My sympathises lie with Ishwari

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Muskaan

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Posted: 10 years ago

Hey all,

I dont know how many of you feel the same way as me but I am really feeling bad for Ishwari. The makers have are telling the narrative in such a way that I feel so bad for Ishwari, something I never expected to feel!!

They are showing Dev and Sona enjoying their romance, being so happy with each other but then there is Ishwari who is going through so much. On one side we see Devakshi enjoying themselves,a and the next scene is of Ishwari feeling betrayed and sad and confused. The makers are contrasting Devakshi happiness with Ishwari growing sadness and it makes me feel so bad for her.

Its like watching a car wreck, you know its going to end up in devastation but you cant help and watch. I can see all this blowing up and its honestly very scary.

We see Ishwari's absolute confidence and trust on Dev and then we see Dev breaking it. We see Ishwari's insecurity, sadness and tears and then we see Dev being so unaware about it and laughing with Sona and enjoying.

Ishwari is so much in blind, that I am already feeling sad for when all this blows up. And the makers are not helping by not making Devakshi deal with the topic of telling their respective parents. I wish Dev wakes up from this dream land he is living and faces the reality, I want him to realise how his mother feel. The way Ishwari cooked that halwa for him, and that childlike excitement made me feel so bad for, and it was so touching as well!

I am just feeling so bad for her and for now I have no sympathy towards Devashi but it lies all with Ishwari!

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misaki

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Posted: 10 years ago

I think completely blaming Dev for not reading his mom is a little unfair. Ishwari is at fault as well. Ishwari should talk to her son about it instead of lying to him and pretending to be all right.

I agree that Dev should talk to his mom about his relationship with Sonakshi but he's always been like that from day 1. He doesn't really share his feelings with her(when it actually matters) in fear of her reaction to them. Before it was his problems related to work and life in general and now it's Sonakshi.

Dev and Ishwari's relationship is not your typical mom and Son relationship. It's complicated to say the least!😆

I will come back and share my thoughts about it in a small while though😊

P.S I honesly think if we should pity someone it should be Sona who's going to suffer the most without any fault of hers. Not Dev or Ishwari.

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Muskaan

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: misaki
I think completely blaming Dev for not reading his mom is a little unfair. Ishwari is at fault as well. Ishwari should talk to her son about it instead of lying to him and pretending to be all right.
I agree that Dev should talk to his mom about his relationship with Sonakshi but he's always been like that from day 1. He doesn't really share his feelings with her(when it actually matters) in fear of her reaction to them. Before it was his problems related to work and life in general and now it's Sonakshi.

Dev and Ishwari's relationship is not your typical mom and Son relationship. It's complicated to say the least!😆
I will come back and share my thoughts about it in a small while though😊

P.S I honesly think if we should pity someone it should be Sona who's going to suffer the most without any fault of hers. Not Dev or Ishwari.

I am not blaming Dev, its just the way they are showing the narrative, it makes me feel bad for Ishwari. I am pretty blind to her unfairness towards Dev because for now I see her confused and lost and not see Dev suffering even a bit.

And as for Sona, I do not want to get bashed or disliked on the forum, or start fights but I am not liking her character at all these days. She is being shown as this perfect girl, and its very hard to digest . But anyways I dont want to start on why her character irritates me at the moment because I am likely to get bashing for it. I am watching the show for Dev- Ishwari these days!

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Posted: 10 years ago

Its a complicated situation

Dev as an individual deserves love in his love , he deserves happiness why should he be the one sacrificing all the time .

The way I see Ishwari , Dev is her support system , the one she can trust to filfull the responsibilities she entrust on him . he is that person that pulled them out of povety and because of Ishwari he was educated so she as a mother believes her son will never hide anything from her .

But logical speaking when a guy falls in love it takes him a while before he speaks to his parents sure Dev's responsibility is first to his mother but that does not mean he should not be happy in love

Ishwari always said Dev needs a good girl and she herself have said Sona is a good girl then now she should confront both instead of stressing and making Dev feel guilty for been in love

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Silambu

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Posted: 10 years ago

Well I dont sympathise Iswari..

She had him for 27 years !😆 Its time to pass the baton to someone else!😉

The poor chap for the first time in his life fell in love, and also with a person he least expected to ! Ms Bose.

They need time to get to know one another...even though they confess they love each other. They still have the right to go through the whole dating process...there's nothing wrong in that and he will tell Iswari when the times comes...let him enjoy these moments with Sona. Dev worked so hard to where he is today and surely he deserves some happiness to enjoy privately.

Iswari is feeling very insecure to see the changes in Dev but Dev is still the same with his mother in terms of caring for her...he never neglected her in any way.

The only person I am afraid might get hurt is Sona...

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Jade0001
Its a complicated situation

Dev as an individual deserves love in his love , he deserves happiness why should he be the one sacrificing all the time .
The way I see Ishwari , Dev is her support system , the one she can trust to filfull the responsibilities she entrust on him . he is that person that pulled them out of povety and because of Ishwari he was educated so she as a mother believes her son will never hide anything from her .
But logical speaking when a guy falls in love it takes him a while before he speaks to his parents sure Dev's responsibility is first to his mother but that does not mean he should not be happy in love
Ishwari always said Dev needs a good girl and she herself have said Sona is a good girl then now she should confront both instead of stressing and making Dev feel guilty for been in love

Its a complicated situation thats true!!

Telling Ishwari about Sona is not making a sacrifice!! Its making everything easier for everyone! I understand what you are saying buts its hard for me to feel bad for him. Like I said, we see Ishwari suffering these episodes so I just feel bad for her and I feel that she is in a very vulnerable position. Moreover, no matter if her trust on him is misplaced or wrong or how that trust puts so much burden on him, its going to be devastating to see that trust shatter. She feels connected to Dev, she considers her ONLY support system, he is not only her support, but the only male presence in her life so although Dev does deserve his happiness, he also has a duty towards her. He should be not burdened with this but he is and he should realise that. And no matter how unfair, and wrong I may sound, he should put her above everything else!

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Silambu
Well I dont sympathise Iswari..
She had him for 27 years !😆 Its time to pass the baton to someone else!😉

The poor chap for the first time in his life fell in love, and also with a person he least expected to ! Ms Bose.
They need time to get to know one another...even though they confess they love each other. They still have the right to go through the whole dating process...there's nothing wrong in that and he will tell Iswari when the times comes...let him enjoy these moments with Sona. Dev worked so hard to where he is today and surely he deserves some happiness to enjoy privately.

Iswari is feeling very insecure to see the changes in Dev but Dev is still the same with his mother in terms of caring for her...he never neglected her in any way.

The only person I am afraid might get hurt is Sona...

I know he deserves all of this, but that does not mean that he hurt his mother at the same time. I dont find anything wrong in the fact that she wants Dev's attention. And the thing is this whole situation would have been so much easier, if Dev had told her. Although right now he is enjoying, later on he is going to be suffering so much. Telling her now would have been so much simpler for everyone.

Ishwari just does not want too see him change, I dont think thats bad! She wants him to be his little boy always and thats not a bad thing.

As for Sona, I find her character irritating and so uncomplicated and so simple, that I relate in no way to her and since I dont relate, I dont feel bad for her!

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aaliah3108

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Posted: 10 years ago

I do not find Ishwari to be a good mother... Any mother who differentiates between her kids is wrong... In fact I'd b ashamed if my daughter would ever come up to me and say that I'm only the sons mother... Ishwari felt bad momentarily but goes back to being only Devs mom.
I sometimes feel sorry for her but again I fail to understand why she does what she does... So I just get pissed off. Even in Devs case her approach is one sided... What's imp in her eyes is correct... Rest she aint bothered about.

She does not practice what she preaches and thus I don't hold much respect for her. It's easier to say things to others and when it comes on u the person acts as per convenience, I find her V irritating and she pisses me off with her hypocrisy. Lol

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Shaun

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: muskaan2298

Its a complicated situation thats true!!

Telling Ishwari about Sona is not making a sacrifice!! Its making everything easier for everyone! I understand what you are saying buts its hard for me to feel bad for him. Like I said, we see Ishwari suffering these episodes so I just feel bad for her and I feel that she is in a very vulnerable position. Moreover, no matter if her trust on him is misplaced or wrong or how that trust puts so much burden on him, its going to be devastating to see that trust shatter. She feels connected to Dev, she considers her ONLY support system, he is not only her support, but the only male presence in her life so although Dev does deserve his happiness, he also has a duty towards her. He should be not burdened with this but he is and he should realise that. And no matter how unfair, and wrong I may sound, he should put her above everything else!

Yes you perfectly right no doubt about that

Dev always puts his mother as his number one priority , he cares for her he loves her they have a unique level of connection between them and that's fantastic but he just fell in love

then came Neha's wedding he has not had ample time to really have the joys of his relation with Sona so he is at fault for telling his mother he is in relation and at the same time he is not at fault because its his first time he has no experience how to handle this matter and yes it will hurt Ishwari her trust in Dev will be broken to some extend but again she'll cover that up by blaming Sona as she cannot find fault in Dev .

its difficult I want to side with Ishwari and at the same time I want to side with Dev

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Muskaan

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Originally posted by: aaliah3108
I do not find Ishwari to be a good mother... Any mother who differentiates between her kids is wrong... In fact I'd b ashamed if my daughter would ever come up to me and say that I'm only the sons mother... Ishwari felt bad momentarily but goes back to being only Devs mom.
I sometimes feel sorry for her but again I fail to understand why she does what she does... So I just get pissed off. Even in Devs case her approach is one sided... What's imp in her eyes is correct... Rest she aint bothered about.

I know she is not a normal mother but they have not had a normal situation. She considers Dev more important the rest because he is the support of the house, he is the man of the house. She lost her husband and Dev took that responsibility, He cares of her like a husband would, he earns for the house like a husband would. She is an uneducated, housewife who needs a man in their life, for both financial and emotional support and Dev is that support. She is dependent on him. He is not only her son but her saviour, someone who gave her all the comforts in life so its natural for her too see him a different light. And thats why she is so possessive about him. She cant let go of him because she has held him so tight, she is glued to him and its hard for her too let go or see him change. The only way she can let go him is if she is sure that he wont leave her, and she cant be sure of that because she has already lost her husband, her support so she will do anything too keep her current support, Its not fair but it makes me sad for her.

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