My sympathises lie with Ishwari - Page 3

Originally posted by: fanktlk

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From a mother's view point I completely agree. Kids won't fall in love and come running to tell their parents. If they did we would dismiss it as a crush. We would ask them... Abhi waqt hi kitna hua hai...

We would want the children to be sure of their feelings.

In Dev's case he has fallen and fallen hard. But he still needs his time. He also has insecurities , he is in that phase where poetic talks are on... I want you with me always.

Only when this settles and he gets used to knowing Sona is there for him will he be come for to his mother.

Dev is an introvert. He wouldn't even smile before. Such guys needs to be encouraged to share his feelings.

Ishwar saw Dev play with Sona and not return her Payal. Any other mother would have smiled and said. Are kyon pareshan Kar raha hai use. Or at least acknowledged that they are friends.

If Ishwari did that Dev would be encouraged to share. Unlike what Ishwari likes to believe she is not Dev's friend. He doesn't share she knows. She said tu bina bataye sab ke liye sab kuch karta rehata hai.

Kids go around for months , years before they are ready to share with their parents. They also sense the right time.

For Dev this ia not the right time. His own guilt. He is finding it difficult to manage his time, his business loss, sister's wedding. Now is definitely not the time. Only when he is able to balance his life and his love would he be confident to come to his mother.

No wonder Dev would take his time.

Originally posted by: diyah_us

eshwari is a classic example of an indian mother. whether you hav had a tough life
or easy life indian moms r very much insecure when it comes to their sons. mothers want
their sons to get married but at the same time they want their sons all to themselves
and want their sons to always make mom as the most important person in life. sad but true.
eshwari is just that. dev is not at all at fault. he is not at all neglecting his mom or his sisters.
yes he is giving time for sona but thats very natural. nobody tells about their new love relationships
easily to family. now consider sonas family. sona very well knows that her parents will not
oppose her relationship with dev but still she is not telling her parents bcos they first need
some time for each other. now his guilt trip has already started and eshwaris silent taunts will
make him even more guilty. so i dont blame either eshwari or sona but i blame a mothers
mentality that they want their sons to be the same even after they have kids because your
priorities do change when u get married & more when u have kids & they grow up.

Originally posted by: rogerrocks

I think the one big positive about this show is that most characters are right and wrong in their own way..Atleast so far 😆 And the reason why Ishwari is so impactful-whether positive or negative is because of the way Supriya plays the role..She is ridiculously good and makes it disturbingly real a lot of times ( almost to the point of making me want to skip the scene at times 😆)..I remember that scene where Dev drak milk at Sona's insistence..Or the one where Mamiji made her look through the Sangeet pictures and she ended up seeing Dev-Sona being lost in each other-Disgust, shock, insecurity, disbelief, denial yet trying her best to act normal- she was so so good..So good that in one scene you are disturbed by her reactions and in the very next one, you cant help but feel sorry for her..This woman is honestly fabulous and as much as i like Dev-Sona, i hope to God they always maintain this intrigue in Ishwari's character and dont make her do ridiculous things just to glorify the leads..Anyways, as far as this issue is concerned, i do think both Dev and Ishwari are equally at fault..For all the love they have for each other, the sad part is they just do not understand each other..Neha and Sonakshi understand them a lot more than they do when it comes to each other. Everyone can see Ishwari's disturbing insecurity and possessiveness except Dev. Am not that surprised though cos the guy really does love to live in a bubble 😆 And the irony is its pricking Ishwari now but Dev has never really shared most things with her..Even in the first week, he din't share Neha's conditions with her..And then all his late night visits to Sona, their friendship, conversations, etc.- he never bothered to share anything with her..Hell, he broke his engagement without bothering to as much as inform his mom but she din't mind it then cos it suited her purpose 😆 Dev takes a lot of things for granted and he sucks at understanding people..The reason why he and Neha are this messed up is because of Ishwari..Am probably being judgmental here but without being dismissive of her struggles and sacrifices, i do think her parenting sucked in a lot of ways..The blatant partiality, Dev being made to shoulder more emotional burden than he can handle, the unreasonably high expectations, the subtle undercurrent of patriarchy where Dev gets to take all the important decisions while Neha has no say in them- I dont think Ishwari realizes how much it has managed to impact the two of them. So yeah, in all this, the one person i feel sorry for is Sonakshi..Cos she is gonna suffer because of Ishwari's disturbing possessiveness, Dev's lack of understanding of people and situations and his overwhelming need to rectify situations without really bothering to see if he is doing the right thing and not bothering to look at the consequences and of course the lack of communication between them..I dont really care for Dev's romantic declarations so there are times when i really wonder if its all worth it for Sona 😆

Originally posted by: rogerrocks

I think the one big positive about this show is that most characters are right and wrong in their own way..Atleast so far 😆 And the reason why Ishwari is so impactful-whether positive or negative is because of the way Supriya plays the role..She is ridiculously good and makes it disturbingly real a lot of times ( almost to the point of making me want to skip the scene at times 😆)..I remember that scene where Dev drak milk at Sona's insistence..Or the one where Mamiji made her look through the Sangeet pictures and she ended up seeing Dev-Sona being lost in each other-Disgust, shock, insecurity, disbelief, denial yet trying her best to act normal- she was so so good..So good that in one scene you are disturbed by her reactions and in the very next one, you cant help but feel sorry for her..This woman is honestly fabulous and as much as i like Dev-Sona, i hope to God they always maintain this intrigue in Ishwari's character and dont make her do ridiculous things just to glorify the leads..Anyways, as far as this issue is concerned, i do think both Dev and Ishwari are equally at fault..For all the love they have for each other, the sad part is they just do not understand each other..Neha and Sonakshi understand them a lot more than they do when it comes to each other. Everyone can see Ishwari's disturbing insecurity and possessiveness except Dev. Am not that surprised though cos the guy really does love to live in a bubble 😆 And the irony is its pricking Ishwari now but Dev has never really shared most things with her..Even in the first week, he din't share Neha's conditions with her..And then all his late night visits to Sona, their friendship, conversations, etc.- he never bothered to share anything with her..Hell, he broke his engagement without bothering to as much as inform his mom but she din't mind it then cos it suited her purpose 😆 Dev takes a lot of things for granted and he sucks at understanding people..The reason why he and Neha are this messed up is because of Ishwari..Am probably being judgmental here but without being dismissive of her struggles and sacrifices, i do think her parenting sucked in a lot of ways..The blatant partiality, Dev being made to shoulder more emotional burden than he can handle, the unreasonably high expectations, the subtle undercurrent of patriarchy where Dev gets to take all the important decisions while Neha has no say in them- I dont think Ishwari realizes how much it has managed to impact the two of them. So yeah, in all this, the one person i feel sorry for is Sonakshi..Cos she is gonna suffer because of Ishwari's disturbing possessiveness, Dev's lack of understanding of people and situations and his overwhelming need to rectify situations without really bothering to see if he is doing the right thing and not bothering to look at the consequences and of course the lack of communication between them..I dont really care for Dev's romantic declarations so there are times when i really wonder if its all worth it for Sona 😆

Originally posted by: GoodyTwoShoes

Madam finally aapko vichar aa gaye show pe...dhanya ho gaye ham toh pad ke😆