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I was discussing Balance since yesterday. Today's episode is a lesson on what happens when balance is maintained and lost.
Balance - http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4736226
Balance: Part 2 - http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4736858
First of all, note my suggestion to Sona on the first post. She chose a weak ally.
Not once Riya admitted that she booked the resort for Sona and Dev and helped her plan a surprise for Dev.
Even oblivious Riya knows that her mother is mentally imbalanced.
Also note: I mentioned that Sona should have taken bold Nikki into confidence. The moment she got Sona's text, she chirped the news to everyone.
If you want to win a battle, Sona, it's very important to choose the right ally.
Dev and Sona won the small battle by stealing a night from the miser Ishwari who wants to have list of every second of Dev's life. But the bigger storm were brewing in the background.
When they came back and Dev announced honeymoon plans, everyone was happy for him except four people -
Radha and Vicky, because they hate Sona.
Ishwari because she can't demand to go on a honeymoon.
And Neha, because she wants to do all that with her husband but her husband doesn't have money.
Ishwari showed her ace when she used Neha to get her way. Ishwari never uses her issues. She always uses her children and family to make Dev dance to her tune.
Today Dev showed excellent balance by spending time with both his mother and wife.
But Ishwari still takes examples from Dev's childhood for comparison purposes. When a child goes away from his parents, it's scary because they are children and vulnerable. But it's different for adults.
It's like saying, I used to change my child's diaper when he was a baby but he doesn't let me do it anymore.
Yes, that comparison is as ridiculous sounding as this.
It's not that Dev has never gone to business trips, but the difference is that he has never gone with someone he loves. Before he was guaranteed to not have fun alone in a hotel room and now fun is guaranteed. But the problem is not going away, the problem is him enjoying his outing.
Sona never asked nor demanded Ishwari's place. She very happily adjusted to her own place. However in a family when one person becomes unbalanced, every other relationship loses balance.
So Dev, since you learned to keep balance, maintain that (although precap suggests otherwise) and now you have to start putting the players into their rightful places.
First step is to make your mother stop making you feel guilty.
Ishwari says in precap: Don't you think talking about your honeymoon will make Neha feel bad? She also must want to go to honeymoon?
Me: Ishwari, here's some points for you to consider.
1. We are all very liberal people. But we are still not liberal enough to send a sister on a honeymoon with her brother.
So speaking to the brother about his sister's wish for a honeymoon doesn't help.
Instead, why don't you come up with a solution to make your daughter's wish come true?
First step to that is to send the said daughter to her husband so that she can go to her honeymoon or you all can also go on a trip together (far far away from Paris or even Europe), since money is no objection so that you can also talk about your trip. Sounds like an easier solution, isn't it?
Your logic makes as much sense as telling a married couple to not have children or discuss about their children because their widowed aunt wanted kids but doesn't have any. Doesn't cut through any logic whatsoever.
2. You keep making Dev guilty for any moment of happiness he tries to get. But why don't you tell your daughter that she should have stayed in her husband's home so that Dev doesn't feel uncomfortable watching her moping around?
You want to distribute Dev's wealth he earned between your children which they don't deserve, then why not distribute the guilt equally as well which Dev doesn't deserve?
Dev, see your mother's unfairness and recognise it before you ruin the fragile balance you managed to build.
And if it's impossible for you, then take the advice from Balance: Part 2 and let an unbiased and fair person handle the wheel.
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
