cheated on me, never loved me?

its somewhat a long story but i really need your opinion guys!

I am from europe and he is indian. we've met online and hit it off directly. we've fell in love madly and met each other as well and had a very nice time together and got physical. he was very lovely and always made sure i am safe and happy.
but as we met, there was a red flag, he was lying...a lot as it turned out.
once i got back home things became complicated. we planned a future together but it became difficult. after some time he became very distant and after a lot of begging and pleading he told me that i did something wrong and he felt neglected! thats why he is behaving that way. before it he always said he is going to marry me i am the love of his life, he wont ever leave, you get the point.
once we had a fight cause he used a picture of himself and a girl. he said shes just a family friend and i am totally exaggerating, got really aggressive!
he always said we can make it, i need to give him more space and to remain patient. i gave my best, did everything to please him.
then his birthday came and i congratulated him, i called him and he sounded very happy hearing from me and like everything is alright. next morning i get a message that he is engaged (the same girl from that picture where we fought) and he is gettin married to her in december and she has read my messages so he has to break off the contact with me! i am still shocked! i found this girl and sent her everything i've got to show he is a liar but she just said i feel sorry for you, i know he lied but i love him and will marry him, you just move on.

now...will karma get them? she told me she broke off her relationship as she fell in love with him but he didnt seem to end our.
what do you think? did he ever even really loved me? does he love her? he never mentioned anything? i'm really shocked and confused! :(

Girl 🤔 ... I am sorry to say it, but I don't think he ever loved you. He used you and now he has left you. It was pastime for him. He is a bloody creep and disgusting. Sorry about my language, but I would call a guy like that... A BIG harami. You really shouldn't had been so naive too :( ... Forget everything about him, he is not worth any thoughts. Move on. There are plenty of nice guys out there, who wont lie to you and will respect you.

That guy is a total jerk sister. You should feel happy that such a loser is out of your life. Such a person doesn't deserve to be loved and I'm pretty sure he isn't in love either with you or that girl. What if you realized his real character after marrying him, wouldn't that have been worse?

Originally posted by: Destiny_rose

And about that girl, I feel more pity for her than I feel for you because she is really foolish deciding to spend her life with a guy like that.

you're totally right! i know i've been naive but he was very manipulative and always made me feel guilty for everything. and i know him for almost 3 years and she knows him for like 6-8 months and they're getting married! she doesn't know him! i also told her i feel pity for her, because he might be even violent in the marriage! when i was in india he once came drunk and started being pissed cause i said he was irreliable (i waited all day) and he threw the food out of the window!

I'm sorry to know what happened with you. I know how much it truly hurts to love someone and never get it back in return. The truth is he never loved you. He used you, took advantage of your vulnerability, slept with you, and moved on. I know it's hard to digest this especially when you think of the most beautiful moments you've spent with him. But remember that if he truly was yours he would have never betrayed you in such a way. So do not try to contact him, do not give any evidences to his current girl to proof what he did to you. What are you going to get out of it? She's still living with him and you have nothing. So gather your self respect, keep your heads up and don't look back. You just have to try.Meet new people and hangout with your friends or find a new hobby. Just don't repeat the same mistake again and every time you want to do something crazy like contact him or his girlfriend remember what he did to you and remember that you have too much self respect to go back and talk to a man this cheap. You have standards. Spend your love on someone who deserves it. I'm sure you'll get someone much much better.

thanks a lot for all of you!
and of course i feel like writing her or doing something bad to him, because i cannot just let him treat me that way and forget about it. I just cannot and this is the worst. No closure, no revenge. I'll have a very tough and hard time for a very long time now cause he still crosses my mind and i just wonder why...

Originally posted by: 1xyz1

thanks a lot for all of you!
and of course i feel like writing her or doing something bad to him, because i cannot just let him treat me that way and forget about it. I just cannot and this is the worst. No closure, no revenge. I'll have a very tough and hard time for a very long time now cause he still crosses my mind and i just wonder why...

firstly he lied to you and you didn't let that stop your relationship with him so how come the other girl is supposed to stop the relationship because of his lies? When his lies were not a factor and he was still good enough to be with you.

Be thankful that you dodged a bullet .. slap yourself in the face a couple times for falling for that shit, and flip the page to a new chapter. And remember that people have survived worse things and still continue to do so.