Isn't Anandi equally to be blamed?

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wanderer

@wanderer

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Posted: 11 years ago

I am a frequent reader here but I don't post. Today I couldn't hold myself back. When Anandi came to know of Sanchi and Saurabh, wasn't it her duty to inform the mother? Is she Sanchi's mother? A mother has every right to interfere in her wayward child's life because she is ultimately ready to take the responsibility. Also it will be the mother who who will be pained most by her child's trauma,whatever it may be. Then why didn't Anandi inform Ira in time? Why wait till the last moment to step in and save Sanchi? What did she want? Gratitude? priases? What?

moreover, a girl like Sanchi can get into any trouble any time. There is no fixed time for it. So faster the action, sooner will she be saved, right? Even after learning that Sanchi had lied and gone to a kind of rave party, she kept mum and wanted to save Sanchi all on her own. Is this even possible in Indian househols? Are daughter-in-laws given so much authority? I mean it was headless insolence on her part. And now when Sanchi has been violated, what is Anandi going to do about it? Is she really going to feel bad? Yes she may, but she will get over it when something interesting occurs in her own life like Amol coming first in the class. Even Sanchi may, after sometime, but it will be impossible for any mother to overcome this. Till the last day of her life Ira may not sleep peacefully, but will have nightmares. What is Anandi going to do about this? Prescribe some sleeping pills or a visit to a shrink? And then what about the side-effects? What is Anandi going to do about them?

What I mean to say that Anandi has time and again behaved irresponsibly, and tried to be in bigger boots than what fit her feet. I am not saying that if she had informed Ira, nothing of this would have happened. It would have, in all probability. But then, Ira herself would have been responsible of trusting Sanchi too much. It would have eased out her pain in long run. But now she may wonder all her life, if at all she would have known, would she have been able to avoid this entire thing. Because even if Saurabh is hanged after this, things will not be as they were before. After this level of trauma, life can never be the same again. It leaves behind scars, that come to hurt you from time to time.

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MaxMayfield

@MaxMayfield

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Posted: 11 years ago

Before Anandi, there was Mahi, who knew about Sa and Sau...long long before...but he dint bother to inform anyone either??! corrective measures, taken then would have resulted in much lesser damage...

as far as Sa's wayward life is concerned...she put up quite a show in front of Singhs long ago...Ira obviously knew how and where Sa was treading - but nobody had any control over her actions, even back then...!!

how much of time did A have?? all of this happened at jet speed - and she always kept S in the loop...and how much of informing Ira would have helped...?? when have they ever taken A seriously in the past - even during Saja??!! she had only so much time to first confirm her doubts, then consolidate them with evidences...she even threatened Sau to stay away from Sa...without making too much tamasha of it -

Mayb she dint want to inform anyone about this, so that the trust Alok and Ira had gained on Sa, would stand the way it was...

and if A had managed to reach on time, she would have never informed anyone of the almost happenings for Sa's betterment - so the question of getting praised may stand redundant

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Mittu

@mitturaju

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Posted: 11 years ago

Yes i agree with you, It was Anandi's duty to informed Ira about her child misbehave and wrong relation. But this time even i feel that what anandi did is not appreciated.

When Parents are there - anandi doesn't have any rights to hide their own daughter's mistakes. Infact sanchi openly declared to anandi that she will do what she feels like. At least after hearing that statement from Sanchi - Anandi should have informed her parents.

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Aashima Ahuja

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Posted: 11 years ago

Anandi Cant be blamed for that...The sole person to be blamed are the KB elders...pure vellas...all gets decked up and sits,eats,discuss on all kind of useless topics but doesnt try to know what their children are ACTUALLY doing...be it Shiv,Mahi,Sanchi.

They were unaware of the fact that Shiv had chosen a girl for himself, accepted her marriage proposal...till the date they gave a surprise visit to him and he told them all.

they were fortunate that time.

Mahi-Aashi...they still have no idea of their equation & ONS.

Also they were completely clueless about his proceedings regarding Army...till they came across the letter BY CHANCE.

Sanchi...the greatest...Shekhars never know anything about her...neither they ever tried to know. ...the list is long from her Ansh Sangeet drama to liking Jagya ...from Suicide to Ankita...from Ganga's baby shower to Saurabh...courtesy her all time falseness & pretense.

Mahi Should have told any of the family member...when he had seen SaSa on bike with liquor.

Anandi although had no scope for sharing<<considering the chain of events & revelations>> but she still shared that with Shiv.

On the...NaamKaran's evening she got to know about some boy who was there with Sanchi in family's absence.

Next day...she met payal, warned Saurabh, and got to know about Sanchi's falseness through Psychiatrist...Warned Sanchi.

Next day she shared the info with Shiv, headed to the party venue to Save Sanchi...being in constant touch with Shiv.

What more she could have done???

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 11 years ago

I dont blame anandi.

At each time, if anandi tells something then also she gets a firing.

If anandi doesnt tell something then also she gets a firing.

It's hard to know what to do with the shekhars - really they have no consistency.

Yes, she does have jagat maata tendencies but i still feel it is hard to know how to navigate in this mess with ira and saanchi.

That being said - I am surprised at the shekhars and their willingness to just let saanchi while away time sitting at home.

She has an MBA - she doesnt want to work. They don't try to guide her to work.

She has a lot of potential marriage prospects from good families - but they dont try to guide her to marriage with a decent boy. So she has no home affairs to keep her engaged.

Even if she sits at home and remains unmarried too - that too is okay, but she doesn't have any creative hobbies - like choti mom and ira engage in some form of embroidery or cooking or social work at the hospital or donations to the orphanage etc. Mahi too wasn't formally working but he did have his cricket camps and his tournaments etc. so he too was occupied with something.

I'm not talking about working for money or to earn. But I am talking about working to keep oneself occupied. It's a joy to set goals for oneself. and to achieve them slowly. It's a joy to get a sense of self-efficacy. It's a joy to be a contributor to something (whether work or home or family). It gives one a sense of value - giving value to something and being valued.

I feel that ira and alok just let her sit there without any long term goals on any front of her life.

I know that it's not possible to compel someone to do something against their will...but still...I think ira and alok's hands off approach is extreme.

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g.sreedurga

@g.sreedurga

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Posted: 11 years ago

Everyone in the shekhar family has lost belief on sanchi...!they were completely hurt n vexed of their daughter's behaviour...At such a stage,If anandi tells that she is acting again,would they ever be able to smile again?Instead,according to sanchi's mentality,she would have repelled against family especially anandi and would have taken some extreme step for sure!!U may ask me "which happened now is not extreme?"But that was not anandi's mistake...she just had 3 days with her..!she took one or the other step everyday...she didn't leave any stone unturned to solve the problem!!How can that bechari know that its gonna happen like this?I feel that if anandi had revealed that sanchi is pretending,then whole family used to be overrr angry with sanchi and sanchi would have repelled...directly try to go along with saurabh somewhere to marry him..he agrees,takes her somewhere n do the same thing!!then what would be shekhar's state?then they will feel sadder than this!!u may ask me how can u surely tell that this would have happened!sanchi is rebellant by nature...so if some one stops her from something which she likes to do,she would do it in any way:wrong or right...!!so I'm sure she would herself take an extreme step with saurabh naming it love...something as i mentioned above!Anandi also told the same to shiv...that he shouldn't take any severe action on saurabh...then sanchi completely moves away from family n goes closer to him thereby giving him a great chance to misuse her!So anandi wanted to show saurabh's real colour to sanchi practically...but before this if saurabh gets too fast n protective...thats definetely not anandi's mistake!!

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SPuja

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: wanderer
I am a frequent reader here but I don't post. Today I couldn't hold myself back. When Anandi came to know of Sanchi and Saurabh, wasn't it her duty to inform the mother? Is she Sanchi's mother? A mother has every right to interfere in her wayward child's life because she is ultimately ready to take the responsibility. Also it will be the mother who who will be pained most by her child's trauma,whatever it may be. Then why didn't Anandi inform Ira in time? Why wait till the last moment to step in and save Sanchi? What did she want? Gratitude? priases? What?
moreover, a girl like Sanchi can get into any trouble any time. There is no fixed time for it. So faster the action, sooner will she be saved, right? Even after learning that Sanchi had lied and gone to a kind of rave party, she kept mum and wanted to save Sanchi all on her own. Is this even possible in Indian househols? Are daughter-in-laws given so much authority? I mean it was headless insolence on her part. And now when Sanchi has been violated, what is Anandi going to do about it? Is she really going to feel bad? Yes she may, but she will get over it when something interesting occurs in her own life like Amol coming first in the class. Even Sanchi may, after sometime, but it will be impossible for any mother to overcome this. Till the last day of her life Ira may not sleep peacefully, but will have nightmares. What is Anandi going to do about this? Prescribe some sleeping pills or a visit to a shrink? And then what about the side-effects? What is Anandi going to do about them?

What I mean to say that Anandi has time and again behaved irresponsibly, and tried to be in bigger boots than what fit her feet. I am not saying that if she had informed Ira, nothing of this would have happened. It would have, in all probability. But then, Ira herself would have been responsible of trusting Sanchi too much. It would have eased out her pain in long run. But now she may wonder all her life, if at all she would have known, would she have been able to avoid this entire thing. Because even if Saurabh is hanged after this, things will not be as they were before. After this level of trauma, life can never be the same again. It leaves behind scars, that come to hurt you from time to time.

How can anyone blame Anandi for whatever happened to Sanchi? What could Anandi do- at the most she could have informed Ira that Sanchi is not attending her counselling and is going to parties - for counselling she had proof but what about Sanchi's friend cirlce? Ira would not have believed Anandi like earlier. Sanchi is to be blamed for her irresponsible behaviour, not listening to her elders, pretending to be changing and attending counselling etc. and only Saurabh is to be blamed for the rape.

@bold - please do not make it like there is no life after rape. There are so many survivors - Sanchi should be counselled to forget it like a bad incident (she has to go through much trauma till court case is finished and Saurabh is punished).

Edited by SPuja - 11 years ago

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rujub

@rujub

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: wanderer
I am a frequent reader here but I don't post. Today I couldn't hold myself back. When Anandi came to know of Sanchi and Saurabh, wasn't it her duty to inform the mother? Is she Sanchi's mother? A mother has every right to interfere in her wayward child's life because she is ultimately ready to take the responsibility. Also it will be the mother who who will be pained most by her child's trauma,whatever it may be. Then why didn't Anandi inform Ira in time? Why wait till the last moment to step in and save Sanchi? What did she want? Gratitude? priases? What?
moreover, a girl like Sanchi can get into any trouble any time. There is no fixed time for it. So faster the action, sooner will she be saved, right? Even after learning that Sanchi had lied and gone to a kind of rave party, she kept mum and wanted to save Sanchi all on her own. Is this even possible in Indian househols? Are daughter-in-laws given so much authority? I mean it was headless insolence on her part. And now when Sanchi has been violated, what is Anandi going to do about it? Is she really going to feel bad? Yes she may, but she will get over it when something interesting occurs in her own life like Amol coming first in the class. Even Sanchi may, after sometime, but it will be impossible for any mother to overcome this. Till the last day of her life Ira may not sleep peacefully, but will have nightmares. What is Anandi going to do about this? Prescribe some sleeping pills or a visit to a shrink? And then what about the side-effects? What is Anandi going to do about them?

What I mean to say that Anandi has time and again behaved irresponsibly, and tried to be in bigger boots than what fit her feet. I am not saying that if she had informed Ira, nothing of this would have happened. It would have, in all probability. But then, Ira herself would have been responsible of trusting Sanchi too much. It would have eased out her pain in long run. But now she may wonder all her life, if at all she would have known, would she have been able to avoid this entire thing. Because even if Saurabh is hanged after this, things will not be as they were before. After this level of trauma, life can never be the same again. It leaves behind scars, that come to hurt you from time to time.

why should anandi will be blamed i m sry bt i feel bad for sanchi aisa kisi bhi ladki ke sath nahin hona chahiye bt dnt u thnk ki inn sab ke liye saurabh sanchi ke sath sath ira alok r mre responsible thy r such fool nd irresponsible parents ek bar bhi unhone Dr. Priya se bat karana enquiry karna jaruri nahin samja woh kaha jati hain kya karati yeh puchna bhi nahin she tried to kill ganga nd her child nd play wid hr own family once again nd don't forget anandi is nt th first person who knw abt saurabh and sanchi it was MAHI who discovered thm first he shud tell thm nd tht too before so many months...

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Kavita Gupta

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Posted: 11 years ago

Anandi is may not be responsible for whatever happened to Sanchi, but she could hv prevented this.

Anandi knew thru Maali Kaka about Sourabh, and she did warned both Saurabh and Sanchi individually, she also knew that Sanchi is not attending any counseling and she is lying to family again,

She should have informed / alerted Sanchi's parents immediately. Ira would not have let Sanchi goto the party without enquiring about it.

and Anandi did not even altered sanchi's parents when she went to search sanchi.

Anandi did behaved irresponsibly..

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anshurg5

@anshurg5

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Why Anandi should be blamed for what happened to Sanchi? Instead she did every thing in her power to avert the situation. Yes, she has not told Ira about what mali kaka told her coz she coaxed him to tell her the truth about Sa -Sau on the promise of her secrecy. And suppose she has broken that promise considering the seriousness of the situation and told Ira about it what she could have done.She might have scolded and warned her and Sa again would have replied her rudely and Ira would have left her on her own as she did after Badi haveli tamasha.

Problem with KB elders is that they themselves take too less trouble to understand their children, to know about their problem and still lesser efforts to tackle those problems.

Being more experienced than Anandi when Sanchi told Ira that she is going to Payal's place, Why she did not doubt her daughter even for a second though she should have known that Sa could not be friendly with Payal any more after later's exposure of Sa's truth in the court during SaJa break up? As a mother she was not responsible enough in her behaviour towards her wayward daughter.

It was only Anandi who spared time ( though she was happily busy with her son) to inquire with Sanchi about her pajama party, took Payal's help to track her location , kept Shiv in the loop and finally managed to reach the place where Sanchi was lying unconscious. Though she could not save her from that 🤬 devil's brutality still she might saved her from more painful consequences ( more unscrupulous friends of that devil Sau were near by ) of lying there alone unattended and gave her proper medical care.

Yes, I would have preferred if Anandi had taken her Fils with her but that would have made no difference in the end.

Edited by anshurg5 - 11 years ago