like an attack, after Lopa didn't stop repeating the aforementioned things, adding 'She uses it yaar';
"See this is what I am talking about";
"See she is using it again" referring to Bani's mother's situation.
"See she is using it again" referring to Bani's mother's situation.
Even during the task, Bani told Lopa time and again to stop and not bring that topic up.
Now it is obvious what Bani said may seem personal to some people, and not personal to some people. It is very subjective. We don't know the implications
But Bani got the taste of her medicine as stated by Lopa by those botox etc comments na.
So why was there a need to push that sympathy mother card statement so much even when she knows the implications?
We all know the implications. It is an objective statement. We know how bad cancer is, we know how much people suffer, we know how costly it is, we also know how many people cannot afford the treatment and die before they are given a chance at life.
Those people will be gone, and their family is left to suffer all their life.
So I would surely expect Lopa who represents India at the international level to become sensitized to such issues irrespective of how the person is to me.
She had the entire day to figure out how low she wants to stoop.
Now I'll assume for a second that she didn't attack her mom, it was an attack on Bani.
Lopa still made a mockery of Bani's suffering due to her mom's illness.
Cancer affects the entire family, considering I've never heard of Bani's dad, it seems they have been dealing with it together.
From my personal experience:
If someone in the family has cancer, everyone suffers, truly and deeply every day. Even if the person has been cancer free or in process of fighting cancer, you cry because that constant fear of "I'm going to lose you" never leaves.
It doesn't mean that the person is mentally weak.
But no one wants to be reminded of the situation time and again ESPECIALLY IF ONE'S BELOVED HAS BEEN HIT WITH IT THRICE because it pinches like hell.
Saying that someone uses the situation for sympathy, or anything else is not only a mockery of the person, and their mom, but a mockery of all the people suffering from cancer.
No one uses such a serious topic to lash out just for footage.
No one, I believe NO ONE is that evil.
It is a mockery of a serious illness which takes the lives of people. It truly is.
If Bani is using her mother's illness, does that mean so is Manu? Because I saw Manu crying in front of Rahul, then Manveer and then in the smoking room over his mother's death. No one had brought the topic up for him.
No. He is not. Both are not doing that.
People saying Bani is using her mother's illness is absurd. How many times in a day does she bring up her mother's illness with anyone in a conversation? Apart from Gaurav, who in the house knew of Bani's mother's illness before the Om incident?
I find the statement so illogical.
"Using" would be bringing it up in every conversation, crying "meri mom ko cancer hai, so I want to win this show for her" "mujhe sympathy de do pls HMs mujhe sympathy do".
If this is what she wanted I wonder why did she wait for Om to bring it up somehow.
Why didn't she bond with the HMs over this "So my mom had cancer three times, this is how my life was, this is how we suffered"
Really truly illogical.
She has only ever reacted when someone else brings it up. What do you expect her to do then? Stand and stare?
Now let's implore some possible meanings Lopa might be alluding to if not directly talking about her mother's illness.
If Lopa was saying "Bani I was talking about you"
What is she talking about Bani? "Aapki mother ke saath jo hua aap usse auzaar ke tarah use karti ho"
What happened to her mother? "Her mother is diagnosed with cancer for the third time"
What is Bani using? "Her mother's suffering for sympathy"
If Lopa was saying "Aapki mother ke saath jo incident hua aap usse use karti ho"
Which incident? "What Om Swami said about her mother"
Why did it make Bani angry? "Her mother is diagnosed with cancer for the third time"
What is Bani using? "Her mother's suffering for sympathy"
Twist the statement whichever way you want to it directly equals to the same answer = A cancer patient and what their family feels.
Even if someone says Bani is using the incident ie her mother's suffering for sympathy, then I am sorry to disclose this, but any person, even Bani would prefer to reverse her mom's cancer rather than using it as a mother card. Winning the show will not take cancer away.
No one in this world is this insensitive.
Even if someone is pro or anti Bani. It is just not correct to see the situation through Bani as a protagonist or antagonist. In general, the allusions Lopa made would not go down well with the sentiments of anyone in this world.
I don't think I can tolerate anyone even justifying something like this, even if I remove Bani and Lopa out of the situation.
It isn't something that can be justified. Leaving our likes and dislikes aside, we are human after all, and such sensitive topics and illnesses which plague the lives of so many in this world has been made a mockery of when I read statements like "Using" "Taking advantage" "Overreacting" "Footage"
I'm sorry, but I fail to understand how is cancer as a DISEASE, a person SUFFERING FROM IT, the person's family WHO ARE SUFFERING TOO, is an advantage that needs to be used to the full extent for your personal gains, something that needs to be milked out on national tv.
What good will it do? Will those people whom you are gaining sympathy from come support you and your mother for her chemotherapy sessions?
What good will it do? Will those people whom you are gaining sympathy from come support you and your mother for her chemotherapy sessions?
I feel somewhere Lopa felt guilty but was too consumed by how it will damage her image.
If only Lopa had apologized saying "I wanted to give you a taste of your medicine, so I said botox etc, I am not sorry for that, but I am sorry for bringing your reaction to your mother's suffering".
If only...
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