Nisha Gangwal or Nisha Kabir Kumar? - Page 14

Originally posted by: janvi0513

Kabir wore Kurta on the pagh phere but Nisha didn't wear saree,
he joined Gangwal Jewellers (family business).
Where the girl has to make sweet dish first time for her in laws, there Kabir helped Nisha to make sweet for GF
Kabir was born to be a Gangwal.
It is like Nisha and Kabir are both Beta and Bahu of GF

Originally posted by: do0dleR

Good going Anu.. Now you have to mention that the post is a serious one...🤣 I was literally ROFLing reading ur PS...🤣

Very nice post indeed...😊 But there are few points about which I agree and disagree with you...

I think it is more a personal choice than a rule that a girl will/will not change her surname after marriage. Our society (not only Indian but most societies in the world) is primarily male-dominant, though evolving. So, if things like changing surname is prevalent in our societies, it only because of this factor... There was even a time in Europe ("First" World) when women did not have right to vote just because they were women... Things are still evolving...

Apart from this, I think some women change their surname voluntarily (yes, some are forced to change too...) because they feel a certain belongingness to her partner's family. I think everybody has right to decide whether they would want their name to associate with their partner's family or not. My sister recently got married, but she didn't change hers and nobody imposed it on her (I am not from south, and it was arranged marriage). I feel every guy who respects his partner's wishes, opinions and choices will not try to dominate her in any possible way, and in that case perhaps the girl will be ready to happily give in too...(Like we see in NAUC how a girl like Nisha starts becoming girly for Kabir).

I read in one of the comments about symbol that men carry after marriage. I have seen married men wearing wedding rings in Hindu religion, but I don't know if it is compulsory like mangalsutra. I bet if it becomes compulsory then 70% of the EMAs will stop...😛

Lastly, I think every small change in the society is brought about by individual people. And one should stand by their principles, make their point peacefully and convincingly. If a girl does not want to change a certain thing about herself after marriage (like surname, clothing, career choices etc.), she should not be forced to. Also, if I ever decide to change my surname after marriage (I am not sure I will, there is lot of time), I would also want my partner to change his..😛

As for Nisha... I don't mind calling her by any name - Mrs. Nisha Gangwal, Mrs. Nisha Kabir Kumar, Mrs. Nisha Gangwal Kabir Kumar...(or Mrs. Kabir Gangwal😛) - as long as she herself is clear what she wants to call herself...whether she wants to maintain her originality or she wants her name to associate with her spouse... But of course, that will be written by our "Einstein CVs" who leave no stones unturned to spoil a character sketch...All we can do is wait and watch the ball rolling over the court...

I loved that you on this issue...😊 Proud of you...

Originally posted by: Shwets1502

Yeah...Using initials is an advantage...But does put out a lot of confusion when Last name is asked...😆

I am not for changing the surname for sure. May be the girl can add her husband's surname to her name, along with her father's. Nisha Gangwal Kumar...😆 I am glad Nisha is still called Nisha Gangwal.

Originally posted by: do0dleR

No dear, no additions...I am too much in love with my name...😆😆

Originally posted by: ..preethi..

here in south India we don have surname but use our father's first name as initial like my dad's name starts with R .. so i write R.preethi thats it.. but there are plp who change their initals after marriage but thats very rare.. my mum has her marital inital only.. even i wont change mine after my marriage .. itz my parents who gave me this identity so i would never even think abt changing it!

& yeah itz good nisha din change her surname.. but i personally feel that plp shld start calling her Mrs. instead of Ms though😛🤣

Originally posted by: lovely_lady

What do you mean initial? So like Nisha Gangwal K? (K initial? LOL I'm so confused?)

@doodle: LOL that's the exact same reason why I don't wanna change my name hahahaha! I love it too much! It's written everywhere on my possessions, even carved into my bed 😆

Originally posted by: anulovessarun

i respect ur views!

yeah it completely depends on the girl's choice,whether she is happy or not with the change in surname!

if she is happy,then everything is alright-but no one should be forced-that was all i am trying to say!

@bold-good girl😉😛😆

@italics-yes that is what worries me...i don't want the CVs to butcher the character just to show that she is in love with kabir...there are so many other ways possible for showing that without butchering her character!

@underlined-thanku😳

Originally posted by: Nikluvsarshi

Changing surname is much better than changing your 1st name
In Maharashtra and Goa 1st name is changed and girls are given new name by their husbands just like rani lakshmi bai her name was manikarnika
This is horrible.

Originally posted by: do0dleR

Such issues must be spoken up, or girls don't get their way...

Anytime...😳😊

Originally posted by: anulovessarun

aapko indigestion ki prob hai kya?🤣🤣🤣