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Yesterday epi bought out clearly one of the clear fault lines in Mehbeer relations. It was the fault in the relations of their parents. Unconsciously they tried to carry the same marriage template in their life which flopped to a large extent.
Look at the convo between Kuber and his wife. How disrespectful Kuber is of his wife's choices. As if only his choice matters. Maybe he doesn't like his wife watching serial or he might want to watch news channel. There are better ways of expressing it. And of course he has utter disregard of his son's choice and blames his wife for the same.
And look at Abeer's mother. Yes she is talking to him something in private. But she doesn't take a strong stand for her son in public. If Abeer's mother had stood up for Abeer in front of his dad, that would have been a major confident boost for Abeer. But she hasn't. Yes she took him to study music, but most of the things she did covertly. And maybe she too believed what Kuber wanted out of his son was right. The submissive nature of his mother in his parent's relation have given Abeer a superiority complex and he might have expected the same submissiveness from Meher which she might have been unwilling to give. Hence cracks came in their relation.
Having done with Abeer now let us come to Meher's mother. Another submissive lady. Pati Parameeshwar hota hai. Doesn't matter what nonsense he do. I was completely irritated by her yesterday. Just because she is tolerating her good for nothing husband, why she want to push her ex-son in law to her daughter's room. Yes marriage is sacred, but that doesn't mean that once the divorce has happened the ex-husband has to be treated as husband. Just because she is treating Meher's father as husband, she cant expect or force Meher's ex-husband on to her. After seeing her runaway father and submissive mother, Meher might have wanted more control on her married life. She might have tried to control the vagabound Abeer asking him too many why's and what's. The trust deficit that he might ditch her would have made her a control freak, which Abeer's free will nature was not willing to accept. I really felt sorry for Meher yesterday. The memories that came to her and her pain, her mother had no right to do this to her daughter. And believe me her mother's attitude is just paving the way for Tunnu to become either like Abeer or her father. Because Meher's mother justifies such nonsense behavior from the guys as boys do mistakes.
Just would conclude this post by telling if woman make independent choices when they need to, they not only save themselves but also the future generation. If Abeer's mother had openly supported his passion instead of his father's ego, his mother's sensitivity would have come out in him more which would have made him a better person. If Meher's mother had shut the door on her husband after he ditched her, Meher would have never had the trauma of tolerating a man with trust deficit. She would never had the need to control because she might have learned if certain boundaries are crossed in a relation she has a choice to shut out that relation once and for all. That would have given her more emotional stability and she might have been able to manage her marriage better giving freedom wherever necessary.
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