Raman seeking middle ground in life *NOTE pg 14* - Page 9

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Happy Holi

guys since it's already 6th in India!. I play with edit feature when it's not an episode review...this is sort of my personal interpretation of last years Holi Dance...I had planned to post the collage today, but since you guys asked me to post it yeasterday...I'm posting these...

Originally posted by: mischief

Hi Gan, Sorry... I'm for the first time on ur thread gonna disagree with you here as I for once couldn't connect with Raman when he saw Ishita wiping her tears today. I love puttar a lot (who doesn't over here) But for me he behaved like a complete JERK today. I was totally disappointed with him today, even more than for his inaction in yesterday's episode.

U know after his verbal spat when he saw Ishita crying n wiping her tears n then moving to the kitchen area on the pretext of serving snacks, I expected Raman to at least give a sorry look at her before leaving the room ( or even a sad look emoting that he didn't mean to hurt her this way), but with the coldness he left the room left a very bad taste in my mouth...It seems like Ishita's tears jus don't bother him!!! And on the other side he can do anything when he sees his mother weeping for unreasonable & illogical reasons!!

Had that girl stopped the Bhallas from approaching Sarika?!! No!! Heck she only said that she would not approach her in this respect as she felt that Romi was not ready for this marriage. She said it was jus her opinion and she was not pressing her opinion on him or the Bhallas. What was wrong in that Raman? Why it is always that it is only Raman who has the right to get angry on her and vent out so much of anguish on her and she has to always take it in her stride to understand that her husband doesn't mean anything what he says when he is angry. Above all, why does Raman always shows so much of disrespect for their relationship in front of other people and repents later in the confines of his room.

I'm not going back to recall those harsh words which Puttar has hurled upon Biwi because it hurts to recall those baseless words. This outburst from Puttar has hurted me more than Shagun's words. 😭😭

Puttar...Where was this anger hidden when ur ex-wife was hurling abuses to ur wife in the last 2 episodes..😡😡

Ishita... What should I say about this lady... Today if one asks me to make a choice between who loves who the most between Ishra...I would undoubtedly pick Ishita over Raman... This woman loves her LOVE in whole, with all the shortcomings and imperfection. No matter what he does she will be the first one to stand for him in his times of need and take a stand for him. Puttar, don't take her love for granted.

Originally posted by: RomComFan

Res...for taking it out on the one who always had your back, rather then talking it out. 😔

---EDIT---

G... thanks for the pic and post I really needed it. The episode, the episode just left me so disappointed. I'm a little sad, a lot disappointed and very apprehensive. My thoughts are a bit all over the place today so I hope you will indulge me. I am not going to go into who is right or wrong, because they both had their points. For me, I think it came down to the place from which they were taking their positions on this issue. Raman was looking at it, as you said, from the place of wanting to protect his family and save his mom from her GKC fever and making the best decision he could. But Ishita, who generally takes the same vantage point, looked at the issue form the POV of Sarika and the baby. Therein lies the problem and the disagreement.

Ishita

After everything she said, I think there is also a deeper reason, an unconscious reason for Ishita's current support of Sarika,especially after the words that were said to her yesterday. Since she found out about her infertility, Ishita has been judged and branded over and over again by society and now even her family; and by this I am not just talking about the ridiculous GKC rants but I also consider the silence during yesterday as acceptance of those terms by the Bhallas. And in Sarika she sees another woman judged and branded by society because of her womb and childbearing capabilities.

First the Bhallas (most of them) didn't want Sarika because she wasn't good enough and was considered cheap, and now that they have no option they are turning to her- not that they think any more of her now mind you, it's just that only she can help and give them the heir they want. Consider this situation with what Ishita faced, first society ridiculed and judged her for her infertility and mocked her attempts to create the life she wanted through adoption (including Raman for a moment) and her bond with Ru then when they (the Bhallas) had no choice they turned to her, again not out of any great affection for her but because though her they could get custody of their heiress.

For Ishita at least there was the purity of Ru's love for her... for Sarika... what? Ishita's life improved and was enriched by her marriage mostly because of Ru, even the friendship and love that was born of the marriage was thanks in part to their Ru. But for Sarika- how will her life change or improve in this marriage? What will she get except a family that tolerates her and a man she no longer trusts? Yes, ofcourse they too could have a great love story, but this is not the way about it. And what does Sarika have to hold on to until this love story comes- Ishita had Ru's love, is the love of her baby, the only reason they are willing to accept her, enough? It's not quite the same , the love of an infant for a mother a a desperate for affection 6 year old for her mother I think...

Raman

RKB is completely in character and between a rock and a hard place, I get that, I get him-but it seems to me he doesn't want to understand Ishita. He knows her position, he sees the rightness in it but doesn't want to understand it because if he does then he's got to readjust his thinking. He values ISHRU but right now , as always, he is putting the good of the family before even perhaps his own happiness and pushing for them as she often does. But at some point he has to choose his own happiness, they both do.

The Family

Really what bothered me today was the Bhallas. Not Raman, but his family. Raman atleast understands his wife, though he refuses to acknowledge it- they don't even try. How utterly selfish they are. 😡 Their spectatorship reminded me of when Shagun instigated the fight between ISHRA about Mihir and just stood back and watched. These two are fighting it out for them, as always and they are saying nothing? What? are they staying out of it? Now? When these two bend over backwards to help them sort out their crap they can't step in and try to top this from going too far when they know it's for them? Ridiculous.

Yea okay, tomorrow they will all come up with some cutesy plan to bring them together and give them a nice Holi before the A-bomb drops...so what? This is the same stupid cycle over and over again. They are draining the life and love out of this couple and I am sick of it. ISHRA need to stand up and stop fighting with each other for the family and start fighting with the family for themselves...and if it takes a separation, Shagun's demand and its consequences or a blast from Ishu's past for it to happen I am okay with that. Bring it on. It can't come fast enough as far as I am concerned.😊

I am not sure if this makes sense, but in my head this does... At the end of the day I know he loves her and she him and I know that he can't see her hurt but he keeps hurting her over and over agin, almost deliberately , and breaking almost every promisse he made in his vows to her... all for the sake of family. And maybe what they both need is a good shock, whatever the means to make them realize that they can't keep putting themselves last.

Okay... after all that I need some cheering up here are a few GIFs to remind us of the times what was going on this time last year...

..😳

..And some ISHRARU moments... which will apparently get rare these days..😭😭

Originally posted by: krikumar.91

So, we are on the same page now...😆

Anyways, drama is reaching its peak soon... In between , we have breather in the form of Holi and lollipop romance... 😉

Raman is going to commit another mistake now... He's going to sign some papers which is going to take him away from his daughter too... His life has been totally messed up yaar... He needs time to deal with it... And Ishita will eventually become his support system in this battle against Shagun...

Yeh barter system (Adi for Ruhi) drama toh TRP ke liye hi hoga but i want a message at the end... Adi must start seeing the evil side of his loving mom and Raman must start realising the value of Ruhi...Puttar ka yeh ajeeb aadat hai... Unless he's pushed to the edge, he never realises the value of people whom he loves...

So, redemption is on its way... Just hope that cv's deal with it in a sensible manner...

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Anu ...You make sense 100% and truly get the frustration you have expressed. And the part in @bold...I would love that too. Between the complexities of their family's issues, they are getting drained as the way it works everyone looks at them to make everything alright as they have a nature and track record of doing that...and this time their understanding is getting affected and from Shagun's words ...it looks like their relationship is really going to go through some serious trials and tribulations...

Originally posted by: avni_19

RES

I just read two to three spoilers regarding Holi... An OLV is also out... By connecting with the OLV, I feel spoilers are right! IshRa C n C gonna happen in BEHOSH State! Unacceptable CVs! Not excited.. Agar pure hosh mei ho toh, phir dekhlenge!😉

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

"So it's true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love."

- E A. Bucchianeri

I have to study so I will be back to update but I must say this:

I get it that puttar is stuck between a rock and a hard place but this when you become an adult and share your problems with the one who stands by you no matter what, the one you have failed to protect, the one who you have let down again and again..only because you have taken her for granted. I am sorry I love puttar, I really do but like all the Bhallas, puttar has taken Ishita for granted and the biggest tragic flaw of ishita is her unfathomable love for Ruhi.

The Bhallas know that no matter what they do to Ishita or how they treat her, she will be there by them because of her love for Ruhi. I have never felt bad for a character as much as I feel bad for Ishita. Puttar is flawed and so is the missus but Puttar needs to SPEAK to biwi and not scream whereas missus needs to STAND UP for herself and not take the verbal abuse hurled at her.

#Puttar prove me wrong...PLEASE

#Be the man you once were that we all fell in love with

#I still love you puttar but I am disappointed in myself for loving you

#Toshiji is a lost cause

May I suggest something drastic, I want Ishita to move out with Ruhi, not to teach anyone lesson but I want these two just leave this madness where no one seems to care for them, I want them to be happy with each other.

Originally posted by: Veeann

Ok, here's the thing. I don't like conflict ( except when it comes to #PuttarWars) and I don't like disagreeing with people and all, but even though Puttar was being an absolute ass for yelling at biwi in front of everyone, even though blaming Ishita for the Mihir Rinky wedding makes no sense, and even though I can't understand how Ishita has "meri zindagi barbaad kardi" for Puttar, I still do get where he was coming from today.

RKB has as always, taken on the role of Protector and Defender. He sees his family in distress and so he flies in like Superman to the rescue. He has decided Romi's barren swimmers are one more burden on him that he needs to find a way to resolve, and he has decided to do it by taking the action he thinks is the best for everyone, including Sarika.

But like Superman needs his Lois Lane, so Puttar needs his Ishita. Only Lois is no simpering doormat - she is righteous and she has a voice and she shows Puttar the mirror and sometimes, it's uncomfortable to confront what is in the mirror.

And actually, RKBs characterisation hasn't been changed. He has always acted impulsively and he has not hesitated to be unscrupulous either.

Remember how he tried to discredit Ishita during the initial stages of the Ruhi custody case? After first offering her a bribe, he then sent Subbu's mum to the Judge to discredit her.

And what about during Shagun's prosecution for amma's accident? He committed perjury to save his GKC from facing the consequences of his wrongdoing.

RKB is a flawed man. He loves his family and is blinded to their faults. They are his kryptonite. They, and especially his GKC, weaken him. He sees Ishita as his strength now. But he expects his strength to have his back NO MATTER WHAT. Today he is hurting from having to let his son go, from seeing his sister humiliated, from finding out his brothers issues, from his mothers melodrama. So he is taking his anger and frustration out on the one person he believes should support him no matter what.

Is Puttar right? Of course not. Ishita needs to tell him so and if she needs to leave with Ruhi to get RKB to acknowledge the value she and Ruhi hold in his life, then so be it.

I fell in love with Puttar not despite, but because of, his flaws. Do I cringe when he gets abusive? Absolutely. But see how he behaved with Ashok today. He has always been this way - he speaks without considering the consequences and he accepts no POV but his own. Biwi is his polar opposite, and that is why they have such combustible chemistry. But that is also why they will always have a degree of conflict.

For me, Puttar today was in character. He believes HE has the haq to yell at biwi. But it was yesterday, when he kept quiet when Shagun was yelling abuse at Ishita that made no sense to me. Because while Puttar believes he can dish it out to Ishita, he has never stood by and let others do it.

Phew, can't believe I actually tried to do an analysis. And that too on characters the CVs chop and change at whim.

Hope I haven't offended anyone. Hugs to all

#PuttarAndBiwi NeedToTalk

#ILovePuttar Still