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One thing I like about this show is the subtle hints they provide. They make it so much more interesting to watch. Yesterday a major hint was left in the show. But I didn't mention it in my post because I was waiting to see how it is followed through in today's episode.
Hint no. 1 - Yesterday, Dev gave Sonakshi roses which pricked her finger. Ritwik took the rose that pricked her, removed the thorns and handed it back to her.
Hint no. 2 - Today Sonakshi was crying in the car because of the hurt and embarrassment Dev inflicted on her. Ritwik handed her the handkerchief to wipe her tears but took it back.
Few weeks ago I posted in someone's post that I believe Ritwik is neither hero nor villain. He is a catalyst.
In literature, a catalyst is someone who changes the equation or situation between the main protagonists.
In this case, Dev and Sonakshi were stuck in a limbo. He was unable to move on and she could not either because he was constantly reminding her what she has lost.
Ritwik cut that off with a sharp edged question. Question that Dev should have asked himself before taking any major decisions. What does he want from Sonakshi.
Ritwik and Sona both gave him chance to reach out and choose his happiness, but he didn't which is why tomorrow when he finds out about his mom's betrayal, it will hit him that much harder.
However, as usual his kryptonite Ishwari will suck out his free will, brain power and ability to take smart deecisions and emotionally blackmail him with hugs and he will shut up.
But there's another point I'd make today. Some people claimed earlier that Sona doesn't love him or understand him.
I hope today they realize that Sona truly loves Dev like a woman and understands him more than anyone else in the world.
Only a woman can love a person who hurt her the most and still able to love them.
Only a woman can hide her pain days after days and continue to spread happiness.
Only a woman can wish the man happiness who broke her heart and left her shattered.
They learn it by nature because even a mother who almost dies delivering a child, still hugs the child to herself when that child reaches out for her.
Every one accolades Devdas as the legendary lover because he drowned himself in alcohol after losing his love and every one blames Paro for her anger and her rejection of Devdas when he came back and asked her to come with him on her wedding day.
They call Paro's self-respect, pride and arrogance. God forbid a woman have pride or arrogance or self-respect or honour. Apparently a woman can have too much self-respect.
But no one realises that going into oblivion by drowning in alcohol is easy. But living a life and putting a smile on your face for the sake of others when one's inside is shattered is much harder.
Today when Ritwik offered Dev to reach out for his love, for few minutes Sona was looking at Dev with hope that he will choose them. But he didn't.
Later Sona again offered him a chance to choose them. But he still didn't do anything.
Now he can't even pretend that he didn't get a chance to fix what went wrong. He got more than his fair share.
Dev told Sonakshi today that they are not separate, they are one. But Dev never understood the concept of one.
You see, being one person means that you can't separate yourself from that person. Hence even the idea of breaking up never enters in your head because cutting off your right arm and leg are easier than being without that person.
When other people look at you and know that her happiness is your happiness, her honour is your honour, her dignity is your dignity. What they do unto her, they do unto you and never they can separate the two of you, that's called being one.
Being one means that even if the God himself asks you that you can enter heaven but you have to go separate ways, you'd say that her rejection is your rejection. Where she goes, you go.
It's not a new concept. Every woman does it. Even if her own family insults her husband, she walks out holding her husband's hand because his honour is her honour. You reject her husband, you reject her. That's being one.
If someone insults Dev's mother and Dev feels insulted, that's being one.
When even after break up, Sona doesn't want anyone to blame Dev, that's being one.
Trivializing his love on front of his mother, is not being one.
But can I blame him? No. Because he is what he was taught.
We teach men and women in India social hierarchy at a very early age.
If you are a man, then first comes your family, then comes friends, then comes your life partner. Your life partner's family does not even fall in any consideration.
If you are an unmarried woman, first comes family, then comes friends.
If you are a married woman, first comes husband, then husband's family, then his friends, then your children, then their friends, then your family. Now your friends are no longer in consideration.
And we learn. We learn the hierarchy and follow it until death.
I felt sorry for Dev. Poor guy has a lot coming his way. But you can lead a man to water, you can pour him a glass and hold it to his mouth. But you can't make him drink it. Even if he is dying of thirst and you have to watch him die slowly, you can't make him drink just like you can't live someone else's life on their behalf.
Dev is that unfortunate person because he forgot that at the end of the day, we are humans and if you put us in pedestal, we can only go downwards from there and Ishwari's downward journey has just started.
Now about Sona. Her condition is exact opposite of Dev. Taking the water example, she is like the person who is tied to a fence by the sea. Waves keep frolicking in front of her eyes, but never reaches her. She knows that the water is inedible. But she just can't stop wishing for it to reach out to her even though it's bad for her.
Dev does not want to drink a glass of perfectly cool, crystal clear, life giving water and Sona can't drink unhealthy, salty, inedible sea water no matter how desperately she wants it because her hands are tied.
About Ritwik, I'd remind you what I wrote in my post yesterday.
Link: http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4709998
Because of Dev's silence today, Ritwik came out as winner.
However I believe this catalyst has a deeper role to play...
But on a different note, this episode probably had the best scenes performed by the best actors. Every single person was so precise in their delivery from dialogues to expression that I could not take my eyes off. Bravo!!!
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